[name_m]Just[/name_m] wondering when some of y’all told everyone about your pregnancy. I’m only 4 weeks so I know that’s too early to tell anyone, I’ve only told my mom.
I was wanting to tell everyone on [name_u]Christmas[/name_u], but not sure. This is my first pregnancy so I’m nervous.
I would be saying wait until you’ve had your first scan so you know all is okay… but by that time you will be 8 weeks so its up to you on that one x
This is a very personal decision every mama has to make for herself. I personally chose to announce it to my family as soon as I got the BFP. However, I didn’t say anything on social media/to my friends until we confirmed with a blood test. The decision to wait to announce is a perfectly viable one, and in a lot of cases, even the most logical thing to do. But for me, I wanted to have people share that first joyous moment with me. : )
We couldn’t wait to tell anyone and to avoid hurt feelings we told both our immediate families and grandparents at 7 weeks. Some of them knew we were TTC for over a year so we thought they deserved to know. We had 3 or 4 blood tests early on and 2 scans that all showed good news so after that second ultrasound we called everyone up.
It really is a very personal choice though. If we had lost the baby I knew that those we told about the pregnancy would be a great support group. We made the announcement on Facebook at 12 weeks.
It’s a personal decision. I’ve known people to post immediately on Facebook as soon as they found out, but I also know others who waited 3 months.
We chose to tell immediate family at 5 weeks since my parents were planning on visiting us and it was my mom’s birthday, and finding out your going to be a grandma is a pretty awesome present, lol! We didn’t tell everyone else till 10 weeks after hearing the heartbeat.
For our immediate family members we told them at 4/5 weeks. Everyone else we didn’t tell until a little later. I teach at a university and did not tell my students until I had an ultrasound.
I just got my BFP and am likely 3 weeks. So, I’m right there with ya! I think we are going to tell our families around [name_u]Christmas[/name_u] time. And will probably tell friends/social media at 12-14 weeks. But you do whatever you feel comfortable doing, girl! Congratulations!!! 
Well, most people who are closer to me know I was trying to conceive through IVF, so when the positive came on the blood exam, I told my mum and sister over dinner, my sons a few days later and then my employees. The rest I sent an e-card through email and WhatsApp, as I don’t have Twitter, Facebook or whatever.
We didn’t tell anyone other than medical professionals until I was 16 weeks (although I did mention it here since it’s anonymous). I know it’s a long time, but we decided we wanted to wait for the results of the NT scan and blood test to come back.
I didn’t mention it on social media until I was 18 weeks, and that was mostly so everyone knew that everyone knew, and that nobody had to worry about whether they should be keeping it a secret!
It’s a personal decision, so you should do whatever feels right to you and your SO.
We told our parents when I was about 11 weeks, and everyone else when I was 14 or 15 weeks. We found out rather late ourselves, since I was still on the pill and we weren’t planning on having children yet. We also had a lot to deal with around that time, so we waited longer than we would’ve waited in better circumstances.
We found out on my birthday when we were visiting family in our hometown that we were expecting our first. We were three weeks and three days along and told mine and DH’s parents and siblings that day! We plan on announcing to friends around [name_u]Christmas[/name_u] when we’re home to see them and probably on facebook around 8 weeks (so the week after [name_u]Christmas[/name_u]), we are rejoicing in the life that has been given to us even if it’s only for a short time. As Christians, we believe that every life should be celebrated and I feel super convicted that for me personally the only reason I wouldn’t share earlier than the accepted 12 weeks is that my fear of what others will think is guiding me, so we’re trusting God and excited to share his goodness with all earlier than traditionally done! (PS-we’re waiting to share online until our first ultrasound for picture purposes, so the week could very to a little sooner or later depending on what our doctor says)
@mrs.lc that’s a lot how my husband and I feel! It’s nice to see the same perspective! We’ve had our first ultrasound so we’re bursting to tell everyone. Trying to wait until [name_u]Christmas[/name_u] to announce the news, which is only three more weeks so I’ll be 9 weeks by then.
Thank y’all for your advice and responses!
It’s such a personal decision, do whatever feels right to you and your partner.
We told our respective parents at 10 weeks, aftet we had heard the heartbeat, and we waited until 13 weeks to tell everyone else, because we wanted the excitement to be just ours for awhile. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at the end of my first trimester, which is partly why we waited to spread the news.
I didn’t announce my pregnancy because it was not mine, but my surrogate mothers. and that was a dilemma also - how to tell your friends that you went for surrogacy and the baby will be borne by another woman? of course all of them knew about my condition but none of them really expected my decision and I could see that on their faces when I told them that we are expecting a baby from out surro mom.
and we did it in the middle of her pregnancy, on 16 week to be more precise.
I would love to tell my mom on her birthday. It would be so sweet to finally tell her she’s a grandmother for real on her birthday. I doubt that will happen as I haven’t stopped my birth control yet and we probably wouldn’t know by then. (early march birthday) maybe mother’s day would be good…
@sarena_fraize33 did you decide to announce at [name_u]Christmas[/name_u]?
In the past we announced a bit earlier and my parents knew well before anyone else but honoured our wishes and kept it to themselves until we were ready to publicly share.
This pregnancy we felt it was only fair that our oldest child know first. However we waited longer to discuss it because we felt a pregnancy is an eternity for a child to wait. We also wanted to prevent as much as possible being forced to explain a miscarriage to a little one.
We have done 3 rounds of bloodwork and already had 3 ultrasounds (not typical), seen and heard the heartbeat. The OBGYN’s were all very reassuring so we felt confident proceeding with announcing.
So my rule of thumb is to tell anyone that I would not mind knowing if I have a miscarriage. So for us this is a few select family members (mom and sisters, nobody on his side) and close friends who share similar values.
I say similar values because when I miscarried at 5w4d my first pregnancy I had a very close friends that were insensitive and basically thought it was so early that I didn’t really need to be sad about it or it didn’t really count. (I was very, very sad). So with my subsequent 2 pregnancies, I only told friends right away that I knew would be very happy for me and very sad with me if baby miscarried. I just found out about my current pregnancy but I have told a single friend and my mom and sister. Probably won’t tell anyone else until at least I hear the heartbeat.
congratulations! If you have told people I hope it was greeted with joy and excitement! We told our families first, at about 6 weeks along, soon after I found out. (I was also called out both times for not partaking in adult beverages…my family knows me too well!) But waited to tell friends until about 10 weeks along. I ideally would have wanted to wait until the first trimester was over to tell friends/employers, but both times I was so excited and couldn’t hold it in!
We’re currently talking about TTC but for personal reasons, I would prefer to wait until the end of the first trimester to announce anything. A relative of mine was pregnant a couple of years ago, announced it very early, and had a miscarriage, but because my grandmother had dementia, it took a little while for her to remember/realise (she can remember things if it becomes routine or if it’s long term memory for the most part), and I’d like to avoid that scenario.