I agree with the posters who have expressed disgust with the rude comments. If you’re so dead-set against a girl [name]Felix[/name] that the idea “makes you want to puke”, think twice and be kinder about it! You can always politely say it’s not your style. Didn’t your mama teach you manners?
The more I read the posts the more I actually like the name [name]Felix[/name] for a girl, its spunky and unexpected! It’s not a choice I would make but I think a girl could rock it!
I think it’s hideous on a girl - it is in absolutely NO way feminine.
[name]Felicity[/name] is feminine and has the same roots.
This!!!
It still shocks me how sweet and helpful everyone on Nameberry is, until you suggest a “boy” name for a girl and all of a sudden everyone turns mean and condescending. Not cool.
Anyway… I’m all for gender bending names, and I do agree the sound of [name]Felix[/name] could work for a girl, but I think [name]Felix[/name] is a little too established as a male name. Everyone would assume your daughter was a boy, you would constantly have to correct people and explain. Personally, I like male names that aren’t used very much anymore for girls.
I actually want to get this off my chest. This whole “gender of names” argument is really rubbing me the wrong way. It comes off as very conservative and sexist. I think it’s the parent’s insecurities that is being transferred to the child. [name]Young[/name] children do not care what their friend’s names are, they just play. [name]Just[/name] the other day, I was at a birthday party and a boy and a girl were both named [name]Caelan[/name] ([name]Cailyn[/name], [name]Caylen[/name], whichever spelling) And they thought it was cool they had the same name. It is only an issue if you make it an issue. It’s almost like the gay marriage argument to me, if gay people are allowed to marry it will discredit straight marriage somehow. That, is ridiculous.
But names [name]DO[/name] have genders as do people.
I think the “names are all unisex” argument is frankly ridiculous. [name]William[/name] and [name]Charlotte[/name] are unisex? Really?!
With modern or little heard of names such as [name]Caelan[/name] it matters less,but when the name has been established for one gender and remains well used it does matter. [name]Little[/name] girl [name]Felix[/name] will feel uncomfortable when she goes to school with five other Felixes who are all boys!
I find it interesting that people who have named their children unisex names get so uppity when they read that other people don’t share their own personal tastes.
I mean I don’t like the trend(which isn’t new,I know…but becoming more prevalent) of giving girls boys names.
But there are a few I do see as being genuinely unisex, for example [name]Rowan[/name].
Totally agree with pp re gay marriage. The world won’t end if everyone has equal marriage rights.
I think you can safely ignore all the nasty and rude responses, people who can’t respond with good grace aren’t worth worrying about.
I personally don’t like [name]Felix[/name] for a girl but there are classical boys names that have stood for thousands of years - like [name]Paris[/name] - which have made the crossover so it’s not unreasonable.
I know of a [name]Felicity[/name] nn [name]Felix[/name] - she’s the biggest tomboy and hates how girly her name is, and how all of the nicknames (Fliss, [name]Flick[/name], Liss, Lissy, [name]Fee[/name]) are too girly as well. I think she and a bunch of classmates were finding the opposite gender form of their name one day, [name]Felix[/name] got mentioned and it stuck. I’ve never heard of [name]Felix[/name] as a given name on a girl, though.
Have you been watching Master Chef? [name]One[/name] of the girls on the show is named [name]Felix[/name]! i think that it could work
No parent picks a name for a child that doesn’t have meaning for them or that they don’t like.
I was one of three Jessicas in most years of school and that got old after a while… any name can have baggage if you actually attach that sort of thing to a name. Personally, I don’t, but that’s just me.
Exactly. The first person to use [name]Paris[/name], [name]Jordan[/name], [name]Lauren[/name], etc surely got this horrid treatment too, but you’ve gotta stay true to your heart and choose what you love. Name bullying, especially because of having a name for the “wrong” gender, is really not as big a problem as some make it out to be.
I think this^^ is a big reason people are being @sses right now. [name]Felix[/name] was so long ignored and now it is rapidly gaining popularity. “Vintage” names are so trendy right now. All these mommies and future mommies don’t want to lose their ability to give their little boys the name [name]Felix[/name]. They’re trying their best to keep it away from girls. Pretty childish behavior, if you ask me. Didn’t ya’ll learn to share!?
I,for one, believe that all names can/should be used for both genders. But I’m not one to draw inside of the lines when it comes to gender. I really wish we could all give up the whole genders for names thing. sigh In a perfect world…
But really, think a minute about your post. Girls have it good, just about any name can sound good on a girl once you get used to it. Boys have a harder time with girls names, a flaw in society. We make our boys feel like the need to be strong/masculine so of course we can’t use “girls” names for them!
Seriously people, we could use whatever names we wanted if we didn’t try to make girls girly and boys masculine!
Society tries to stuff us into little labeled boxes and that is what defines if a name is girl’s or boy’s. [name]Don[/name]'t you see that so many feminine boys and tomgirls would be so much happier if names could all be unisex, if they didn’t have to live in little labeled box?
I am all for using established boys names on girls and established girls names on boys. We need to fix our world and this is how to start!
Addressing your first line, I pray I live to see the day when that happens and vice versa too!
Another selfish child.
I need to point something out here. See how this poster feels that she needs to protect names from another gender? Is this not sickening? I thought we were moving past sexism.
Stop hoarding for certain genders. There are so many names in the world, find a different one. Or better yet, drop your ideas of names having genders.
You’re right, as a baby it would be tough. Dress her all in pink and/or give use a girly pet name. I’m a fan of adding bee to names. Like Felixabee. [name]Just[/name] as a girly pet name until she’s older.
I wish I could say “just tell people you’re waiting until your baby is older and can decide for themselves how the feel (boy or girl).” I wish the world would accept that. I wish parents could wait and see who their child thinks they are. I think there are a lot more people in this world who are not standard male or female. We just don’t have the environment for our/our children’s true nature to shine through and be accepted.
This^^
In a perfect world all names would be. Unisex, that is. If you have ever actually heard that which you put in quotes it was just someone trying to push society faster towards this.
If you’re still reading original poster, please take this^^ and others to heart! I really hope you did decide to name your girl [name]Felix[/name]!
Let me tell you a story. Before I was born, my mom had all these wonderful names picked out for me. [name]Eli[/name] or [name]Forrest[/name] if I were a boy, [name]Winona[/name] [name]Rain[/name] or [name]Indigo[/name] [name]Rain[/name] if I were a girl. She was a little ahead of her time, these names wouldn’t become popular or even well-know for another several, maybe 10+ years (except for [name]Forrest[/name] maybe).
She particularly loved the name [name]Indigo[/name] and believed I was a girl, so this was the top choice. A couple weeks before I was born, she told her mother-in-law. And the b1tch laughed at her.
My mom didn’t stay strong, didn’t go with what she loved and was dear to her heart. When I was born, the crabby nurses told her she couldn’t leave the hospital until she named me (a big, fat lie) so my parents had to think of something. My mom wasn’t brave enough to stick to [name]Indigo[/name], so I got [name]Elizabeth[/name]. She (and I) both regret it. My family used [name]Indigo[/name] at home since I was about 7, but it took me years and years of hell to get my extended family to use it.
Now I have had it added as a middle name so that I am free to use it without getting bothered about it. [name]Elizabeth[/name] is still part of me, but [name]Indigo[/name] is my name.
So what I am saying is, don’t let people deter you. You’ll regret it if you let someone decide what your baby isn’t going to be named. And if you’ve already named your girl something else, consider putting [name]Felix[/name] in as an additional middle name. I think it’s free or cheap for kids under 2-3 to have a name added. Wish mom had known she could do that for me…
Good for her! I like to see kids taking charge and breaking holes in their little labeled boxes! I’ve often thought of using [name]Eli[/name] for my name ([name]Elizabeth[/name]). It would fit me well and has the added bonus of being a name my mom would have used had I been born with different arrangements!
If she ever decides to go for something in between (although I love [name]Felix[/name]!), ask her about City as a NN. I think it’s nice and gender neutral.
And for anyone out there who says [name]Felix[/name] is “too well established as a boys name”, what about [name]Eliot[/name]? That is now a girls name! Anything goes, I say.
To the original poster …I. like [name]Felix[/name] for a girl…it could totally work ignore th the haters…to rowan grreneyes…thank you for being compassionate and reasonable I [name]LOVE[/name] the name [name]Rowan[/name] for a girl so *bump it
[name]Felix[/name] is a boys name but girls have boys names all the time and it is also still acceptable to name your sons things like [name]Taylor[/name] [name]Madison[/name] and [name]Morgan[/name] so back off haters let’s try to be nice to eachother…I highly doubt there would be 5 felixs in any class…come on…
@izzy.indigo: wow, I am a huge huge huge believer in equal rights, especially gay marriage, and none of these thoughts have ever crossed my mind about names! I have to say I’m very glad I came back to this thread and got to read your post! It is actually making me think twice about names I have crossed off my list because they were “too this or too that.” Thank you for the enlightenment, and also to the other posters who stayed positive and weren’t downright rude!,
Sorry, I’m not a fan of [name]Felix[/name] on a girl.
Never thought about it before but it kinda appeals to me if you use a more feminine middle. I wouldn’t use it myself but then again I love [name]Jasper[/name] on a girl and everyone hates that. If your feeling brave go for it or like other people have said use something like [name]Felicity[/name] and use [name]Felix[/name] as a nn.
Why in a perfect world would all names be unisex?
Is it feminism that pushes people towards it?
Why is it that people post these questions and then others who dislike or disagree are wrong or somehow holding the human race back?
In what way will having all names as unisex change the fact that there are gender differences? Biological rather than societal I mean.
Does that mean we should raise our children as “gender neutral” until they choose themselves?
This thread was gotten way out of hand. So some people don’t like the idea and some were a little rude about it? Plenty of people said they liked it. What does that tell us…oh that people have different opinions and you can’t please everyone. That is pretty much all.
While I don’t really see it for a girl, I guess it’s something that could catch on for girls, and I can imagine myself warming to it eventually. In which case, I would end up preferring it for a girl, because then it would just be totally unique and cool (not just the old name Felix for a boy, which, for me, initially brings to mind Felix the Cat). It’s in the similar vein of Diane Keaton’s daughter, Dexter…both masculine-sounding names with x.
I have to agree here to an extent.
Women are not men and men are not women. Does that mean we are not equal? NO - it means I recognize that fact that we have differences. It does NOT mean that I do not think everyone, no matter what, should be equal, I’m a HUGE civil right’s advocate - I just think that turning a blind eye to the fact that there ARE differences between men and women is ridiculous and a little ignorant.
This being said - the whole double standard behind the “unisex” name movement is what gets me. If we’re all for equality, then why aren’t feminine names being used for boys? If you name your daughter [name]Felix[/name], why can;t you name your son [name]Victoria[/name]? Too feminine? That’s what I thought 
A lot of things would make this world perfect. Genderless names would be one thing that would set off others, ultimately changing society for the better.
I never said anyone should raise there children that way, just that I wish we could. It seems pretty much impossible in the world we live in and I wish it wasn’t. Anyway, this is straying from the topic. I just want to say that if names didn’t have feminine and masculine connotations children wouldn’t grow up so bound to gender. I realize there are going to be men and women and masculine people and feminine people, but I don’t think it’s quite right for us to stick feminine names on babies that are born “girls” and masculine names on babies that are born “boys”. If names were genderless and children were brought up doing what they love (don’t discourage a boy from playing with dolls and that sort of thing) people would end up being able to be themselves, whoever that may be.
No one is turning blind eyes here.
You can. The problem is not that it is too feminine, it is that boys are brought up to think that the have to be manly and masculine. Boys pick on each other a lot more. Well, more is debatable, but still, it is hard for a boy to not have a masculine name. Why? Not because the feminine name is too feminine, but because the boy (or at least his friends) are raised in a society that tells them they need to be capital M Men. If people just start giving boys “girl’s names”, like people are doing for girls, it will become the norm, and voila, a big chunk taken out of gender stereotyping.
I know this is all unlikely to happen. People are too stuck to binary gender. sigh And if it does I’ll probably be long dead and buried along with my great-great grandchildren.
Anyway, I hope I haven’t offended or irked anyone here. I didn’t mean for my first post here to in such a debate! Forgive me if I’ve come on to strong. 