I really love Alannah/Alanna as a first name and always wanted to pair it with the middle name Rose but I also want to honor my late grandmother whose name was Alice
but I have no idea which order to put it, and my partner isn’t very helpful lol
I’m not sure if it should be
Alannah Rose Alice (last name)
or
Alannah Alice Rose (last name)
but then i’m also conflicted because I want my first-born boy to have the name of Aleksander Jeffrey (last name)
So I’m like “If my firstborn girl has middle names, does my firstborn boy have to as well?”
then there’s also my uncle who wants me to give my children, my late grandfathers last name however i don’t even know if I can do that in Australia
Your uncle doesn’t get a say so only consider it if its something you want.
Your children not sharing a last name with at least one of their parents seems like it would be a hassle on paperwork and need explaining a lot and I think that’s a really weird way of honoring your grandfather. If you want to honor him I’d recommend doing it somewhere in the middle, which could be adding his last name as second middle but giving your kids his last name as their last name if it isn’t also your last name is definitely strange.
While I would usually lean towards siblings have the same number of middle names, I think in your case its not necessary since [name_f]Rose[/name_f] [name_f]Alice[/name_f] and [name_m]Jeffery[/name_m] are the same number of syllables they feel the same length.
I think [name_f]Alanna[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f] [name_f]Alice[/name_f] flows the best to avoid back to back A sounds blending together.
That’s what I was thinking. Also, Jeffrey was my grandfather’s name, so I believe that is how I would honor him.
Honestly, I think my uncle only said it because he knew how close I was to my Pa (his dad). The other reason was because my mum has two other siblings, and out of the four of them, she was the only one to have a child; he “didn’t want the last name to die out with him and his siblings,” as my mum changed her name when she married my dad.
[name_f]Alannah[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f] [name_f]Alice[/name_f] is really pretty! Elegant and lovely. Also, if you ever want a creative nickname, [name_u]Ara[/name_u] would be cute!
I don’t think you’d need to give your son two middles, if there isn’t one you want to use. You could consider if there’s another you like or if there’s anyone you want to honour, but if there’s not, it’s totally fine as it is
Unless you want to use your grandfather’s last name, it’s not your uncle’s decision. You could consider it as a second middle name? That would solve the issue of your daughter having more middles than your son
Thank you; [name_u]Ara[/name_u], as a nickname, is very creative and pretty.
No, there really isn’t; I chose [name_f]Rose[/name_f] because not only is it pretty and elegant, but it also has personal meaning.
I thought about it for a long time, but to me it would just seem odd if (a) child/children have a different last name than one (or both) parent(s) especially if my last name is what it is, then my partner’s last name is different, and then our kids have a different last name again, I can just see us explaining that constantly.
If my first two children have my grandfather’s last name, then my other kids would have to as well, and for the reasons above, it just seems odd to me, and it also seems like maybe one step too far.
I also thought about that but i don’t know as his last name was Troon
So my child’s initials would then be AJTM and that just reminds me of American Journal of Translational Medicine lol
thank you again
I prefer [name_f]Alannah[/name_f] [name_f]Alice[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f]. With [name_f]Alannah[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f] [name_f]Alice[/name_f] I feel like I stop a bit between [name_f]Rose[/name_f] and [name_f]Alice[/name_f], rather than saying it all in one breath.
On Alannah: It’s a tough choice, both versions are beautiful in their own right, but I think I prefer Alannah Alice Rose more. It flows just a bit better than Alannah Rose Alice. As the pp said, I feel like I stop when I say the names together, whereas Alanna Alice Rose comes out in one breath.
On Aleksander: I don’t think a second middle name is absolutely necessary, especially if you’re not feeling any. Having the perfect combo for the individual is better than slapping a 3rd name in just because your daughter happens to have 2 middles. Just Jeffrey works as a way to honor your grandfather, although I do think Aleksander Jeffrey Troon [Surname] is incredibly handsome and not many people are gonna pick up on the initials being the same as the American Journal of Translational Medicine, so I think you’re safe there lol.
On last names: I think if you wanna use it, your grandfather’s last name being a second middle name for your son is the way to go. Having the family unit all have the same surname is best. Having the kids have a totally different last name from BOTH their parents is just odd.
@GothixxQueen using your grandfather’s surname doesn’t seem like something you want to do then, so I don’t think it’s necessary or right for you to do! And since there isn’t another name you want to use or honour, I think it’s totally fine not to use it
[name_f]Alannah[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f] [name_f]Alice[/name_f]. I think the flow is a bit better. I don’t think you would have to give your children the same amount of middle names, or one has a middle name and the other doesn’t. I know people who have a middle name but their younger siblings don’t.
