What are your thoughts on giving ALL siblings the same middle name (potentially with a second individual middle?)… I know it’s not the norm but… My only daughters middle is [name_u]Valentine[/name_u] (which holds very special meaning to her father and I. And I just know I will never find another name I love as much in the middle spot or that feels as special. And so I had this thought the other day: why not give all 2 potentially 3 even 4 children the middle name [name_u]Valentine[/name_u] (love it for male and female!!) It would be a little like having a double barreled last name I guess and no middle…Or they could have another individual middle plus [name_u]Valentine[/name_u]. It could be a rally beautiful way to tie then together? Or not? 
what are your honest thoughts?!
The thought of this doesn’t bother me. I actually knew 3 brothers growing up that all had their dad’s name as a middle name. They were Greek so I’m not sure if that’s a tradition in that country or if it’s just their family.
Not a crime, but cringeworthy for sure. I think second middle could help a lot. But your child, your rules, and it’s not something you should be ashamed, since you have a good reason. But definitely with second, different middle.
I think it is fine! Many people give their children more than one middle name and I think it is a nice idea to hold them all together…after all last names will be changed for the girls. I like this idea and I say go for it! [name_u]Valentine[/name_u] is a cute name anyway.
I know a few people who have done this, I only cringe if it’s not a name I prefer.
[name_u]Valentine[/name_u] is a beautiful middle to share I think.
My ancestor did it for her sons. They all had the middle name Ethell. I found it very, very strange at the time but when I worked out why she’d done it, I didn’t mind so much.
I think it’s a great idea I have two sons and they both have the same middle name. They are FN MN [name_m]Joseph[/name_m] LN and if we have a girl she will be FN MN [name_f]Marie[/name_f] LN. It’s a family tradition and I didn’t want it to end. If you really like it go for it. And it has meaning to you so it’ not a frivolous decision.
https://nameberry.com/blog/valentine-names-names-that-link-to-love know someone who all the siblings had the dads name as their middle… they thought it was weird and a bit full of himself.
Personally, I think if you think outside the box and use some creativity you would be able to come up with something that ties them together but isnt exactly the same. Each child is unique, why not give them unique names?
I love the idea of linking children: I’ve done it myself. My daughters mn is [name_f]Rose[/name_f] to honour my great aunt, and my second daughters mn is [name_f]Iris[/name_f] to tie them together because they are both my beautiful flowers, and I love that [name_f]Iris[/name_f] also means rainbow this is special to me as well. If we have a third daughter her mn will be [name_f]Aurora[/name_f] and it ties in bbecause it is also colors in the sky, there is a goddess both named [name_f]Iris[/name_f] and [name_f]Aurora[/name_f], and [name_f]Rose[/name_f] is also a colour! If we have a son, the middle name [name_u]Lawrence[/name_u] is of a river I grew up beside, so it is still a nature name.
Also if you’re open to new experiences and memories… you may find something else you wish to immortalize as your life is lived! Best of luck.
Why not? I’d like to add that I think Valentine is a perfectly lovely middle name!
I know of a couple whose three daughters are all named Mary(for religious and family reasons) with different middle names-they went by their middle names. I guess I wouldn’t do this, but only because I think Mary is a beautiful name that I want my child to actually use.
I’m sorry, I know it’s meaningful to you, but I really hate the idea. If it helps, my mother and her one sister (she has 3) have the same middle name ([name_f]Anne[/name_f]/[name_f]Ann[/name_f]). My mum has always hated that she has to share her middle name with her older sister, and that she got the more dated spelling of [name_f]Ann[/name_f]. She said she feels as though her parents just ran out of names so reused everything (her first middle name is [name_f]Ann[/name_f], second is my nana’s first name).
There’s nothing wrong with it, but it’s a personal pet peeve. Whenever I see a birth announcement (usually it’s the [name_u]London[/name_u] Telegraph ones) that has 2+ siblings sharing a middle name, I actually feel my toes curl. I just feel as though the younger children might take it the way my mum has, and feel as though their name was valued less because their parents just took the older sibling’s middle name and reused it a bunch of times.
[name_m]How[/name_m] about using names connected to [name_u]Valentine[/name_u]? Here’s a list of some romantic girl baby names for you:
[name_f]Adoria[/name_f]
[name_f]Aimee[/name_f]/[name_f]Amy[/name_f]
[name_f]Amanda[/name_f]/[name_f]Amandine[/name_f]
[name_f]Amara[/name_f]
[name_f]Anastasia[/name_f]
[name_f]Angelica[/name_f]
[name_f]Anna[/name_f]
[name_f]Antonia[/name_f]
[name_f]Arabella[/name_f]
[name_f]Artemesia[/name_f]
[name_f]Aurora[/name_f]
[name_f]Bryna[/name_f]
[name_f]Calantha[/name_f]
[name_f]Celestia[/name_f]
[name_f]Cerys[/name_f]
[name_f]Chloe[/name_f]
[name_f]Christabel[/name_f]
[name_u]Clare[/name_u]
[name_f]Cleopatra[/name_f]
[name_f]Davina[/name_f]
[name_f]Dorothea[/name_f]
[name_f]Emma[/name_f]
[name_f]Eowyn[/name_f]
[name_f]Esme[/name_f]
[name_f]Evangelina[/name_f]
[name_f]Ffion[/name_f]
[name_f]Forsythia[/name_f]
[name_f]Gabriella[/name_f]
[name_f]Grainne[/name_f]
[name_f]Imogen[/name_f]
[name_f]Isadora[/name_f]
[name_f]Isolde[/name_f]
[name_f]Juliana[/name_f]
[name_f]Juliet[/name_f]
[name_f]Kenna[/name_f]
[name_f]Kerensa[/name_f]
[name_f]Lara[/name_f]
[name_f]Lilliana[/name_f]
[name_f]Lissa[/name_f]
[name_f]Lucinda[/name_f]
[name_f]Magdalena[/name_f]
[name_f]Maia[/name_f]
[name_f]Mariella[/name_f]
[name_f]Melisande[/name_f]
[name_f]Milena[/name_f]
[name_f]Myfanwy[/name_f]
[name_f]Natalya[/name_f]/[name_f]Natalia[/name_f]
[name_f]Paloma[/name_f]
[name_f]Philomena[/name_f]
[name_f]Phoebe[/name_f]
[name_f]Pippa[/name_f]
[name_f]Priya[/name_f]
[name_f]Rafeala[/name_f]/[name_f]Raphaela[/name_f]
[name_f]Ramona[/name_f]
[name_f]Renata[/name_f]
[name_f]Rose[/name_f]
[name_f]Roxanne[/name_f]
[name_f]Sabrina[/name_f]
[name_f]Savannah[/name_f]
[name_f]Scarlett[/name_f]
[name_f]Seraphina[/name_f]
[name_f]Sophie[/name_f]
[name_f]Tamera[/name_f]
[name_f]Tatiana[/name_f]
[name_f]Tess[/name_f]
[name_f]Vasilisa[/name_f]
[name_f]Venetia[/name_f]
[name_u]Vivian[/name_u]
[name_f]Zarah[/name_f]
There are fewer boys options, but these are my favourites:
[name_m]Callahan[/name_m]
[name_m]Caradoc[/name_m]
[name_u]Connelly[/name_u]
[name_m]Connor[/name_m]
Hopefully I was able to help somewhat, but as others have said, in the end, it’s your baby/babies, not ours.
Edited for privacy.
I don’t think it’s a crime. [name_m]Rob[/name_m] and [name_f]Amber[/name_f] [name_m]Mariano[/name_m] (from Survivor) has 3 daughters who all have [name_f]Rose[/name_f] as a middle name. I think it’s cute, and is something that would “tie” the sisters together, the two Valentines – they could both have 2 Valentine heart necklaces that they could wear. I know two girls who are sisters and both have first names that start with S, and they always buy necklaces and charm bracelets for each-other that has the letter S on them.
I think Valentine is a name of substance and is more interesting than filler names that people usually pick for their child’s middle name.
Hm, I don’t love it, but it’s your call! What if you changed it up just a bit for each child? ie. [name_u]Valentine[/name_u], [name_f]Valerie[/name_f], [name_f]Valentina[/name_f], [name_m]Valentio[/name_m], [name_m]Valeryn[/name_m], [name_m]Valiant[/name_m] - sort of thing. It’s still ties them all together without being identical.
Not something that I’d do personally, but they’re not my kids.
I’d go for it - it’s not unheard of. I think [name_u]Valentine[/name_u] is lovely for both genders and I guess it’s cute for them to share a middle name. Like ‘‘Oh, what’s your middle name?’’ ‘’[name_u]Valentine[/name_u], the same as my brother and sister, my mom just REALLY loved it’'.
Not a crime but not something that I would do. As a name nerd, I would just think it was a wasted opportunity (best) OR a lack of imagination on the part of the parent (worst). I wouldn’t advise it but it’s up to you. If you feel comfortable continuing to give any future children the mn of [name_u]Valentine[/name_u], then it’s obviously something that works for you.
I wouldn’t want to share a mn w/a bunch of siblings, especially not opposite gender siblings. Names should be original for each child–they already share a surname.
I guess I’m an oddball, but I kind of like it, especially with two middle names. My cousins share their mother’s maiden name as a middle. If [name_u]Valentine[/name_u] is meaningful for you I think you should trust your instincts on this issue.
There are cultures where each child bears their father’s name as their middle. It’s an automatic signifier that they’re all “son of/daughter of X.” Barring that kind of cultural precedent, though, I wouldn’t do it. It sounds like the process by which you arrived at [name_u]Valentine[/name_u] for your daughter’s middle was very special indeed, and part of the intimate and unique way we name children. Give yourself some credit-- after enough searching, you might well find many other names with deep, interconnected meanings that will obivously be THE name for your future child(ren).
Also, I know [name_u]Valentine[/name_u] has a long history as a male name, but nowadays I think a boy or adolescent with the middle name [name_u]Valentine[/name_u] would really get it from his peers.