as the title says - apologies if this has already been asked on here !
open to everyone, parentberries or those who wish to have children in the future - what are the reasons for that you feel you want / wanted to be a parent ? 
Still a little off from having kids but it’s something I know I’ve wanted since I was a kid. From year 4-6 when I’d go to after school care and vacation care, I loved looking after the little kids and it was rare that I didn’t have a kiddo holding my hand or sitting on my lap. I did mentoring all throughout high school and am becoming a primary teacher. My sister was born when I was just shy of 17 and I’ve virtually been the second parent to her with my mum. That saying ‘you never know love until you have a child’ - it’s so true because it’s a completely different kind, I cried when I first saw her. You hear their little heartbeat and you find out the gender, and get everything ready for them, anxiously waiting for them to come. Then when they’re here, it’s crazy - I hardly remember a time when she wasn’t here and the amount of times my mum and I have said that we don’t know what we’d be doing if we didn’t have her. Watching her grow, develop skills and her little personality shining through and discovering her interests. Seeing that unbridled excitement, even about seemingly mundane things and watching her explore the world. Getting to see her develop into a little person and getting to help her and teach her.
I am very very excited to have children and I’m anxiously waiting for that day!
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To meet this whole brand new little person and to watch them grow right from a baby, to be a part of their lives the whole way through.
To have someone close, more family, to spend lots of time with, a friend for (hopefully) life.
To continue my family line I guess, to teach my children about their ancestors who I loved, to teach my children about the past, to pass on the family interests and knowledge with gardening, science, books.
Snuggles and cuddles and cuteness.
And I guess it’s a bit less deep and meaningful, but maybe also to see what a genetic combo of me and my partner would turn out like, a bit like making babies in [name_m]Sims[/name_m]? 
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Maybe it’s a bit different for me because I never actually wanted children, but got pregnant unplanned with my oldest son. I divorced his father and started a family with my second husband, so I guess these are more reasons for wanting more children than just the one.
- Unconditional love. Not so much getting unconditional love as being able to give it to someone. I felt like I had so much love to give, and the love for your child is a different kind of love, you can’t compare it to anything. I’m not going to say I love my children more than my husband, but I certainly love them in a different way
- I find this one a little hard to explain, but: “creating” this little human with both mine and my husband’s genes, and seeing what I recognize of myself in them, and what they got from my husband is such an amazing experience
- Watching them grow, getting to know them, and helping them develop, discover what they love and what they’re good at. It’s just the best thing I ever did
- Seeing my husband become a father. I’ve loved him with all my heart since we got together, but seeing him with our children, being such an amazing father, has taken my love for him to another level
- Also hormones, I guess
[name_f]Baby[/name_f] fever, my biological clock, whatever you want to call it - Being able to pass on my heritage to someone - my love for my Nordic culture, my (father’s side of the) family…
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Its definitely something hard to put in words.
For me it started with this desire to give & love. Its such an amazing process to create a human with someone you love and have them be both part you and part them.
Then once they’re here its amazing to meet them and see who they are. Its like continually unwrapping a present! Except for its not a present you get to keep, its like you bought a present for your favorite person, and you know its an amazing present, but you dont actually know what it is and you get to discover it together. Thats what it feels like raising little people.
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I’m a teen, and I’ve always wanted to have kids. I’ve always been “in charge” of my four younger cousins and little sister when my older cousins were off partying (very often) and I loved most of it. I love having that little person who looks up to you, wants to know how your feeling, truly loves and admires you. But there were days where they wouldn’t listen. That was hard. I would tell them not to use my card to buy lollies, but they would do it anyways. I couldn’t tell my parents or their parents or any adult because they would partially blame me for not being in control, and maybe even think that it was my doing and I was trying to cover it up.
If I had my own kids, these times would feel better as these little people carried my genetics. I would love every day with them, not just the good ones. I would want to spend my time looking after them, instead of just being a free babysitter for my grandparents and aunts and uncles and parents. This is what I really want. I want to see them grow, and know that they have quite literally grown inside me as well. i want that excitement of eagerly awaiting them and counting down the days.
I’ve always had a massive family. On my mum’s side alone, I have close to 25 cousins (if you include my second cousins, who I’m really close with as they are almost exactly my age) and I really love those busy dinners and occasions and holidays with them and memories of playing together and knowing that all these people are mine. I want to continue this, and have my kids experience that feeling. I want the family to continue to expand, and I want to have three or four kids to ensure that it happens.
That’s why I want kids.
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Ever since I was a young kid I was definitely a nurturer, my favorite thing to play with was baby dolls. I would homeschool my stuffed animals using my homework. I was the oldest child and babysat a lot of the time. I worked with animals as a young adult as I love nurturing animals as well 
for me, it’s just part of my soul. It’s really all I’ve ever been drawn to do. I have a 16 month old son and i’m currently pregnant with baby #2 and if money were no object and health was no concern i’d probably have as many babies as I could! It helps that I don’t feel like i’m missing out on anything, since kids do take up a lot of time and do require some personal sacrifice. It feels like my job and my hobby and my passion all rolled into one!
So far it has been the most rewarding experience I have ever had! I’ve never felt so much unconditional love, or been so excited to see him succeed at something we have been working on together. I’ve never been a more driven teacher. It’s so exciting to see his personality blossom and watch every milestone. He impresses me every single day!
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