What does your SO think of your name lists?

What did you discover when you first started talking about names with your SO? [name_f]Do[/name_f] your styles match, or do they hate some of your favourites? What names did you have to sadly depart with?

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Oooh I love this! When I first showed my SO my name list it was pretty early on in our relationship and he thought it was a bit odd. Now we’re engaged and TTC and he’s completely into it, regularly contributing and editing our “shortlist”! Nothing could make me happier.

I weirdly get a real thrill when he rules out a name, it’s like ok well that’s out of the question! Unfortunately I only like 10% of the names he suggests, he’s a real name inventor, but when we settle on one it’s the best feeling in the world. He also dislikes “normal” names and has encouraged me to keep names I love that I think are too daring at times! Which has actually pushed me to be a bit more conservative now which is funny.

We haven’t named any real children yet but I think when we do it will be a balance between recognisable and not too popular, which a bit of nature thrown in there. Some of our favourites at the moment are: [name_f]Daisy[/name_f], [name_f]Cordelia[/name_f], [name_f]Ophelia[/name_f] and [name_f]Arabella[/name_f]. Boys names are harder. He is absolutely set on [name_u]Oleander[/name_u] for a boy but honestly I don’t think I can do it! He also loves [name_m]Silas[/name_m] while I love [name_u]Elias[/name_u]. I’m secretly hoping he’ll come round to [name_m]Patrick[/name_m] or [name_m]Theodore[/name_m] when we have an actual baby but right now they’re way too popular and normal for him.

BTW @floatinthesky one of my besties just named her daughter [name_f]Elodie[/name_f] a few weeks ago and it is just PERFECT. Another good friend has a [name_u]Marlow[/name_u] (boy) born in 2018 but I love it on a girl too.

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S/O’s pretty easygoing with names - we both like a pretty broad spectrum of styles but we both seem to be into the 80s vibes and sweet sounding names for girls.

For boys we’re not really on the same page, but we’re both very picky LOL.

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@gabi88 Thanks for sharing! Ahh, I can’t wait to be at that stage! I love your current favourites, [name_f]Ophelia[/name_f] is stunning. I also find boys names much harder than girls, not sure why. I think most people have one that they find easier than the other for some reason! And not that a stranger’s opinion really counts for much, but I also prefer [name_u]Elias[/name_u] to [name_u]Oleander[/name_u] :wink:

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Before we got pregnant with our boys DH and I used to try to think up the wildest, most random names possible. In fact, it started while we were still dating. One time he suggested [name_m]Excalibur[/name_m] :laughing: and that is what led us to [name_m]Arthur[/name_m], who became our firstborn. Lol I’m hoping it doesn’t get as popular in the US as it is in the UK but I love it. :blush:

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[name_f]My[/name_f] partner is not as big a name nerd as I am, but she does like discussing names with me! Especially now that we’re expecting our twins, it seems like not a day goes by that we don’t talk about it. [name_m]Even[/name_m] though we’ve decided what we’re going to name them it’s still fun to consider different options. Our taste in names overlaps a lot which is great, but she is slightly less adventurous than I am - she’s not keen on some of my favorites/guilty pleasures like [name_f]Tulip[/name_f] or [name_u]Sparrow[/name_u], although she thinks they could go in the middle spot.

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Our styles are a tad different, but somehow managed to name our brood together. Each kid was a joint-effort. He generally bent to what I liked best, and I took real considerations of his preferences and sentiments.
I love each of our kids names.

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I thought that we might have some different tastes in names based on our cultural differences, but it turns out I love many spanish names, and he’s just particular about names in general, as in he ultimately likes few that I suggest… oops😊 He is mainly interested in names that mean something to him, i.e. a soccer player he loves , fave characters & family members. I mostly care about the sound of it. he has a quite stunning name himself and would love to have a 3rd (since he is a jr) but I am concerned about the annoying and sometimes inconvenient mix ups that happen when you share the same name as dad. even though he is the one who experiences it, it doesn’t deter him. rather sweet of him I think but I’m not sold on it yet. our most agreed on names are [name_f]Rosa[/name_f], [name_f]Maisie[/name_f], and [name_f]Persephone[/name_f], and somehow, Ichigo for a boy (pronounced EE-chee-go; crazy, I know)

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[name_f]My[/name_f] husband was super easy going when I first let him in on my names lists. In fact so much so, I thought I’d pretty much be able to pick any name for our kids and he’d role with it.
Turns out, once we actually got pregnant and now have a kid to name he DEFINITELY has his opinions about names :joy: fortunately he likes the girl names I’ve put forward but of my long list of boys names there’s only one we agree on! So if it’s a boy, [name_u]Alfie[/name_u] it is :joy:

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I forgot to mention that he has vetoed most names from my list, like [name_f]Violet[/name_f], [name_f]Gemma[/name_f] and [name_u]Halle[/name_u]… while I have vetoed Gohan and [name_m]Goku[/name_m] (dead serious suggestions)

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Haha, sounds like someone is a Dragon Ball fan! [name_f]Violet[/name_f] & [name_u]Halle[/name_u] are stunning.

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We are trying for baby #1 and I always believed my partner would have a very traditional view when it came to names. What I learned:

  1. He really dislikes “old fashioned” names: I love classic ‘old lady’ names ([name_f]Elsie[/name_f], [name_f]Eloise[/name_f], [name_f]Dorothy[/name_f], etc) and he really doesn’t understand the appeal. I have only just won him over with my top girls choice [name_f]Winnie[/name_f] [name_f]Maeve[/name_f].

  2. He is actually a bit more adventurous than I thought: His top choices for a boy are [name_u]Arlo[/name_u] and [name_u]Dexter[/name_u], and he likes [name_f]Bee[/name_f], [name_u]Piper[/name_u], [name_f]Juno[/name_f] and [name_f]Ada[/name_f] for a girl. Didn’t expect this.

  3. He is not a huge fan of gender neutral names: I love [name_u]Hayden[/name_u], [name_u]Parker[/name_u], [name_u]Peyton[/name_u] for a girl and he has vetoed all of these!

  4. He has a really good ear when it comes to name combos. He has come up with some that sound so melodic and lovely. Definitely a skill :joy:

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