Felix as a girls' name?

[jmlw87]

No, the opinion doesn’t bother me. I’m just surprised at the lack of class, as I said.

[blairx]

@hayley88

@jmlw87 I’m feeling slightly attacked here myself!
I didn’t read all the comments in depth,I often don’t. I knew there were rude comments,but the “makes me want to puke” was one I missed. There has been of tone on the forums of late,given that everyone at least chose their words with some consideration to other’s feelings when I joined.
I’m not a fan of boys names on girls generally speaking,but there are far worse things for a parent to call a child realistically speaking! I don’t get het up about it either way,I do tend to ignore rabid comments to avoid being drawn into arguments.

Friends?

People get overemotional about names “going to the girls” or girls “stealing” boys’ names. :rolleyes: I blame the misogynistic culture that deems anything vaguely associated with any woman unmasculine and unsuitable for boys (unless they’re sissies).

Yeah, I’d rather see the alternatives I posted used for a girl than [name]Felix[/name], but the reactions were over the top.

[system]

@jmlw87

No, the opinion doesn’t bother me. I’m just surprised at the lack of class, as I said.

I’m not. I’ve been around forums for a [name]LONG[/name] time, nothing gives a person a license for acting like a jerk like the anonymity of a computer screen.

(Not defending them, it’s just really not surprising.)

[jmlw87]

Well maybe that’s it. I don’t expect that kind of stuff on a baby name website full of parents and expectant parents!! [name]Ah[/name] well, it’s a sad statement, but you’re right - some people like to hide behind the internet.

[system]

^^ Pregnant women and parents are hormonal and stressed out.

[izzy.indigo]

@flick

^^ Pregnant women and parents are hormonal and stressed out.

LOL I don’t know why, but you made me laugh. So painfully obvious and bluntly stated, I guess.

Not laughing at you BTW, or anyone else. It’s late and I’m in a giggly mood.

[system]

@jacjac

I don’t see a feminine thing about it.

[name]Nor[/name] do I. It’s been a masculine name for years and I agree with a previous poster as it’s just like naming a girl [name]Henry[/name] or [name]Simon[/name].

[everwaiteing]

Before using a name like [name]Felix[/name] for your daughter, you should be convinced in your heart that she is likely to love her name. Also, I think the issue is not that the name SHOULDN’T be a hindrance or problem in our society, but whether or not the name [name]WILL[/name] be (or is likely to be) a potential hindrance or problem. Your daughter will live with the reality of it (in our current society - not an idealized world).

[jmlw87]

this made me smile too, lol.

[jmlw87]

@izzy.indigo

LOL I don’t know why, but you made me laugh. So painfully obvious and bluntly stated, I guess.

Not laughing at you BTW, or anyone else. It’s late and I’m in a giggly mood.

That made me laugh too, lol.

[jeska]

Here’s how I look at it:

[name]Plenty[/name] of traditionally-male names can be considered soft-sounding enough to be used on a female, but where do you draw the line? [name]Bruce[/name]? [name]Alistair[/name]? [name]Simon[/name]?

It serves a purpose for names to denote gender. You don’t have to like it, but it’s a fact. The world is not unisex. There are loads of situations in life where it is very useful to be able to tell someone’s gender just by looking at their name: planning accommodation for school camp, in pool locker rooms, for sports teams, for the purpose of allocating shared dorm rooms, or rooms in a hotel, when you want a mix of genders for a work or social activity…the list goes on, they’re just a few obvious ones. I don’t think there’s anything insidiously sexist about wanting to know someone’s gender, because males and females are equal but not the same.

People don’t like names ‘going to the girls’ because for those who want their children to have names that indicate their gender, it reduces the options. And no, people don’t complain about names ‘going to the boys’, but only because it doesn’t happen (well, very rarely). If someone came on Nameberry and said they wanted to call their boy [name]Margaret[/name], they’d get much the same reaction as this thread has.

[strawberry_shortcake]

@jmlw87

Strong reactions are different to being blatantly offensive. [name]Honesty[/name] doesn’t have to lack class.

Suggesting someone lacks class because they have a strong opinion is both silly and offensive.

[system]

I have a feeling this thread is no longer about the name [name]Felix[/name]…

[jmlw87]

@strawberry shortcake

Suggesting someone lacks class because they have a strong opinion is both silly and offensive.

I think suggesting that a name actually makes someone want to puke is both silly and offensive, so I’m happy to agree to disagree.

[missrae]

Thanks, [name]Melissa[/name], for writing exactly what I was thinking.

[jennipea382]

@jmlw87

Well maybe that’s it. I don’t expect that kind of stuff on a baby name website full of parents and expectant parents!! [name]Ah[/name] well, it’s a sad statement, but you’re right - some people like to hide behind the internet.

Not everyone here has kids or is pregnant, just FYI. I won’t be having kids for at least another year or two, and there are tons of people who are even too young for kids. We just love names (and obviously have strong opinions on names, I’m very honest in my opinions but I at least try to be a little nice… most of the time ;)).

[savvyg2]

I don’t mind it. Although it’s traditionally a boys name, I can see it as a unisex name. If you like it, then go for it!

[system]

@jeska

Here’s how I look at it:

[name]Plenty[/name] of traditionally-male names can be considered soft-sounding enough to be used on a female, but where do you draw the line? [name]Bruce[/name]? [name]Alistair[/name]? [name]Simon[/name]?

It serves a purpose for names to denote gender. You don’t have to like it, but it’s a fact. The world is not unisex. There are loads of situations in life where it is very useful to be able to tell someone’s gender just by looking at their name: planning accommodation for school camp, in pool locker rooms, for sports teams, for the purpose of allocating shared dorm rooms, or rooms in a hotel, when you want a mix of genders for a work or social activity…the list goes on, they’re just a few obvious ones. I don’t think there’s anything insidiously sexist about wanting to know someone’s gender, because males and females are equal but not the same.

People don’t like names ‘going to the girls’ because for those who want their children to have names that indicate their gender, it reduces the options. And no, people don’t complain about names ‘going to the boys’, but only because it doesn’t happen (well, very rarely). If someone came on Nameberry and said they wanted to call their boy [name]Margaret[/name], they’d get much the same reaction as this thread has.

Exactly. Totally agree.

[blackkitty237]

Honestly, I don’t see what the big fuss is. If you don’t like the name you don’t need to offend people. And if you feel the need to offend someone for being themselves then you are just childish. So GROW UP! You can express your feelings without being rude.

And as for the name, I don’t see a problem with it, I actually like it. Name your baby whatever you want, he/she’s yours.

[blackkitty237]

@jeska

Here’s how I look at it:

[name]Plenty[/name] of traditionally-male names can be considered soft-sounding enough to be used on a female, but where do you draw the line? [name]Bruce[/name]? [name]Alistair[/name]? [name]Simon[/name]?

It serves a purpose for names to denote gender. You don’t have to like it, but it’s a fact. The world is not unisex. There are loads of situations in life where it is very useful to be able to tell someone’s gender just by looking at their name: planning accommodation for school camp, in pool locker rooms, for sports teams, for the purpose of allocating shared dorm rooms, or rooms in a hotel, when you want a mix of genders for a work or social activity…the list goes on, they’re just a few obvious ones. I don’t think there’s anything insidiously sexist about wanting to know someone’s gender, because males and females are equal but not the same.

People don’t like names ‘going to the girls’ because for those who want their children to have names that indicate their gender, it reduces the options. And no, people don’t complain about names ‘going to the boys’, but only because it doesn’t happen (well, very rarely). If someone came on Nameberry and said they wanted to call their boy [name]Margaret[/name], they’d get much the same reaction as this thread has.

Just sayin’ but it is not required in life for people to tell gender by names because for those sorts of things (like sharing dorms, etc.) people will usually ask for your gender anyways.