What Would You Do

My #1 girls choice is [name_f]Georgia[/name_f]. I’m not pregnant and probably won’t be for a few years. My cousin is due with a baby girl in [name_u]March[/name_u] and is naming her [name_f]Georgia[/name_f].

  • no she didn’t know I wanted to use it.
  • it’s a family name.
  • we don’t talk and I haven’t seen her in years (I probably won’t see her again ever honestly).
  • yes I think she will think I “stole” it (even though it’s a family name).

Would you use it anyways or find something else?

If you don’t really see her, I suggest use it anyway! If you still love the name when you have a daughter, and you think she “looks” like a [name_f]Georgia[/name_f], then go for it. I think it would only really be a problem if you and your cousin are close. Besides, she can’t really complain. They’re your family too and you have every right to honour them just as much as your cousin does! So use the name you love and don’t worry about anyone else :slight_smile:

Since you’re not going to have a baby for a few years, you hardly ever see your cousin and it’s a family name I think you’re safe to keep [name_f]Georgia[/name_f] on your list. The girls will be far enough apart it really shouldn’t matter if they have the same first name. I would however try to make sure your [name_f]Georgia[/name_f] combo is different than your cousins.

Use it. The kids will never see each other, and you not only love it, but it is a family name. I see no reason why you shouldn’t. And who cares if she thinks you “stole” it. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if you did, still who cares. haha.

Personally I would probably pick something else. But if you truly never see her and don’t think you ever will I think it’s fair game. Anyway, if I were you I would just try not to worry about it for now. Chances are you will think of something else you love just as much or more by the time you actually have a baby. And you might never have a girl.

I would keep it on your list. If you don’t see your cousin often, I don’t see why it would be an issue. [name_f]Georgia[/name_f] is a beautiful name that you love and it has the added bonus of a family connection.

Unfortunately I think whoever has kids first gets first pick for family names. Unless she knew that you have been planning on it for years. I think you’d have to pick something else. :confused:

I don’t think it matters, for all the reasons you pointed out. It’s a family name, so no one can “claim” it; the kids won’t be the same age; they will rarely (or possibly never) see each other; etc. If you still want to use it in a few years when/if you have a little girl, go for it.

Go for it, I have three cousins called [name_u]James[/name_u]; it’s fine.

Thank you all! I appreciate your opinions. Usually I would take a name off the table if I even knew of anyone with the name but lately the idea of my hypothetical daughter sharing a name with her 2nd cousin doesn’t seem like a big deal. Especially considering they’ll only ever know each other through social media and it’s really important for me to honor this relative.

I’m getting way ahead of myself though! Lol

I’d use it too- but don’t get yourself stuck on it. You said you won’t be TTC for years, so your tastes ay change. You may find another family name to use. You may not have a girl. And hubby may not agree!

NO worries at this point :o)

Use it or a variation with [name_f]Georgia[/name_f] as the nn ([name_f]Georgiana[/name_f] (Geor-jan-a).

Husband’s cousin used [name_m]Nathan[/name_m] two years ago after his Grandfather. We will be using [name_m]Nathaniel[/name_m] nn [name_m]Nathan[/name_m] but we would have used [name_m]Nathan[/name_m]. The cousins would only see each other for very large events once a year.

I have a family who see no problem in using names that are the same or similar.
My Dad is one of 3 [name_m]David[/name_m]'s in his family, named after his uncle and then his first cousin (their mother’s are sisters who lived and raised their children in the same street) is is called [name_m]David[/name_m].
I have cousin’s called [name_u]Jamie[/name_u]-[name_u]Lee[/name_u] & [name_f]Leanna[/name_f] who are brother and sister.
Cousins on the other side called [name_f]Ellie[/name_f], [name_f]Millie[/name_f], [name_f]Mollie[/name_f], Masie, [name_m]Leo[/name_m] & [name_f]Leila[/name_f].
Then our third cousin who is very close to the mother of [name_f]Leila[/name_f] and [name_f]Millie[/name_f], called her new baby girl [name_f]Millie[/name_f].
Which makes me slightly miffed for falling in love with the name [name_f]Amelia[/name_f] which has that nick name.
My point is, and I do have one is, if you love it, choose it.

If its not someone you see or have contact with reguarly and really love it I would still use it! I wouldnt stress too much about it now if you dont plan to become pregnant for a couple years - you may have a boy first or you may change your mind. And if you do have a girl and choose that name enough time will have passed that it really wont be a big deal by then :slight_smile:

I have had a similar problem! My younger cousin is named [name_f]Estella[/name_f] after my great grandmother, and I’d love to use the name one day. But, I only see this cousin maybe once every two years and I figure if I name my daughter just [name_f]Stella[/name_f] it wouldn’t be that big of a deal. I’m still not sure about using [name_f]Stella[/name_f], but for you, I’d use [name_f]Georgia[/name_f], especially if you won’t ever see this person again. Because if you aren’t going to see her again, who really cares what she thinks?

Go ahead and keep it on your list. It is a family name - she didn’t invent it. Your SO may not like it, you might not have a daughter, these are variables that aren’t under your control. If you do use it, make sure the middle name is different. Let’s say her child is [name_f]Georgia[/name_f] [name_f]Anne[/name_f], and you name yours [name_f]Georgia[/name_f] [name_f]Poppy[/name_f] - very different styles of middle name. If [name_m]Little[/name_m] [name_f]Georgia[/name_f] is 5 or 6, she might be excited to have a cousin “named after her” (you don’t have to tell her that she isn’t the reason). If anyone says, “You stole our name!”, point out the other Georgias in the family.

[name_f]Susan[/name_f]

We had this in my family with the name [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] which belonged to a grandmother. There are three cousins (my daughter being one) with [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] as a middle name and one with it as a first, but they never really see each other and it’s a nice tradition to honour someone who was important to the family.