@namergirl3 [name_m]Just[/name_m] wanted to say I’m thinking of you and your journey. I remember your TTC journey with your first and how hard it was. I hope things work out easier and sooner this time around. I’m sorry you feel discouraged. Sending love and hugs! 
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Did anyone have troubles getting pregnant with your second??
We were not trying and not protecting but now we are trying to conceive and it feels like it was way harder
Any tips or words of encouragement from nameberry mamas
Trying to manifest a boy (we are happy with a healthy baby regardless of gender — but would love to name a boy after a recently deceased loved one)
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When you say “a positive LH surge,” what does that mean? [name_f]Do[/name_f] you mean when the test lines start to become darker over the course of days as you get nearer to ovulating? Is there a jump from the baseline lighter line (my data) or a gradual rise to the darker control line? Rephrasing what sounds like a confusing last question: does the test line grow gradually darker or does it get much darker really fast right before ovulation? I’m not sure if that makes any sense.
Women can have different types of surges. Some are gradual and some are quick. Mine, for example, were normally pretty quick. I could have a lighter one at noon and then get a positive (as dark or darker than the control line) around 4-5pm. Once there’s a positive, ovulation is typically about 12-48hrs away (give or take) so no need to test anymore. I was confirming with BBT as well to make sure I was ovulating (BBT confirms, LH predicts) so that narrowed my window (I normally ovulated the next day after the surge) but if you’ve not had anovulatory problems in the past, it’s likely not an issue. I was doing that only because I have PCOS.
It’s ideal to have sperm already awaiting the egg and the three days leading up to ovulation are considered ideal for that condition, especially O-1 and O-2.
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We didn’t have problems concieving our 2nd, but we’re currently trying for our 3rd, and tbh its the first time we’ve actually ‘tried’ and it is totally frustrating!
I wish I had more words of encouragment. But just wanted to let you know you’re not alone. You’re always welcome to come and vent or share here!
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Thank you 🩷
We are TTC#2. We started officially in [name_m]Jan[/name_m]. I have skipped 2 periods since then just bc of my PCOS. It has been really frustrating tbh.
I have a fertility appt in [name_m]August[/name_m]. Hopefully they can help me out.
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Ugh I’m so sorry! That’s very frustrating. Sending much love and prayers your way
[name_m]Hi[/name_m] everyone! [name_m]Even[/name_m] though I’m no longer in the ttc boat, I wanted to stop in and wish everyone some baby dust and crossed fingers for sticky babies in the near future 
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[name_f]My[/name_f] brother and his wife announced last week that they’re expecting their first! [name_f]My[/name_f] emotions have been all over, but at this point, I’m mostly just excited. [name_f]My[/name_f] husband and I are both the oldest children in our families, and we’ve been together 9.5 years, so I did assume that we would be first to have kids, but that didn’t end up being the case. I think knowing that TTC is imminent for me is helping with this news, as I’m hoping we’re not too far behind. It would be wonderful to have two little cousins born in the same year, but I guess we’ll see what happens!
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That’s wonderful! [name_f]My[/name_f] son and his cousin are really far apart in age, so they don’t have much of a relationship. That’s hard for me because my cousins and I were close in age and saw each other often. Generations are just different, especially these days!
I have a hard time when I hear about pregnancy announcements. If I were in your shoes, I would start making some lovely gifts for the little one (or curating purchases for a nice gift basket if making isn’t your jam). I know you’re not looking for advice, but I couldn’t help myself 
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Congratulations on the nibling @jules95 ! I’ve always wanted my brothers to have kids as well but at this point if someone announced a pregnancy before us I’d have pretty mixed feelings too.
Tomorrow we’ll find out if the first round of hormone injections worked. I’ve been symptom spotting like crazy, interpreting every little change in my body as a good sign. Well, either I’ll be back with good news or I can at least stop that 
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Well we’re back in the waiting phase. Im praying this is our month. If we didnt concieve this month we may be out again until January. We are hoping to travel next summer to see my grandparents (who live on the opposite side of the country and are at the point in life where you might not have a next year) And if we didnt concieve this month that means if we continue to try for the rest of the year, next summer Id either be too pregnant to fly or have a brand new baby, who I would not want to take on a plane. So we’d have to decide between continuing to ttc this year or visiting my grandparents and taking the girls to see their great grandparents.
@Wandarine fingers crossed for you! I hope it all goes well.
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How is everyone doing?
I’m still playing the lovely game of “Is it PMS or early pregnancy symptoms?” over here. Three more days until I’m supposed to test, so four until I actually will test because I’m not doing that at my parents’ place
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Yep, same here. [name_m]Just[/name_m] in the middle of the waiting game.
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OMG same. Once again I am CD 44 and no period. Seriously, this whole year has been so weird. Multiple long cycles in a row. I can’t wait until my obgyn appt next week. I am starting to think there is something wrong.
I took one test about a week ago and it was negative. I am so over negative tests and will just wait it out.
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If you ovulated late, that’s probably the culprit so there’s always a chance until your period or a positive!
Well Im pretty sure Im out again this month. So now Im going to have to decide if I want to continue to ttc this year and miss the chance to go see my grandparents this coming summer or wait until december before ttc again. It’s so frustrating.
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Same here, I’m around 7dpo and will start testing tomorrow. It’s our first month trying… we have until [name_f]January[/name_f] or we’ll do a frozen embryo transfer. I’d love to get pregnant naturally but at least we have 6 embryos left from our previous IVF so that takes a little of the pressure off.
@LibelluleClaire oh sorry you’re in that position. Whatever decision will be right!
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I’ve been taking some time off nameberry for my mental health. We just did our first IVF egg retrieval in [name_f]July[/name_f] and are now waiting for results from the genetic/PGT-A testing of our embryos. I’m so nervous. Whenever we get the results, we’ll hopefully start a FET cycle in [name_f]September[/name_f].
We’ve been doing foster care since [name_f]January[/name_f] and were just given notice yesterday that we are no longer eligible to be foster parents. I was diagnosed with POTS in [name_f]May[/name_f], then diagnosed with an “unspecified cardiac condition” in [name_f]June[/name_f] and had to have exploratory heart surgery. I don’t feel great but nothing has happened that would make me unfit to be a parent by any stretch, and my husband is healthy, but I guess by the letter of the law, both parents have to be “in good health” to qualify. I have to be five years with out any cardiac or POTS episodes plus get clearance from a physician to qualify again, and that seems very unlikely to ever happen. I feel disappointed because it feels like being parents is unachievable in any form 
But we’re staying hopeful for IVF! 
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