My middle name is not the same as my grandmother’s name but it includes a variant of it that was chosen in part to honor her or it was coincidental and nice that it did, so I would say variants are honoring someone. Not everyone in my family has this, so it’s not like it was a tradition, it was merely considered and chosen above the other names on the list, which was supposed to be [name]Elizabeth[/name]. [name]Elizabeth[/name], as I understand it, was chosen against due to the fact there was a relative my father had a bad association with. Not to not honor exactly, he just disliked the name due to the association.
I also like a variant of my mother’s name and if she chooses to believe it’s an honor, I wouldn’t stop her. I just like the name.
My philosophy is a middle name can be anything. My least favorite are the ones that don’t mean anything to anybody, and also the fussy indecisive kind of middle name or series of middle names because you never think you’re ever having another baby in your whole life and those names would be “wasted” if you don’t use them. They are wasted if you use them all, they are not wasted if you never get to use any of them. But if you’re having more kids, save some of your favorites for them.
I treat a middle name as a very good place to put a special name, my philosophy on the first name is that it’s a tag, a label, a tool. Doesn’t mean it can’t be real nice, but I like short, easy to spell names because they are going to use that every day for the rest of their life, it’s not a beautiful song that stands out in daycare but it serves them their whole life. I think the middle name is better for that. What does the V. stand for? Something original, significant, substantial, personally favored. I like the structure of my own name, short label [name]Karen[/name], secret middle name, longer, prettier, significant sort of. People have to get that out of me. I don’t want them calling me that, I don’t think it’s practical, but I like it there. More than you asked.
Also, if you start honoring people, you might get stuck when someone doesn’t get honored because they aren’t your favorite (but may be your spouse’s especially most favorite) or their name is too ugly.
If you’re not having enough children to honor everyone equally, such as each child has up to 8 grandparents and step-grandparents and according to you and your spouse’s upbringing in these tricky times when divorce means twice as many parents, steps may mean more to you than some of your biological parents. Ok, even 4 is a lot, especially if you have to flip a coin on the first child of who gets honored and who has to wait until next time, if there is a next time, and this is not including extra people like aunts and uncles and dear college friends, with maybe special priority to folks who have died ahead of people who are still alive.
I like honoring people who matter, and I think in the equation, the baby is also a person who matters - honor them with a good name, no matter where it came from.