Worse names for a sibset from Eastern Europe.

Name Advice
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A family came forward for the first sib set and now we have another. Those names were cake compared to these.

I have some least favorite names in any culture - and these are them.:cry:

For girls - [name]Mildred[/name], [name]Bertha[/name], [name]Eunice[/name], [name]Marge[/name], [name]Gertrude[/name] and [name]Olga[/name]. The girl’s name is [name]Olga[/name].

For boys [name]Floyd[/name], [name]Cloyd[/name], [name]Elmer[/name], [name]Dwight[/name], [name]Norman[/name] and [name]Oleg[/name]. His name is [name]Oleg[/name].

I don’t really love any names beginning with an O. [name]Olivia[/name] is tired to my ears as is [name]Oliver[/name]. Never was much of a fan of the wildly popular [name]Olivia[/name] anyway. And now it’s more popular than either of my children’s names ever were - [name]Connor[/name] and [name]Chelsea[/name] never reached number one on any list.

So now there are two to be named that must - to me - sound good together. This time is worse than the last and 2 makes it more difficult than three.

Does anyone have the patients to help me this time around?

Oh even in their homeland hardly anyone under 60 is named [name]Oleg[/name]. [name]Olga[/name] is getting rare also.

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I don’t understand the question? Alternative names for [name]Olga[/name] & [name]Oleg[/name] that travel well in Eastern Europe & ‘go’ with [name]Conner[/name] & [name]Chelsea[/name]?

[name]Olga[/name] nicknames as [name]Olya[/name] or [name]Olia[/name] in Russian so something like [name]Holly[/name] would probably feel familiar enough. Maybe even [name]Dahlia[/name].

[name]Oleg[/name] could easily become [name]Alec[/name] or maybe [name]Alex[/name]/[name]Alexander[/name]?

I think [name]Holly[/name] & [name]Alec[/name] match up pretty well with the sibset & sound enough like an American pronunciation of the original names.

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My husband is Russian so message me if you have any specific questions

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Their names are [name]Olga[/name] and [name]Oleg[/name]. Period. [name]Don[/name]'t like it? Well, honestly…too bad. And I’m saying this as a prospective adoptive parent. You love your kids; their names shouldn’t matter. They’re already going to be losing their language, their homeland, their friends, their customs, everything and everyone they’ve ever loved. It’s just sadistic to take their names as well.

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I grew up with a girl adopted as a baby from overseas whose parents chose to keep the name she was born with, but add a little to it, so her name reflected both her biological heritage and her new family. I agree with augusta_lee: adopted kids should keep their names, especially when they’re older and are used to their names. Is there any way you could learn to love the names, as part of the kids’ identities? I actually think [name]Olga[/name] is very sweet, and both names mean holy which is nice, and there’s the sweet nn [name]Ollie[/name] from [name]Oleg[/name] if you really can’t live with it.

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I am not asking for a debate about changing the names of adopted children.

We do ot like those names an they would sound strange with our existing childrens names. e want them to fit in, an like other parenys, we want the joy of giving them their first gift - a name.

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I don’t understand the first post. A family has a sibset and you will have one too? So I am guessing you are having twins? And those names (whose names are those?) are cakes (is that good or bad)?

:confused:

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sheena12 - I see a few problems with your posts. First, you’re assuming that everyone has been following all of your previous posts. I only understood this one because I went back and read an old one of yours. You had the opportunity to adopt a sibset of 3, but that fell through. Now you are adopting a sibset of 2 - a boy and girl. The previous sibset requested American names, but from what I can tell, this one did not. Correct?

I think you need to review your posts before you publish. They have mistakes that make them difficult to read, or make them confusing.

Also, you’re asking for advice, which people are going to give. That advice will include whether or not they think you should change a grown child’s name. You seem to have very strong feelings about names - so strong that you don’t appear open to much feedback. Saying, “I can’t live with a name that starts with V” is not going to win you many friends. No one likes to have their suggestions bashed. You might want to consider a different forum if you don’t like the responses you’re getting here.

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I also don’t really understand the question, but I wanted to say that [name]Olga[/name] is an awesome name! I know a couple beautiful girls who are Spanish speakers with that name. It’s fun!

[name]How[/name] old are the children?

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Yes I see you want the joy of giving them names. But you adopt those children, adoptive children come with a past and their name is part of that. It’s about them, not about you wanting to name them.

You could change [name]Oleg[/name] to [name]Alec[/name], I think that isn’t a huge difference and an [name]Alec[/name] would fit in. So, if it really is about them fitting in and not having weird names in their new country, you should go with that. [name]Olga[/name] could go by [name]Ollie[/name].

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They come with a past that is not so great. And they have a [name]FUTURE[/name]. That will be brighter and free of what ever tragedies plagued their past.

We are not looking for O names, but for names that would fit with our existing children an with their new culture. If children do not want to be adopted by prospective parents in this country. they don’t have to. By this age all of the kids know others who have bee adopted and that most receive an “American” first name. They look forward to it.

What we are looking for are names that will fit in - older adopted children really want this, they are used to being made fun of by school mates for living in the orphanage

Names that will sound good to them and to us - so that rules out any very unusual names, or names that translate into words in their own language.

Our children are [name]Connor[/name] [name]David[/name] and [name]Chelsea[/name] [name]Grace[/name]. We are adopting a sib set of two. The first names will be third names.

We think it’s best that the names blend well and do not sound like random kids - but like a family. Pretty much the way everyone else does. I came here for advice, the way everyone else has.

Teenagers are given advice here for children who the don’t have yet. I would adoption would be taken seriously - as seriously as naming children who don’t yet exist.

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Names for [name]Oleg[/name]:

[name]Owen[/name]
[name]Lucas[/name]
[name]Ivan[/name]
[name]Logan[/name]
[name]Gavin[/name]
[name]Trevor[/name]
[name]Dylan[/name]
[name]Wyatt[/name]
[name]Ian[/name]
[name]Hunter[/name]
[name]Jordan[/name]
[name]Landon[/name]
[name]Bryce[/name]
[name]Carson[/name]
[name]Camden[/name]
[name]Blake[/name]
[name]Grant[/name]
[name]Lachlan[/name]
[name]Rowan[/name]
[name]Griffin[/name]
[name]Gareth[/name]
[name]Declan[/name]
[name]Aidan[/name]
[name]Brennan[/name]
[name]Drew[/name]
[name]Bennett[/name]
[name]Harrison[/name]
[name]Spencer[/name]

Names For [name]Olga[/name]:

[name]Miranda[/name]
[name]Erica[/name]
[name]Bethany[/name]
[name]Natalie[/name]
[name]Shannon[/name]
[name]Megan[/name]
[name]Allison[/name]
[name]Adrienne[/name]
[name]Candace[/name]
[name]Lindsay[/name]
[name]Mallory[/name]
[name]Devon[/name]
[name]Courtney[/name]
[name]Savannah[/name]
[name]Erin[/name]
[name]Caitlin[/name]
[name]Kendall[/name]
[name]Taylor[/name]
[name]Sydney[/name]
[name]Keira[/name]
[name]Arden[/name]
[name]Eden[/name]
[name]Fallon[/name]
[name]Gillian[/name]
[name]Teagan[/name]
[name]Madison[/name]/[name]Addison[/name]
[name]Mackenzie[/name]
[name]Brianna[/name]
[name]Cadence[/name]
[name]Paisley[/name]
[name]Morgan[/name]
[name]Avery[/name]

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Thank you [name]Misha[/name]! Are you Eastern European? I like many of your ideas!

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augusta lee that is a very harsh comment, I know this lady from the first time that she posted on nameberry, and she is a thoughtful, caring lady. I think you owe her an apology.

rollo

PS I have only just found this thread and I have come to it late but I will not accept this kind of remark from an uninformed person posting such comments; that is not the nameberry way.

rollo

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I don’t know much about overseas adoption (or adoption at all for that matter) so I have a few questions. When will you get to see/meet them in person? [name]Do[/name] you know yet if they speak any English? I think, depending on how old they are, they should have a say in name change/be able to help choose their new names. I’m not super great at suggesting good sib sets, which is why I come on here for advice haha, but as far as [name]Mischa[/name]'s suggestions go, I love [name]Gavin[/name], [name]Ian[/name], [name]Miranda[/name], and [name]Fallon[/name]. Out of those, I think [name]Ian[/name] and [name]Miranda[/name] go well together. I don’t find it too I important to match all of the names as a family, because all of your children are individuals first, so I don’t think you need to stress too much about matching. [name]Hope[/name] I helped!

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Your first children have names that begin with the same letter–would you like your new adoptees to have names that also begin with C? I like quite a few of the earlier suggestions.

[name]Chelsea[/name], [name]Connor[/name]:

[name]Claire[/name], [name]Camden[/name]
[name]Caitlin[/name], [name]Corbin[/name]
[name]Calla[/name], [name]Christopher[/name]

Or, are you interested in naming them with a different letter, but choosing the same letter for both of their names?

[name]Chelsea[/name], [name]Connor[/name]:

[name]Danielle[/name], [name]Dylan[/name]
[name]Mallory[/name], [name]Michael[/name]
[name]Rachel[/name], [name]Ryan[/name]
[name]Paige[/name], [name]Patrick[/name]
[name]Lauren[/name], [name]Logan[/name]
[name]Brooke[/name], [name]Brandon[/name]

Other names I think go well with [name]Chelsea[/name] and [name]Connor[/name]:
Girls: [name]Meredith[/name], [name]Lindsay[/name], [name]Allison[/name], [name]Erica[/name], [name]Brianna[/name]
Boys: [name]Landon[/name], [name]Declan[/name], [name]Spencer[/name], [name]Aiden[/name], [name]Drew[/name]

I like that you will be using their birth names in the mn slot. Have you considered making a list of 2-3 names for their other mn and allowing them to choose from that list?

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wow congrats! we were going to adopt our first but ended up using ivf, adoption is such a blessing! So special. I’d let them pick english names themselves.

couldn’t help but look back and see you were adopting from ukraine, have they chanegd their rules? Back when we looked at it you didn’t get a referral before you hit there then you didn’t have long at all from looking at the files to the child/ren being placed, like only a matter of days. I kind of liked their system!

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So from what I understand from what you’ve said, they know (and look forward to) getting new names when they come to [name]America[/name]? If so, if it were me I would let them help chose their new names. They probably haven’t had much decision power in their own lives up til now and I think that would be a great way to welcome them to [name]America[/name] and their family. Since they probably won’t have much knowledge of American names you could make a list of names you like, then let them chose from that maybe?

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I love the idea of letting them pick out their name! Definitely having a nice long list of names you’d like and having the child choose would be so special! Then you could be sure it is something they really like.

Would you mind listing some of your favorites so we can get an idea of your style?

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I’m with amandaberry and tarah_e. Letting them choose their own names is a wonderful idea. I know a few friends who moved from China to Australia at a young age who did exactly that (Charity, Sarah & Sally), to give themselves an English name on top of their Chinese names. It’s worth a try :slight_smile:

Otherwise I wouldn’t stray too far away from their original names. Oleg and Olga remind me of Olek and Ola, which are the Polish pet forms of Aleksander and Aleksandra respectively. So perhaps Oleg could be Alec, Alexander or Alistair or Ola could be Sasha, Alexandra, Alessandra etc - variations of Alexander. I also think Olea would be really pretty for Olga. Amy Adams used it as a middle name for her daughter, and the name itself comes from the genus to which olives belong and, according to nameberry, is the Old Hebrew word for night/moon. Olsen/Olson is also an idea.

Edit: I’m not sure if it’s already been suggested, but another path you could take is names (like Olga and Oleg) that mean holy. Some ideas:
Ariadne/Ariana/Arianne - Neven/Nevin/Nevan - Tanwen (holy fire) - Sancia (sacred)