Here’s a place to connect with other moms-to-be who are trying to conceive.
who else is getting disappointed every month when they discover they are not pregnant?
Been trying for 2 1/2 years 
It’s very frustrating, especially when everyone around us is getting pregnant.
[name]Will[/name] you ever stop trying to “old fashioned way” and see about fertility problems?Im just asking because it seems to common today that couples jump to conclusions right away, myself I have only been trying for a few months, and we are in no hurry, but my cousins tried for a year and immediately went to the doctor when nothing happend…
When I told my doctor I was trying to conceive she said if I hadn’t conceived within the year to come back and see her so I did. She then sent me to a gynocologist (sp?) who did some blood work. All my blood work came back normal so he suggested my husband go see his doctor which he did. 
He has finally finished all his testing and for the most part all is normal and he thinks we should be able to conceive. I now have to go back to the gyno and do some more tests. During all this time we have kept trying without any luck. I’m not going to stop trying but I have had a couple of friends who had problems and wouldn’t have been able to conceive if they hadn’t gone to their doctor. I’d hate to find out there was something I could have fixed and not done anything about it. I think it depends on age as well, I’ll be 33 this year. If I was still in my 20’s I probably wouldn’t worry as much. I just don’t want to wait too long. I’d rather not be 60 when my child is 20.
I wish you all the luck in the world!!!
I just get scared alot because I hear SO many stories or women who are having fertility problems… It makes me nervous because I feel like what if I am doing something now that can prevent me from having a child later on? (such as diet, lifestyle…)
[name]Sarah[/name], I’m not sure why you think your cousin “jumped to conclusions”. Doctors recommend seeking help if you have not conceived after a year of trying. It’s the very definition of infertility by most medical groups.
I meant nothing bad by it, she is 25 and her husband is 26. They are young and extremely healthy. They tried for just under a year and upon not conceiving, immediately decided something was wrong, while there is of course nothing wrong with going to the doctor to see IF something is wrong, it also doesnt mean something IS wrong. I am a nurse and see this all the time, eager couples working themselves in a tizzy when they do not immediately get pregnant, and most of the time they are causing themselves un needed stress, which is the only problem they ahve.
I get so fustrated every month. We have been trying for about 9months now and nothing. I am planning to see my doctor in acouple of months to run some tests. I am 32, we have 1 child already,he willbe 5 in aug.
I blame myself for waiting this long…I have it happen soon…I am going crazy.
Good [name]Luck[/name].
Good luck and dont let the stress get to you!!! I have heard SO many people say that once they stopped trying, or even turned to adoption, they got pregnant right away, because there was no more stress involved!
I find it amusing how everyone always says stop thinking about it and it’ll happen. [name]How[/name] can I stop thinking about it when everyone keeps asking? I try not to think about it but it’s always in the back of my mind. It’s always like, maybe this will be the month.
I wish you all Good [name]Luck[/name] though
Ya, there is no way to NOT think about it, but you cant let the stress get to you, I guess is what they mean.
Hello ladies,
I am also trying to conceive, It is only my second month and I am already freaking out. Are you ladies using the pee stick? Counting the days? Looking for mucus discharge? I am not sure what method to use. I have 2 kids but they were both unplanned. With my daughter I conceived on the pill, I was taking antibiotics and they made the pill less effective. What is worrying me even more is one of my mom friends conceived her daughter accidentally on her wedding night and now has bee trying for about a year and has already had 2 miscarriages.
Merylp, as you have only been trying for two months, I wouldn’t worry just yet. However, if you are unable to conceive after a year, don’t hesitate to go and see a doctor, just as you would if this was your first child - secondary, and even tertiary infertility is fairly common (infertility, temporary or permanent, which sets in after having one or more children), but under-recognised. If your GP tries to use the “But you already have children, so you’re obviously fine” line on you, insist on all the tests you and your partner would be given if you hadn’t already had children. Sometimes not being able to conceive after already having children is unexplained, but there could be a cause which can be treated. Secondary infertility is often not permanent, and as I mentioned earlier, you have not been trying for that long, so don’t worry just yet.
[name]Auburn[/name]
Me and my Husband have been trying to concieve for 8 months this month. Which is…uh so frustrating. I know so much about pregnancy and trying to concieve that i over analyze, which makes it worse. It’s scary to have gone this long, and not concieved, because me and my husband are both young (mid 20’s) so i am affraid that we will not be able to get pregnant, which is devestating to me, because all my life i have only always wanted to be a mom. A few days ago, devin and myself actually decided to stop trying until about this time next year, which makes me sad, but i think i might have a clue to our problem. When i started school last year, i gained a lot of weight in a small period of time. In [name]Jan[/name] i weighed about 115lbs and by [name]May[/name] weight 130lbs and by [name]October[/name] i weighed 155 lbs.
We started tryign to concieve in [name]November[/name]. I gained weight so quickly, that i got stretch marks (very uncommon for someone my age). So between weight gain and sparatic birth control then going off birth control, i’m hoping thats all it is. I know that i freak out when i read things, such as i was looking at urbanoutfitters.com where i rea dthat none fo there bags comply with california’s lead safety laws. I dont even live in california, and i freaked out because i have multiple bags form that store, and lead exposure can cause reproductive health issues. I guess its the worring slight hypocondriac in me?
It was hard to think about every month, because those two days i was late, would get my hope sup, only to be filled with the huge let down of cramps, bloating, and fatigue.
But we decided to wait until i can loose weight (the healthy, work out and diet way, not crash deits), and try to get into more normal cycles (for a while i went from 28-30 long cycles to 34 week cycles back to 30 day cycles). Then hopefully it will happen, and if not…oh boy. I guess we’de be on our way to the fertility doctors. I hope we never have to make it that far.
Wow it felt good to be able to talk about that. It gets very stressfull, and its slightly depressing to know that were not going to be trying anymore…
We’re getting ready to formally TTC in [name]October[/name], but aren’t freaking out if we have an “accident” before then. The only reason we’re holding off is because I want to be able to drink wine and eat raw oysters in San [name]Francisco[/name] on our 10th wedding anniversary (I’m serious!). We really want a kiddo, but kind of have a “eh, if it happens it happens, if it don’t it don’t” attitude, which I hope sticks once we actually start trying. I went off of the pill in February because I wanted to let my body get back to normal for a while before TTC, even though I know you don’t have to do it that early. I’m pretty darn sure I’ve been ovulating every month since [name]April[/name], but I want to test for it now since we’re getting closer and I want to make sure we’re trying at the right time of month. I think I know when I ovulate, but I want to make sure (rather than basing it off of my charts and cm). Any recs for a good ovulation predictor? [name]Do[/name] the urine stick tests work, and if so, do the store brands work (I know Target has a store brand)?
My mom and my sister both have endometriosis (my mom was obviously able to concieve, but my sister cannot), so if nothing happens after a year, I’ll be going in for testing…I don’t think that’s jumping the gun at all.
[name]Hi[/name] all
[name]Just[/name] thought I’d give an update. I got sent to a fertility doctor and she ran a bunch of blood work which all came back normal. I then did a test to check that my tubes weren’t blocked which also came back fine. She is now going to give me some drugs to stimulate my folics and see how many eggs I’m releasing. If it’s too many she’ll take me back off the drugs. I think we’re also going to do something where they take my husband’s semen and inject it directly into the uterus to give it a better chance. I guess we’ll see how it goes. Of course we’re still trying the natural way through all this. I’d much rather conceive that way but since it’s been over 3 years and it still hasn’t happened I’m not overly optimistic.