Two Babies. Related Families. Same Name?

General Name Discussion
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So, here’s the story:

[name_f]My[/name_f] sister’s sister-in-law (in other words, my brother-in-law’s sister) has a three-year-old son named [name_m]Crew[/name_m].

I [name_u]LOVE[/name_u] that name! Seriously, love it. It’s definitely in my top 10, if not top 5. (I also love the name [name_u]Cruz[/name_u].)

I should mention that I’m a a few years away from having kids, but it’s not incredibly far off in the future. [name_f]My[/name_f] family and brother-in-law’s family are somewhat close, but only spend time together for kids’ birthdays and a few other select holidays (maybe Thanksgiving and Xmas a few times over the 8+ years my sister has been married).

[name_m]Just[/name_m] want to get your opinion on whether or not the kids (mine being hypothetical) are too close to share the same name.

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It’s perfectly okay for (distant) cousins to share a name. The name is a little unusual but it wouldn’t be the end of the world.

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I see nothing wrong if u love that name a decide to use it.

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I would be uncomfortable doing it. I’d fear causing a family fight or anger. I tend to avoid confrontation though and know that if it was me and someone in my family chose the same name I named my child, I’d be upset.

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[name_m]Don[/name_m]'t stress it, chances are by the time you have children you will have new favourites

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You have time to decide and I agree that with time you might have fresher names on your list. Look for names close to [name_m]Crew[/name_m], like [name_u]Cruz[/name_u] or [name_m]Costa[/name_m]. Or consider [name_m]Crew[/name_m] as a middle name. Possibly by the time you have kids you could “honor” the older [name_m]Crew[/name_m] to tie your families closer but I would ask [name_m]SIL[/name_m] first with this option.

[name_f]My[/name_f] [name_m]SIL[/name_m] named her son [name_m]Jack[/name_m] which nixed [name_m]Jax[/name_m] for DH and I. We went back and forth for awhile but we see them for holidays. So disappointing but in the long run I love many names. It sounds like you have a top ten list so you have a few options that could work.

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I don’t see an issue with cousins sharing names. Their [name_m]Crew[/name_m] and your [name_m]Crew[/name_m] aren’t even blood related, are they?

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I agree with southern.maple, it would be different if they were first cousins but they are not even related so I don’t think it really matters at all.

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If you’re a few years from having kids I wouldn’t worry about it, there’s a good chance you’ll have new favorites by then. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if you don’t by then their [name_m]Crew[/name_m] would be what, between 7 and 10? With a big age gap like that and families that only see each other once or twice a year I don’t see it being a huge deal.

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Hey, thanks everyone! Appreciate the help! [name_m]Crew[/name_m] isn’t my number one name, so there would definitely be names I’d use before it…and like you have said, I might have newer names by the time I have little ones.

@southern.maple No, they would not be blood related. Would share cousins/aunts and uncles, but not blood related themselves. :wink: