I need NB nerds to help with my name ramblings 😂

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Please humour my name ramblings :joy:

So of course this is all speculative at the moment, as I am currently on month 6, TTC our greatly desired third :grimacing:
I still nevertheless like to ponder all my favourite name combos and still find myself day- dreaming of names.
One day :crossed_fingers:

I can say with 99.9% certainty that if I had a third son, my partner and I would use the name Finnian, with the nickname Finn.
I have been thinking of middles and our shortlist with explanations are as follows.

Finnian Charles
Charles would be after myself, as I am a Charlotte. I find Charles really grounds the light hearted Finnian but I wouldn’t say I am blown away by the combo. It just seems to work and honour myself and not much else.

Finnian Samuel
Samuel would be an honour name, it is my brother’s name. If it wasn’t for my brother I would have never met my partner or had a family ( they went to school together and are best friends)
So really with the third being our last, things feel like they’ve come full circle. Is Samuel a nice way to honour this familial closure?

Finnian Jude
I absolutely adore Jude and I think it works wonderfully with Finnian, it also matches my other boys middles. My reservations are, I feel it does the direct opposite to say what the middle name Charles does? Jude feels a bit light hearted and jovial when paired with Finnian, so is the combo too buoyant? I mean I actually imagine a leprechaun to be called this And I think of the lovely irish accent😂

Finnian Oliver
This is my partner’s favourite combo, it was his suggestion. I would use this if it was name he really wanted, I am not against it but I have never really cared much for Oliver. It is too popular and predictable.

Finnian Thomas
Thomas, much like Charles, it is a name which grounds Finnian again. It is also a classic, which is a naming style I love. Thomas is cohesive with my other boys names in terms of origin and style ( bonus)
Is Thomas perhaps a bit predictable? Should I be more adventurous?
Lastly… My wildcard love
Finnian Ivar
My partner likes this combo the least because to him it conjours up Viking imagery. ( He has nothing against this or anything,he even has Scandinavian roots himself) but feels like the combo is silly sounding and trying too hard.
I also feel like my family would really dislike this combo.
I love Ivar for the meaning, the fact that it is underused and it has a silent strength to it.
So in conclusion my favourites are

Finnian Ivar
Finnian Samuel/Thomas
Finnian Jude

My partner.
Finnian Oliver
Finnian Jude
Finnian Samuel

Any feedback, greatly appreciated. Thank you x

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What about [name_u]Finley[/name_u]? [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] is a mouthful and reminds me of finnagin… sorry

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[name_m]Finnian[/name_m] is set in stone. I was looking for people’s thoughts on middle name for [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] 🤷

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I absolutely love [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Samuel[/name_m] – great flow and I think honoring your brother would be really nice (it helps that [name_m]Samuel[/name_m] is my #1 boys name, lol!).

[name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Jude[/name_u] is my second favorite – I don’t think it sounds too “buoyant” at all! [name_u]Jude[/name_u] is handsome and overall the combo feels friendly and grounded.

[name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] and [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Charles[/name_u] are also both very handsome. They don’t “wow” me quite as much as [name_m]Samuel[/name_m] or [name_u]Jude[/name_u], but I’d be thrilled to meet a little boy with either name. They’re classic and timeless and you can’t go wrong with either.

Personally I don’t love the flow of [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Oliver[/name_u] as much, though I suppose a last name might balance it out. [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Ivar[/name_m] is cool but I think if your partner doesn’t like it, it might need to stay a GP rather than on your list.

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In that case [name_u]Finn[/name_u] [name_m]Ivar[/name_m] is my favourite :slight_smile:

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Thank you for your feedback! I agree [name_m]Samuel[/name_m] is a fantastic name and actually I do really like the name [name_m]Samuel[/name_m], regardless of whether it was my brother’s name or not It is just a double bonus that I get to honour him too.

I do agree with you about [name_u]Charles[/name_u] and [name_m]Thomas[/name_m]. Whilst they are perfectly agreeable and work well. They just don’t have the real wow combo I am after.

Perhaps I need to give [name_u]Jude[/name_u] less of a hard time. :joy: [name_u]Jude[/name_u] is firmly a favourite. I just wasn’t sure if I was trying to get two of my favourite names to work well together lol.

Oh [name_m]Ivar[/name_m] probably is a GP of name for me, agreed. I do think my partner could maybe warm to it.
I do not like [name_u]Oliver[/name_u] nearly as much as the others and I agree the flow seems off.
Thanks again.

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I really love the vibe of [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] and [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Jude[/name_u]! The latter feels very berry-ish (but lovely either way) and youthful, while [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m], as you said, feels a bit more grounded and grown up (maybe imagine your husband having either name and think about which one would fit him/an adult better).
Before reading what your husband thinks about [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Ivar[/name_m] I had a similar thought, however, it is a lovely pairing. I find the [name_m]Ivor[/name_m] spelling gives off more British Isles vibe, so I tend to prefer this one but I understand that everyone has their favourite variation.
Maybe you’d also like [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Ives[/name_m], it feels like [name_m]Ivar[/name_m] meets [name_u]Jude[/name_u], vibe-wise.

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[name_f]My[/name_f] favourite is [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Jude[/name_u]. I adore [name_u]Jude[/name_u] (it’s my son’s name) and think it compliments [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] brilliantly. Funnily enough, I don’t feel like [name_u]Jude[/name_u] makes the combo too buoyant - on the contrary, [name_u]Jude[/name_u] brings a charming coolness, a seriousness to the combo that I love. [name_m]Just[/name_m] based on my own naming preferences, my second choice would be [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Oliver[/name_u], but considering meaning, [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Samuel[/name_m] is my second pick. I like the idea of honouring your brother considering he is the reason the two of you met. [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Charles[/name_u] would be my third pick.

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@zoeyfleur they didn’t ask about first names, they asked for middles. ppl have different name prefrences, if charlotte likes finnian, then they like finnian

anyways, i like finnian samuel has the same effect as finnian charles & is a great way to tie your fam together! i also think it flow better than finnian charles

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[name_u]Love[/name_u] [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Samuel[/name_m] for you!

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I love [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] Jude!!
We have a [name_u]Finn[/name_u] [name_m]Lucas[/name_m] :heart:

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It’s lovely to hear how your name discussions are progressing. If your third son had arrived today, I would be suggesting that you choose between [name_m]Samuel[/name_m] and [name_u]Jude[/name_u] since they both appear toward the top of your respective lists. From there you most likely would be guided by your own instincts about what feels right, what you most enjoy or your desire to honour your brother and family story.

I lean toward family names myself because I enjoy the meaning in the family names given to me. I know that I’ll always enjoy telling the story of my name and having tangible connections to my heritage. I think the name story that you most enjoy sharing is the one that’s right for you.

It might be all too soon to start narrowing down your lists but if you were thinking about it, my suggestion would be removing [name_u]Charles[/name_u], [name_u]Oliver[/name_u] and [name_m]Ivar[/name_m] from your lists since these seem like the least satisfactory choices to at least you or your partner. The exciting thing is that a name that isn’t already on your radar or ranked lower on your list can still rise to the top in the journey still ahead of you.

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[name_f]My[/name_f] favorites are:

[name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Jude[/name_u]
[name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Samuel[/name_m]
[name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Charles[/name_u]

I do love a good honor name and think that you won’t regret using [name_m]Samuel[/name_m], however I also love [name_u]Jude[/name_u] and I think it works really well with [name_m]Finnian[/name_m]. I would choose [name_u]Jude[/name_u] over [name_u]Charles[/name_u] only because you seem to love it more. Choosing a name that makes you smile seems like a better way to honor yourself. :blush:
I absolutely love Finnian/Finn!!

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Thanks everyone!

I feel like from this discussion I can cross of [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Charles[/name_u] and [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Oliver[/name_u]. They just don’t grab me like the other combos do. And ultimately it has to be a name combo that excites us both.

I am glad to hear everyone’s positive response to [name_u]Jude[/name_u], [name_u]Jude[/name_u] is a lovely name and perhaps I have been overthinking the combo. At one point I was considering the combo switched as I do love [name_u]Jude[/name_u] [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] too.

I agree that [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] does feel very cohesive together. And this is perhaps the name that I would imagine my partner having the most :slightly_smiling_face: but then my partner is a D@niel [name_u]William[/name_u] so all them names are of that same style I feel. [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] feels friendly and warm.

[name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Samuel[/name_m] would be the obvious choice at the moment. It’s very high on the list. Also was thinking of [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Sam[/name_u]? ( He goes by Sam)

I don’t feel like I am ready to let go of [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Ivar[/name_m] yet, :joy: although I’m sure this is more a GP name for me.

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I really like [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Samuel[/name_m]! It feels meaningful, balanced and charming!!

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I like [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] and [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Charles[/name_u] a lot!

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I honestly love [name_u]Jude[/name_u] for a middle name for [name_m]Finnian[/name_m]. It stands out a bit more because it has more of a flare to it with the sound it has - it’s familiar, warm, but also unique in sound; not many boy names with this lovely sound or style. But if you’re on the fence about it, trust me when I say, if you named a son this, you’ll always be questioning if you made the right choice. I’m a firm believer that you can love a name, but still know it’s just not the right fit, and that’s okay.
[name_f]My[/name_f] second favorites (tied) are [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] and [name_m]Ivar[/name_m].
I don’t think [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] is actually currently that predictable with parents leaning towards less traditional names these days. [name_m]Thomas[/name_m], although old school, is still timeless and sweet. It makes me picture a little boy who loves [name_m]Blues[/name_m] clues and running around in his fire fighter hat, but that’s just my own vibes I get.
[name_m]Ivar[/name_m] is great too. It’s soft, lovely, a little less used but still familiar, with the nice twist of the V sound that you don’t find often. To me it’s a gentle and loving name, but also has a zest for adventure.

If you’re willing to explore the option of a double barrel middle name (which isn’t bad, even if you’re other sons don’t have one, sometimes two things can just fit well together, and lots of parents do this) then I’d suggest something along the lines of [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] [name_m]Ivar[/name_m], or [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Ivar[/name_m] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m]. Maybe even perhaps [name_m]Thompson[/name_m] as a play on [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] to make it feel more concrete.

It’s just a suggestion to explore, though.

But these are the two best I believe, and obviously the one I think should be ruled out.
Any time I’ve seen a parent (s) feel doubt about a name, it always eats at them , or they end up legally changing the name to something else. So although [name_u]Jude[/name_u] is sweet, I wouldn’t focus too much on it.

Anyways this is all just opinion!

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finnian samuel is gorgeous!! the flow is just right and samuel doesn’t feel like a filler middle in any way i like both names equally.

also i absolutely love finnian, it’s nice to hear someone using that rather than finley/finlay which are a bit overdone imo :))

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[name_f]My[/name_f] #1 choice would be [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Samuel[/name_m]!

Choice #2 [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Jude[/name_u].

Choice #3 [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m].

Choice #4 [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Ivar[/name_m].

Choice #5 [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Oliver[/name_u].

I really feel the smile vibes tho, it’s warm and brings a little something to the already amazing feel of [name_m]Finnian[/name_m]!

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[name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Samuel[/name_m] gets my vote because of the meaning behind it and the feeling of the name but I get why you’re stuck :joy:

I think that [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Ivar[/name_m] might be a little bold with your boys, but if that’s what you love most to for it, who am I to tell you it doesn’t work.

[name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Jude[/name_u] is so handsome! I see what you mean about it not being very formal (and about the leprechaun) but I think it works anyway, and sort of turns out to work because of that

You don’t seem to love [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Oliver[/name_u] or [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m], so I’d veto them as your future child should have a name you love, not just like.

I like [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_u]Charles[/name_u] but not quite as much as [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] [name_m]Samuel[/name_m]. If you/your SO really want to honor you though, it’s a great choice!

I hope this helps!

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