What makes you assume thinking a name is âtoo commonâ and âthoughtlessâ are the same thing? No. I wonât call [name_f]Emily[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f] a brilliant, fascinating, super exciting name; but if thereâs a meaning behind it thatâs great. The meaning doesnât change how popular it is. I will say a name is too common - because whatâs more normal than discussing a nameâs popularity?! I donât say people who choose popular names are thoughtless and boring. Thatâs their personal taste and I respect that. I always appreciate a good story too. But if they ask my opinions on names, why shouldnât I mention how I feel about it? If I met an [name_f]Emily[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f] Iâd think, oh, another one. Why does that make me rude or offensive? I never said that was thoughtless. It just doesnât excite me. I find it boring to be entirely honest. And I mention that. [name_m]Just[/name_m] like I mention how exciting a name sounds. I donât judge anyone about it.
Iâm sorry if you were ever offended by this, but I canât understand why you assume people think common = thoughtless.
âdatedâ is such an odd term to me because whatâs dated for one person may not be for another. [name_f]My[/name_f] s/o doesnât count names popular in the 70s or 80s as dated but names popular in the 50s are to him? Also, dated is a positive for some and a negative to others
And I donât understand how slightly altering a popular name makes it so unique? I just see some people acting like this. Emma is boring, but Emmy is so unexpected. Gabriella is worn out, Brielle is cool.
Yes yes yes!
And Rory is a great nn too, I meanâŚ
Iâve got so many comments like âIt reminds me too much of the president,â but it was a name before he was a president, and Lincoln, Washington, Harrison, and Kennedy are all fair game, so why not Roosevelt?
Iâve only met two Henrys, and both were female, so [name_m]Henry[/name_m] actually feels slightly feminine to me. Goes to show how much personal experience really shapes your perception on a name!
I think [name_m]Henry[/name_m] used to be considered somewhat stodgy podgy, but itâs been recently revived bc itâs now considered quaintly old fashioned.
As much as people moan about names being dated, Iâd much rather there be a world with dated names than the same 10 classics on and on. Also, itâs interesting to map out different generations based on what naming styles wooed them.
Thatâs a good point! For example, I love the name Heather. Iâve never known one that wasnât born before 1980, and Iâve always liked it, but my mom doesnât care for it because sheâs known 8+ Heatherâs. Itâs super common in her generation (1960-1979). I like it more because Iâve never known one in my age group.
Why is everyone so obsessed with popularity? I get it if you donât want your kid to be the 8th [name_f]Olivia[/name_f] in her class, but that isnât a reason to not choose [name_f]Olivia[/name_f]. In thirteen years, [name_f]Olivia[/name_f] might be the only one in her class. In thirteen years, [name_f]Olivia[/name_f] might have 2 Amaryllises and 5 Elodies in her class. Popularity fluctuates so much and it is so unpredictable that it is pointless choosing a currently unusual name because you want your kid to have a unique name. I am a [name_f]Jane[/name_f], and my sisters are [name_f]Grace[/name_f] and [name_f]Lily[/name_f] and we never had anyone with the same name as us in our classes.
[name_f]Poppy[/name_f] on a boy>>Poppy on a girl
[name_f]Lilac[/name_f] on a boy = [name_f]Lilac[/name_f] on a girl
[name_f]Chrysanthemum[/name_f] on a boy>Chrysanthemum on a girl (but not by much)
also, can we all take a minute to appreciate [name_u]Jude[/name_u], which I love on a boy but (hot take) also adore on a girl?
honestly itâs growing on me! [name_f]Catherine[/name_f] and [name_f]Kathryn[/name_f] are much better than [name_f]Katherine[/name_f] or [name_f]Katharine[/name_f] imo, they just look less sharp to me? [name_f]Cathryn[/name_f] would be the best spelling if it wouldnât always get misspelled!
I think I currently prefer [name_f]Kathryn[/name_f] because Iâve been crushing on the nickname [name_f]Kat[/name_f] recently (which imo is better than [name_f]Kate[/name_f], [name_f]Katie[/name_f], or Kit!)
If Iâm going K my favourite is [name_f]Kathryn[/name_f] but if Iâm going C my favourite is [name_f]Catherine[/name_f]. Iâm not a huge fan of any of the other spelling variations though
Also, dated is a positive for some and a negative to others 
