I’m a little annoyed right now…
My father is Norweigan and [name_m]French[/name_m], though he was born in the United States. My mother however, was born in Spain and is a mix of white (Spanish) and black ([name_f]Haitian[/name_f]/Dominican). Though we don’t know her exact percentages, her father was white and her mother was mostly black/partially Hispanic.
Soooooo, I’m basically a big jumbled mix of everything though I appear like a darker skinned white person with green eyes.
My fiance is primarily Venezuelan. His parents are extremely traditional and were pretty passive aggressive about us naming our first one “[name_u]Finley[/name_u]”. They said it sounded Irish and none of us were Irish, so why would we name him that? His father said it was “misleading” and that people would expect a boy from [name_f]Ireland[/name_f] when they heard the name, and that it didn’t fit a mixed baby!
Now, fast forward to a few days ago. As per tradition, I was running our baby name suggestions by the family. I told everyone that we were thinking [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] [name_f]Margot[/name_f] or [name_f]Kyla[/name_f] [name_f]Adeline[/name_f] Those were the only two names that DH and I could agree on.
Needless to say, the parents were not pleased. They said they sounded “too white”.
This makes me pretty upset! It’s just a name! One name will not change an identity of my child!
We are not going to change our baby’s name just because it doesn’t fit the cookie cutter image of “Traditional Hispanic Girl”.
Has anyone else faced backlash over baby names due to culture? Or due to anything? I would definitely like to include their opinions, but it’s hard 
I’m so sorry you’re experiencing that! I think [name_u]Finley[/name_u], [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u], and [name_f]Kyla[/name_f] are all lovely choices and completely fine for a child of any race. Your family’s reaction is actually somewhat surprising to me- [name_u]Finley[/name_u] does seem quite Irish, but [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] and [name_f]Kyla[/name_f] seem like very standard, American, not super particular to any ethnicity names. I know several Hispanic women named [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u]. I don’t think you should feel pressured into using a name you don’t love. It’s your daughter, and none of the names you’ve chosen would be a burden.
Your in-laws are so wrong! The most important thing is that YOU love your children’s names and I hope you won’t give in to them because your choices are lovely! There are parents that wish to honour their heritage and others that don’t and that’s fine!
I agree with your parents (I don’t say this to hate your children’s names or your choices) but I wouldn’t use Circassian/Lazuri names on my lists if my partner isn’t part of these ethnicities and I don’t think as a Muslim I should give my children Arabic names like many Turkish people my parents did/do. I would give my child a Turkish name or first name atleast because they are Turkish.
Passive aggression is not an appropriate response to learning a beloved family member’s name. They can disapprove all they want, it’s not their decision.
For what it’s worth, my husband’s name is Irish. He has 0% European ancestry.
[name_f]Kyla[/name_f] [name_f]Adeline[/name_f] doesn’t sound “white” to me though I don’t even think of names in that context. [name_m]Per[/name_m] say, [name_u]Finley[/name_u] doesn’t sound “Irish” to me.