would the fact that your grandmother hates the name deter u?

So DH and I [name]LOVE[/name] [name]Charlotte[/name]. This morning my grandmother called, whom I have always been close to (she for the most part raised me). She asked me what names we were thinking about. I told her [name]Charlotte[/name], and she said she absolutely hates it :cry: She said she knew several of them growing up, and she didn’t like any of them. She practicaly begged me to reconsider. Wow, I thought that was kind of harsh of her.
I told her, we really, really loved the name. She then suggested that she had been thinking we could use [name]Sarah[/name]. [name]Sarah[/name] is a lovely name, but to me, nothing at all like [name]Charlotte[/name]. I called my mom and then told her my concern with my grandmother, then my mom said she didn’t care for the name either…biut, she said I am sure whatever you decide we will all love, because we will love the baby. They have never been this vocal about any of my children’s names, and we have 8!! I am a bit in shock, and while I still [name]LOVE[/name] the name [name]Charlotte[/name], and am determined to use it, it does make me sad that it is reciving such a poor reception :cry:

Let me be the first to ask - what are the other 8’s names?

They must have good reasons for harboring such resentment towards the name but I don’t think that their opinions should deter you since you love the name so much. I agree with your mother that they will love her no matter what name she has.

[name]Charlotte[/name] is #38 for the top 100 girls names of 2010 and it will probably climb higher on the list for 2011. So obviously a lot of people love the name-- you are not alone!!! =)

Yes, I did see that it is climbing the charts! I was kind of surprised by that. Our other children are:

I know they will learn to love it. I just wish they were more positive from the get go.

[name]Charlotte[/name] is a lovely choice and works a treat with the other children’s names.

There are several nn’s that grandma may like eg [name]Lottie[/name], [name]Charlie[/name], [name]Carly[/name]. I am sure that when baby arrives all talk of not liking the name will disappear and it will be accepted, and why not it is a classic, a well loved vintage name in popular use now.

She will learn to love it. Your grandmother and your mother both had their turn to name their children, and it is your turn now. You and your DH need to pick what you love. Chances are you won’t please everyone 100% with a name, anyway. I agree with maybe finding a nickname grandma can warm up to.

with 8 its a wonder this is your first negative reaction honestly. I wouldn’t take it personally, people lose ALL tact when it comes to telling you what to do with YOUR children. I think [name]Charlotte[/name] goes beautifully with the ones you have and if anyone says anything else, I would politely say,“You asked what name we chose, but we didnt ask for your opinion. If you dont have anything positive to say, please dont say anything.”

oh and I know a lot of people are using charlie for charlotte which i like, but maybe your grandma would like [name]Lotte[/name]…i think it is great and hasnt been heard in a while.

With all due respect to your grandmother…this is not about her and the horrible Charlottes she may have known.

Forgive me for being so blunt, but few things chap my hide as much as people who have to point out that they’ve known a horrible person named the name that you’re considering for your child.

If you love the name [name]Charlotte[/name], then you have every right to name your child that, regardless of what your grandmother says. It is a beautiful name that goes very well with your other children’s names.

[name]Don[/name]'t let your mother and grandmother’s opinions influence your choice of a name for your child. It’s your choice. They had their chance to name babies, and now they should let you decide on a name.
I think the best thing to say to your mom and grandma is, it’s hard enough for my husband and I to think of a name for the baby. If we have to consider third and fourth opinions, we’ll never come up with a name. This is what I told my sister and mother-in-law when they didn’t like the names my husband and I thought of for our babies. It worked!

I wouldn’t let your grandmother or mother or anyone else deter you.
A name is a name and it should be one you love as it is your child and lives with you and you have to call it by that name everyday.
Also, regardless of what your child’s name is, your family will love the child; and if they really hate the name they can choose their own little nicknames to call her by.
If you love it, definitely use it :slight_smile:

Is this Grandma [name]Janette[/name]? Honestly, she may have hated all the [name]Charlotte[/name]'s she knew a while back, but I guarantee she’ll love your daughter - I bet she’ll be liking the name [name]Charlotte[/name] more and more once little [name]Charlotte[/name] [name]Beatrix[/name] [name]Anne[/name] Estrada makes her appearance, right? To share a story I’ve told on here more than a few times, my own grandma absolutely hated the names of two of my cousins when they were born - they are two girls called [name]Spenser[/name] and [name]Sydney[/name] - but last year, she secretly told me that she can’t think of two better names that fit the girls! Now, would she share that positive thought with Spense and [name]Syd[/name]'s parents? Probably not - but that’s just because she likes to be right. Ha!

[name]Lemon[/name] :slight_smile:

[name]Charlotte[/name] is a lovely name, and frankly I can’t think of any negative aspect that someone could point out about it. I have to say I think it was pretty rude of your grandmother to beg you to reconsider naming your daughter a name you absolutely adore–especially because she knew some [name]Charlotte[/name]'s she didn’t really like. That’s a horrible thing to do to your granddaughter. You are the parent, and you get to decide your child’s name–your mother and grandmother already got their chance, and this very personal experience has nothing to do with them. Go with [name]Charlotte[/name] and I’m sure you won’t be disappointed.

Thanks ladies!! WE are going with [name]Charlotte[/name]!!! Now to just decide on the middle name!! In the end after really thinking on it and reading all of your encouraging replies, it doesn’t really matter what she thinks…It is our decision =0) Sure it is hurtful not to have a apositive reaction to a name you love, but I am sure she will learn to love it =0)

I wouldn’t let anyone’s opinions deter me from a name I love. [name]Charlotte[/name] works wonderful with your other babies’ names, I would go with it! I named my son [name]Otis[/name], which no one liked at first, but once he was born, he WAS [name]Otis[/name], and magically, everyone loved it! Follow your heart.