I like [name]Rowan[/name], tho prefer it for boys.
I actually know a [name]Charlene[/name] (spelled like that). She was named to honor her father, [name]Charles[/name]. I don’t think the name bothers her and I’ve certainly never thought about it until this moment.
It is frustrating when your family names don’t offer much… I’m kind of in the same boat- wanted to honor mom, but mom said NO [name]WAY[/name] should a kid have her name… ditto what grandma said.
I say, if it is important to you, the middle spot is a good place to put an honoring name that may or may not be the best sounding. Most likely, your daughter will appreciate the heritage and history of her middle name, rather than a name you chose based on sound alone.
That said, I really like [name]Lyla[/name]/[name]Lilah[/name] [name]Charlene[/name] over [name]Rowan[/name]. Something about [name]Rowan[/name] [name]Charlene[/name] is very mis-matched.