Starting a new cycle, and had a few friends announce their pregnancies today. I feel like this is the first time I have actually felt sad at a pregnancy announcement.
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i’ve been struggling with this a lot lately too. sending hugs if you like them 
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We had a missed miscarriage in April, just tested today and got the faintest positive! I’m just praying the hcg continues to go up and we have a healthy baby this time. We are cautiously optimistic. I had pre-eclampsia with my son so really hope it doesn’t come back this time, although statistically it probably will…
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I’ve been very tentative about entering this thread because I feel like I may jinx something, but it sounds like my husband and I are likely going to start trying for our first this fall. I’ve been hoping for this for years, but now that the real TTC is more imminent, I’m excited but also very nervous! I’m going to be setting up a tour for us at a local midwife-led birth center, hopefully next month, and we can get a good idea of the costs associated with their practice then. I’ve been on Nameberry for at least 15 years (under @dancer4life before) and I’ve had name lists for 20 years, so this is actually a little surreal!
Sorry if that was long, I’m just excited. In case anyone is interested/curious, I’m 28 and husband is 29. I’ve loved reading about others’ TTC journeys and I can’t wait for it to be my turn! Good luck to all!
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@jules95 welcome! Its super exciting to be trying!
I have a dr.'s appt. tomorrow, just a well woman exam but Im hoping they will be able to check amd make sure everything looks healthy. Im a little concerned I may have some polyps as I have a vague memory of my last dr. mentioning polyps during my last pregnancy. (I think she said something like ‘oh a polyp, but dont worry it doesnt affect this pregnancy’) and then it was never mentioned or brought up again. B so now Im wondering if maybe I have polyps that will affect my next pregnancy? I dont know. Sometimea I wish they where a little more forthcoming or clearer about the what they find.
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Finally CD1 after a 55 day cycle. I recently upped my Metformin to 1000/day. Hopefully it has an impact soon.
In happier news, my DH came home from the city the other day and said he saw a family with a kid approx 5 and a baby our son’s age (1.5). He said the older kid was playing peek-a-boo with the younger one and they looked very happy. It reminded him, and me, that a “bigger” age gap isn’t the end of the world and happy families come in all shapes, sizes, etc.
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[name_f]My[/name_f] husband always reminds me that his parents probably didn’t intent the 7 year age gap either, and these struggles are just way more common than you’d think.
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So true. [name_f]Do[/name_f] they have a good relationship? [name_f]My[/name_f] DH has one sibling who is 2 years older and then a few that are 15 years or so older. He gets along best with one of the ones that is much older. I have no siblings so I can’t really contribute my experience 
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They do! It was weird missing all of his teen years because we moved away when we were both 18 and BIL was 11, but he’s definitely the one we get along best out of his family 
What convinces me most though is how vehemently DH disagrees when I imply that they had more of a “cool uncle” situation growing up than a typical sibling relationship. A cool uncle does not fight you for the bigger piece of chocolate 
In other news, I got a call from fertility today confirming our appointment. It’s not much but it’s moving forwards!
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In the tww here. Luckily were on vacation this week, so hopefully that will keep me distracted
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oooooo where at? Vacations are always so fun! 
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Ha I wish I could say we were some where exciting but actually we’re just house sitting for my parents while they go on vacation! But it is a whole state away and is likely the only opportunity we’ll get to ‘get away’ until Thanksgiving due to my husband schooling so we’re counting it as vacation.
And before they left my parents built a swing set for my girls and their own play room so they’re loving it.
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Been a bit since I was last on here…just gets a bit discouraging to come back time after time with no positive.
Anyhow, congratulations to those who have gotten positives!
I’m somewhere in the waiting period right now (I refuse to call it my two week wait at this point lol). Not overly optimistic because we were only able to try once, around 2-3 days after I got a positive OPK. Still, even if it doesn’t happen this time, I am hoping that it will happen soon.
Not much else is going on though.
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I had my second appointment at fertility today. [name_f]Glad[/name_f] that it’s moving fast now, trying to take that as a good sign and not think about how that might end up being the second of several hundred 
There was a shadow box in the waiting area with a onesie that read “Made by [logo of the clinic]” and a Thank You note by the parents, explaining how many failed attempts it took them and how they hope this will encourage others to keep trying. [name_m]Just[/name_m] seeing that made me tear up and not in the good sense. I know they always use the most extreme cases as examples to show that there’s hope for almost everyone, but when I see them it always makes me think “now that I’m here, it’s going to take years”.
Anyway, I have daily injections now that will hopefully help me ovulate.
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Thank you for you message. I’ve calmed down a bit since. I guess I’ll never like the vibe of specialized clinics, just being there makes every condition feel Serious with a Capital S. But I’ve managed to get back into the mindset of “every attempt could be the one”. It’s ironic, my first job had a collab with a fertility clinic, and back then I didn’t find the atmosphere there depressing at all. It seemed like the most wholesome workplace in the world.
I’ve done three injections so far (and DH left the room for every one. He just can’t with needles 
) and I think they’re working? I was bleeding nonstop before, but after the second injection it stopped pretty much immediately. I have another appointment on [name_f]Monday[/name_f] with ultrasound to confirm 
Oh man, that sounds awful. It really could be a bunch of things causing this and the uncertainty is always the worst! [name_f]Hope[/name_f] you get some explanation soon!
Help!
I don’t understand ovulation! If you are regularly charting ovulation with a test strip, I understand that you’re ovulating when the test line is a dark as/darker than the control line, but given that information, how do you implement the data to conceive? [name_f]Do[/name_f] you have sex the day of ovulation? Right before that day? I’ve read a bunch of different things and I’m so confused. Some websites say that the best chance of pregnancy is 1-2 days before, while the box says your best chance of pregnancy it to have sex 24 hrs after the rise in lh.
So here’s some helpful info for timing things…
*Ovulation occurs 12-24 hrs. after you’ve had a positive/peak lh test.
*After ovulation occurs your egg is viable for 24-36 hours.
*Sperm can survive inside of you for up to 5 days max.
*statistically speaking the best days to concieve is peak day and ovulation day.
Beyond that it kind of depends on you and your partners body. (Which can be super frustrating when you’re trying to give yourself the best chance you can, because there’s really no way to know some of this info without dr.s help)
Some women’s ph balance isnt as friendly to sperm and they wont survive as long, so its better if you do it closer to ovulation. Some womens anatomy/cm/etc. make it harder to for sperm to reach the egg, so doing it every other day (within your fertile window) ensures that there is enough time for sperm to be in the right place. Some men’s sperm have lower motility which also makes it a little more difficult for them to get where they need to be. Some men have lower sperm count per ejaculation, which sometimes is helped by doing it every other day, other times it improves by abstaining until the day of.
But generally speaking if you do it right around ovulation time you’ve got about as good as a chance as any.
Hope this helps a little bit!
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Thank you!! That was really helpful.
Ovulation tests can vary but you typically ovulate 12-24 hours after your LH first surges. [name_m]Peak[/name_m] further shortens that window to about 8-20hrs. The 3 days leading up to ovulation are typically considered the ideal days for conception, especially because the sperm have to undergo capacitation. So it’s best to try as soon as you see a positive LH.
If tracking LH is stressing you out, the cycle we conceived we were just trying every other day as I had run out of LH strips and didn’t want to order more before we moved and just have something else to pack.
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