I have had big problems with everyone around me and am kicking myself. Basically, relatives want to know the name by a certain point. If I say a name, and they actually like it, they get upset if I even mention another name. But my husband is the bigger concern. He has named all our babies until the last one. With our last child, I got very angry with him and told him that he has picked all our names and I just completely blew up at him over this. He was not letting me have any say again. He gave in and said fine, we will name her “[name]Sarah[/name]” then. This is because “[name]Sarah[/name]” was my top pick for several years. “[name]Sarah[/name]” was no longer my top pick. I loved the name for years, but I had been pregnant several times and had had miscarriages and 2 boys during that time. I tried telling my dh that I was not in to that name anymore and I wanted to pick a new name. But he kept calling the baby by [name]Sarah[/name]. Finally, a week to her birth, since he had not been listening to me, I blew up at him and told him that I was vetoing the name and she would not be [name]Sarah[/name] and told him I would not sign the birth certificate. Then he realized I was serious. But, he demanded I pick a name then and there. I threw out one name I liked, but it was not the only one.
So she was born a week later and he immediately called her by that name. I tried telling him I really thought she looked more like this other name. He said no, that I already named her, that this other name was already her name.
It still bothers me, and I was trying to forget it, but the pregnancy test came back positive today.
I used to think it was silly when people refused to tell their baby name. But I resent that I would be forced in to staying with a name I picked five years earlier. Or a name I listed a week before. I don’t think it is that odd to wait until the baby is born and pick a name that fits. Am I the only one who feels this way? Does anyone else get where others expect them to nail down a name well before the baby is born and then refuses to let them go with anything else? I remember more than a month before my first child was born, my mentioning that I was not decided on the name and having others get very upset and insist they needed to know immediately. I cannot believe I am letting this bother me so much. Maybe it is just early pregnancy hormones. But I am scared to even mention what names I might like to anyone, even my husband, because of this.