There are 4 names we both love which are actually very different from one another and we cannot pick between them for our daughter!
Middle names are already decided but don’t want to reveal on here as it may be too outing were people I know to come across the post and all of the names go with these.
We just don’t know how to choose between them! Equally we feel she looks like she could be any one of them so none have just clicked into place.
How do we choose?
Better than nothing that fits!
Easiest to spell
Easiest to pronounce
[name_m]Favorite[/name_m] initials
Good nicknames
Lack of undesirable nicknames
Let someone else you love make the final pick
Let a stranger make the final pick
Don’t stress youll have a name eventually!
You can follow this criterias, in order
What is the easiest name to spell and write and read? (The first I see usually)
Does the name have a good meaning?
Which of the names is the most timeless OR which of the names works better in every stage of the life of your child?
If still not decided, ask yourself:
What sound and letters I prefer most?
What sounds better with my last name?
Is the name international enough and workable in multiple countries?
Does the name have nicknames I like?
Does this name make any subtle links to anything I like or that matters to me?
Which name has the origin I prefer most? Maybe you prefer Greek mythological names to Celtic names because you love Greek mythology.
What a dilemma! Maybe you could write a list for each noting why you like them for your daughter. Then rank the reasons for how important they are for her. This may bring one into focus - I hope so!
If not, and you are quite a logical thinker, you could assign a numerical value to each reason and the name with the most points wins! E.g.
[name_f]Emma[/name_f]
-familiar (4)
-friendly (2)
-easy to spell (3)
-literary association (1)
Total: 10
[name_f]Kerensa[/name_f]
-connection to Cornwall (5)
-uses K to honour Grandma (6)
Total: 11
[name_u]Dana[/name_u]
-easy to spell (3)
-familiar (4)
Total: 7
[name_f]Kerensa[/name_f] ‘wins’.
I’m not really a logical thinker, so you’d be better at coming up with a points system if you are 
Have you tried calling her by different names and/or writing her name in different contexts to try it out? You could text a partner using her potential names, write her a note for her tenth birthday, customise an item on eBay…
Have you envisaged your daughter at different ages and stages in life? [name_f]Do[/name_f] you lean towards one as she starts school, learns to ride a bike, gets birthday invites, receives birthday gifts from family members, enrols in high school, graduates, gets her driver’s licence?
Good luck 
I would go with what name sounds best with all the names in the family (parents, grandparents, pets, etc) and if all else fails, I’d wait until you meet her, you might say, “oh, she’s definitely a ______” Good luck 
Consider which name YOU would rather carry through life. Consider the image you get from each name, but ALSO the images you know others may get from it (especially if it’s at all controversial). Go up to a coffee counter and place an order, and when they ask for a name, give them the contender. If it feels awkward for you to say it as YOUR name, it’s probably not the one you want to give your kid.
We had relatives who were down to two names, and they tried “calling” them all over the house. “Siena, come down for dinner!” It was then that they realized [name_f]Siena[/name_f] was not “them” at all. They chose [name_u]Delaney[/name_u].
A few ideas:
Good luck 
If there are four names I would try to make two pairs of first and middle so that now you have two names remaining. Maybe one pair will stand out more for you and the other could be saved for a possible future sibling. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if you already have a middle name established it’s still a good exercise to get out of a name block and see these names in a new light without adding more to the mix.
Wait till you have the kid and decide which one fits them.
Finding meaning and connection to names really helped us when we were stuck. Is there a name that either of you feels more personally connected to? [name_f]Imagine[/name_f] telling your ten your old why you chose her name and what it means to you!
I haven’t read through all of the replies yet but so far have seen great advice!
If you truly think you can’t pick then go with the name you have liked the longest or chose first. If the thought of using that name (or any of the names) disappoints you then it’s not the one.
Another option would be to draw one of the final names at random and again if you feel disappointed or hopeful that it’s one of the names in particular then go with that instead.
Good luck choosing!
Most will more than likely have been said already, so count that as a second vote! Congrats on your little girl! 
If you have another child already, ask yourself how the name goes with the sibling. [name_m]Say[/name_m], if you have an [name_f]Emma[/name_f] already, and you like the popular aspect, perhaps you would consider the more popular name of the two. However, if you like the classical aspect, you may want the more timeless of the two. (Such as [name_f]Emma[/name_f] and [name_f]Ava[/name_f] or [name_f]Emma[/name_f] and Sophie.)
[name_f]Do[/name_f] you have a nickname you like, or are nicknames important to you? Names with many nicknames sometimes help as a child grows into her name and finds one that suits, like [name_f]Ella[/name_f] and [name_f]Bess[/name_f] from [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f].
Are you using a more common spelling, or an unconventional? How would you feel if that was your name? [name_m]Easy[/name_m] to pronounce? Those are things to ask yourself! Would you want to be named Izzuhbellah or [name_f]Isabella[/name_f]?
Culture! Is one more culturally tied to your own background? Is religion an important aspect?
[name_f]Hope[/name_f] this helps!
You’ve gotten such great advice already, but I’ll just add one more consideration in case you are still stuck.
[name_f]Do[/name_f] you plan on having more kids? You may pick a name that fits a particular style, but you don’t like any other names in that style. [name_m]Say[/name_m] you have an unusual name, a vintage name, a trendy name, and a nature name. You realize your boy names tend to be vintage or classic, so you go with the vintage name.
In case that didn’t make any sense, here’s an example:
[name_f]Girl[/name_f] list:
Amaranthe (unusual)
[name_f]Edith[/name_f] (vintage)
[name_u]Nova[/name_u] (trendy)
[name_u]Juniper[/name_u] (nature)
[name_m]Boy[/name_m] list:
[name_m]Rupert[/name_m]
[name_m]Peter[/name_m]
[name_m]Reuben[/name_m]
[name_u]Timothy[/name_u]
You find that [name_f]Edith[/name_f] goes best with your boys list and overall style, so she wins (or is at least in the lead!)
Is the baby already born?
If not, take a step back from it for a bit. Try to totally put it out of your mind. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if only for a week or two. Either the answer will eventyally present itself to you somehow, just in the ways the universe works; or, whatever one you more often gravitate to after you come back to the conversation. But you must truly take a mental break first.
Another approach you could take, if time allows, is to spend one week each to dedicate to using one of the names. Walk around with it for a couple days try it out and see how it feels. If you dont want people to know the name then only use it with strangers. [name_u]Or[/name_u] insert it audibly into a conversation or daydream you have with yourself. [name_m]Just[/name_m] so you can have a chance to really hear it. Then the following week switch to using a different name from your list.
Hopefully these ideas or some idea will help guide you to the perfect name. Congratulations !
These are all good suggestions. One I don’t think has been mentioned is to check where each name stands in your state on the most recent social security list by popularity of usage, assuming you want a name that you and your child will not come across being used often.
Lots of great advice already. Another idea would be to try writing each name - first Name, first & last names, & full name with middles. Write them by hand & type them out in a few different fonts.