I found out quite recently that my grandmaâs favorite gemstones were opals.
Could I honor her by using [name_f]Opal[/name_f] as a middle name for a daughter or is it an odd way to honor someone that way and should I use her name?
I was thinking [name_f]Lily[/name_f] [name_f]Hope[/name_f] [name_f]Opal[/name_f] or [name_f]Lily[/name_f] [name_f]Opal[/name_f] [name_f]Hope[/name_f] or possibly something else in there such as [name_f]Lily[/name_f] [name_f]Hope[/name_f] [name_f]Eva[/name_f] [name_f]Opal[/name_f], but maybe thatâs too much.
By the way, her name was [name_f]Elsa[/name_f] and like it too, but it never seems to go with any of my favorites with it being a bit serious and traditional whereas my favorites are mostly nature, gemstone, flower related and a bit hippy-ish, I suppose. I like [name_f]Lily[/name_f] [name_f]Aurora[/name_f] [name_f]Elsa[/name_f] but I also really want to use [name_f]Hope[/name_f] and with [name_f]Lily[/name_f] and [name_f]Hope[/name_f] the name just feels a bit heavy.
I think honour names are a very personal thing - itâs all about what you feel reminds you of that person or what that person feels honoured by.
Personally, I would go for it! Itâs a lovely subtle nod to your grandma⌠especially since it was her favourite!!
In my accent, or if I say it quickly/casually, it sounds like âLily Opalope!â I wouldnât go for that because of the flow. However, I do adore Eva Opal. So sweet!
Lily is a lovely name, so I suggest you just consider Lily Opal. Or have another middle name!
Absolutely! Itâs sweet and subtle, and I love that itâs acknowledges something special about the person rather than only her name (which is also a lovely way to honor someone!) [name_f]Opal[/name_f] is gorgeous.
if this were something I only found out about my grandma recently, then obviously opals werenât part of my relationship with my grandma or something I associated heavily (or at all) with her. for me, for my own life, I would consider Song as an honor name for my nana because she was a piano teacher, she taught me piano, she loved music, and her name happens to have a musical connection too. music is part of my relationship with my nana and is something I heavily associate with her, to the point where piano music instantly makes me think of her.
in this case, I wouldnât say that opals instantly make me think of my grandma (at least maybe until recently). so while I love the name [name_f]Opal[/name_f] and I see the connection, it doesnât strike me as an honor
i think that totally works! with an honor, the most important thing is that you feel the connection. if someone told me âone of my daughterâs middle names is opal because they were her great grandmaâs favorite gemâ i would think thatâs really sweet!
i do think that lily hope opal / lily opal hope is really wordy though, and adding eva would be a hassle since two middles can already create problems on forms! i imagine three would be a lot worse.
however, if you really want to use hope, and lily is set as the fn, i would go for it! the wordiness is not that big of a problem irl / in the long run.
I think itâs a perfectly legitimate way to honour - in fact, itâs the kind of honour I like best - it feels more meaningful to take something you knew about someone or something they cared for and allow that to inspire a name, while still giving your child something of their own.
For me, no, it wouldnât be honouring. Mainly because itâs something you found out quite recently rather than something you associate a lot with your grandma.
However, it definitely depends on what youâre going for with the honouring part; do you want it to be obvious to everyone else as well, or are you happy with just you knowing the nod to your grandma?
Thanks, I didnât know about it before because she died when I was young and I remember her and that I loved her but not any details because we didnât have so much time together and a four year old wouldnât remember these things or facts but more the time spent together instead of details.
It doesnât matter to me whether other people will see it.
Itâs because she died when I was young so all facts like that I couldnât remember (I remember spending time together and loving her but not facts-facts such as what her favorite color was or things like that).
I think it works. Of your combos I like [name_f]Lily[/name_f] [name_f]Opal[/name_f] [name_f]Hope[/name_f] best or [name_f]Opal[/name_f] [name_f]Lily[/name_f] [name_f]Hope[/name_f].
I think using [name_f]Opal[/name_f] in your combination would be a beautiful way to honour her! [name_f]Lily[/name_f] [name_f]Opal[/name_f] [name_f]Hope[/name_f] is lovely!
Donât do 3 middle names. [name_m]Just[/name_m] donât do it.
Personally I prefer [name_f]Elsa[/name_f] to anything else, although I agree it doesnât really go with [name_f]Lily[/name_f] as a middle name. [name_f]Opal[/name_f] is a very cool way to honor your grandmother if she actually loved opals (ie her life was significantly connected to opals, or opal had a special private meaning for her, like it was in her wedding ring). It seems slightly arbitrary otherwise- like naming my daughter [name_u]Red[/name_u] and claiming I was honoring her great-grandmother by doing so because her favorite color was red. If you love [name_f]Opal[/name_f] as a middle name (and I agree it fits well with Lily) then use it, by all means, but donât try to pretend youâre honoring your grandmother by doing so.
Sure!! [name_f]My[/name_f] personal opinion is: if it feels like an honor name to you, then it can be an honor name. I plan on using [name_u]Ocean[/name_u] for my momâs love of the [name_u]Ocean[/name_u], [name_u]October[/name_u] for my dadâs birthday and [name_f]Althea[/name_f] to honor my parents through a song, as well as countless other âstretchy honorsâ. It doesnât matter how other people view it. itâs your child and you get the honor of choosing your childâs name so choose something that is meaningful and special to you
[name_f]My[/name_f] daughterâs middle name is [name_f]Azalea[/name_f] because my granny hated her name, but loved flowers and she had humongous azalea bushes in front of her house.
If you consider it a way to honor her, thatâs all that matters.
