Age at first kid?

[name_m]Hi[/name_m] guys,

[name_m]How[/name_m] old were you when you had your first kid? Or how old will you be?

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I’ll be just a few months from 27 when this baby (our first) is born. [name_u]Truth[/name_u] be told, we’d hoped to have been younger than that for our first, but it took over 3 years to conceive. I’d originally hoped to be totally done having kids by 30 but oh well. We are definitely in a better position now to have a baby than we were when we started trying at 22!

Your situation reminds me slightly of my mom and stepfather. He is nearly 16 years older than her and was in his early 40s when my younger sister was born. He already had a grown daughter from a previous marriage but originally felt like he was too old to start over with a newborn. He was still able to be a very involved father, to all of us. He wrestled with us, took us to events, took us camping, played sport with us, and did pretty much everything that fathers a lot younger than him did. [name_m]Even[/name_m] though my younger sister is grown up now, he still has plenty of life left and will be able to walk her down the isle soon.

I guess I mean to show that fatherhood at 40 isn’t the end of the world. It will be your body growing the baby, so there isn’t really a risk there to him. My best advice is to not feel rushed. Periodically evaluate where you are at and see how you feel about trying then. Keep/get yourselves healthy and just enjoy life as you go :slight_smile:

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I was 25 (very nearly 26) and my SO was 25 when [name_f]Hattie[/name_f] was born.

She wasn’t planned but very welcome, we had originally planned to wait until our early thirties but when I found myself pregnant, we decided that her coming along a few years earlier wouldn’t be the end of the world. We both had stable careers and had bought our home.

I think more than anything, feeling that stability before having a child is the most important thing. Whether you’re 16 or 50, I feel like if you have that stability behind you, you’ll be fine! In hindsight, we’re kind of glad we started a bit earlier as well, we’ve always wanted more than one and this means we’ll still be relatively young when they’re teenagers.

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I want to be around 26-28 for my first as I want to be out of uni and be able to support a child. I also doubt my family would support me if I was any younger (which shouldn’t matter, but they already disagree with a lot of non-negotiable parts of my ideal future and I want at least one thing they approve of).

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I was a few months off 26, my husband had just turned 25. I think it’s less about age and more about stability – I was the youngest first time mum in my mother’s group by nearly a decade, but with my husband the longest (we met in high school, had been together for 10 years). We had both been at our jobs for a few years. We wanted kids and wanted to be done with having kids early on. I had my second and (probably) last two weeks after turning 29 and I couldn’t be happier with how the timing has turned out.

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I was 32 when my first was born, and my husband was 40. I just had my third (and last) baby a couple of weeks before I turned 36 and Dh turned 44.

Would I have liked to have been younger? Absolutely, but I was in a bad relationship in my 20s, so I’m definitely glad I didn’t bring a child into the middle of that.

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I was 26 when my son was born. He wasn’t planned at all, and I admit I wasn’t ready for a child at that point in my life. I wasn’t even sure I ever wanted children, and if I did, I’d have waited until I was 30 (which is how old I am now). But everything turned out fine, you adjust I suppose. Looking back my son’s the best thing that ever happened to me, but it wasn’t easy and I’m at such a different point in my life now… A much better point. So in a way I wish I could have waited until now, because this is a much better situation for a child to be in, but of course I love my son to pieces. And if I could do it again, I wouldn’t want children with my ex-husband (Hjörtur’s dad), though I did love him, I still care for him, and our son has got a loving dad, no doubt about that. I guess deep down I just knew my ex husband wasn’t the right father for my children, though he’s a good dad to Hjörtur.

I was 32 years old, I was ready to try at the age of 26 but my hubby wanted to wait a few years. We started trying when I was 29 and we struggled with infertility for 3 years. I definitely wish I was a younger mom, we might even consider having more children if we were younger. (Hubby is now 36.) Not that we’re old by any means but by the time I would feel ready for more I might be closer to 36 or 37… only time will tell!

With my oldest I was 20 and in between my sophomore and junior years at college. I took 2 light semesters after he was born, but graduated right before he turned 3, so while he was certainly unplanned, life worked itself out. [name_u]Baby[/name_u] #2 wasn’t born though until I was 29, which was more the age I’d thought I’d be having #1.

I had just recently turned 29 when my daughter was born. I know a lot of mums who have their 30th very close to their baby’s first birthday!

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My husband and I were both 24.

ETA this is really young to a lot of people, but not young at all where I live. I knew people who already had two when I had my first! People get married really young here, and frequently start having babies quickly.

I had my first when I was 32 (closer to 33) and my second at 35 and a half. A part of me would like a third baby but I don’t want to be around 38/39 when doing so. I’m already pretty tired (I guess all mums are!) and I’m keen to get started on training for my second career.

I was 23 when I found out I was expecting our 1st but turned 24 two months later. This time I was 25 at the time I found out and one month later turned 26. I will half expect to find out I’m pregnant again right before I turn 28! Lol.

My husband and I were both 30 for our first and 33 for our second and last. I’m glad we waited. It worked out well for our family.

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I’ll be a few months past 30 for our first

I’ll have just turned 30 when we have our first, hubby will be 31

I was 34 when I had my first, we got her in just under the wire. That’s a full 10 years older than when my mom had her first. I’m due in Dec with #2, I’ll be 38. My husband is 5 years older than I am. I didn’t plan to have kids this old, but we met when I was in my late 20s, married in my early 30s, wanted to enjoy our marriage for a couple years before trying for #1, then tried for 2 years for #2. I’m still satisfied with our decision not to rush things.

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We are thinking of trying 2020 / 2021, so I’ll be 28 / 29 … maybe older depending on how things go. :slight_smile: Hubby would have one tomorrow if I let him haha, but I don’t feel like I’m there yet.

I was 32 with my first, which turned out to be two at once. I’m 33 now and hoping to have my next (and final) one before 36.

We were both 22 when our first was born, both 24 when our second was born, and I was 26 and husband was 25 when our third was born.

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