@Victory55 I’m an only child and it has always been a none issue to me. Not having siblings hasn’t hindered me in anyway, and I don’t see any big differences between myself and others who grew up with multiple siblings - we all have various things we liked and didn’t like about our childhoods, and therefore want to do some things differently. I’m sure your child will be just fine. 
I currently have one and on the fence about having another - if we can have another, as our fertility situation is complicated. We knew we wanted at least one, and maybe 2! (Doesn’t stop me from obsessing over what I’d name a hypothetical sibling though, hah.)
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I don’t want to have children, but I do plan to adopt children in the future! I will for sure adopt one or two, maybe three. The maximum will be four!
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Thanks, I was hoping to hear of a situation such as yours.
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The oneanddone subreddit is very supportive and there are only children who want only one child in that group!
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I grew up on the [name_u]West[/name_u] [name_u]Coast[/name_u] in an area with a large Mormon population, so big families were pretty normal to me. I thought I wanted 3-4. Ended up not starting a family until my early-mid 30’s though. DH is from the midwest and his definition of “big family” is any more than 2. We have 3, but only because we had twins our second pregnancy. Many of our priorities for our kids (paying for their college, travel, etc.) mean a large family is not ideal. [name_m]Just[/name_m] about all of our friends ( late 30’s-40’s professionals) have 1-2 kids. I think it really just depends on what kind of lifestyle you value, but there is no universal correct number.
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a while ago i would have said only four. then i thought about it…okay five sounds nice. but why not stop at six? so the real answer is it’s always changing, but ideally as of now, i want five kids!
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I’d love to have three, myself. 
I’m from [name_u]California[/name_u]!
I live in [name_f]Florida[/name_f] and think I’ll have just one. But you never know until you’re there. Maybe two!
I don’t want a big family as I want to be able to have quality one on one with every single one of my children. Most families around here seem to have three.I have an abundance of half siblings and it wasn’t an issue, really, but I just don’t want to over complicate things.
[name_m]Zero[/name_m] is the perfect number of children x
I live in [name_u]New[/name_u] Mexico, and I’d say 2, maybe 3. Everyone here has really big families, which is nice but I’ve been pregnant 3 times and only have one son. If I didn’t have multiple miscarriages, I’d say 4.
[name_f]My[/name_f] ideal number right now is three.
Same here! Six children has always seemed like the perfect number. We hope to adopt a couple as well 
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I would love 4 children.
I grew up in a big family, I have ten brothers and sisters, and it was great. We had plenty of one on one Time with our parents, despite what other people think. It taught us not to be selfish, and to always look out for other people. We were never without friends, we always had each other. 
I love seeing big families, but I don’t know if I could actually handle it myself. I’m not very patient, and four seems perfect for me. Everyone can handle different numbers though, so you should have as many as it seems right for you. Don’t let anyone judge you, it’s your own decision and you shouldn’t let anyone make you feel bad for it.
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I don’t have any yet but Ideally 6+
I grew up in the west coast and both of my parents came from families of 10+ children, and I knew plenty of families who had more than 5 or 6 kids so that seemed pretty normal to me. So when I grew up and moved away I found it shocking anyone would consider a family of 6 to be large
But now after having my own children I know I wouldnt want that many kids myself. I think 3 or 4 would be our uppermost limit.
Ideally, I’d like to have between 4-6 kids. I am one of 3 siblings & my husband is one of 4. Most families in my hometown (in [name_u]South[/name_u] Dakota) had 2-3 kids.
[name_f]My[/name_f] dad was the youngest of 5 kids & I love having a larger extended family with lots of cousins. I’ve always thought that I’d like to have around 5 kids so that my kids & grandkids could enjoy a large extended family like I did. [name_f]My[/name_f] husband would like to have around 4 kids, similar to his own family.
In all honesty, I’m expecting that we might end up with 6+ kids simply because I cannot take birth control due to other medical factors (migraine w/ aura, BRCA2 positive). Our best option is NFP, which we’ve been doing since we got married 2 years ago because we’re waiting to TTC until I finish grad school. I doubt that either of us will want to go back to doing NFP long-term again (unless it’s medically necessary for my health). So if I’m being totally honest, we might end up with a slightly larger than “ideal” family, but we’ll see what happens!
As I sit here, a sahm with a very fussy two month old and high energy almost-four year old, two is it for me. I cannot imagine doing this again, though I did originally want 3 kids.
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okay edit, 4+ (must be even numbers so no one feels left out) also only having 2 bio.
right now at this moment, i’ll say three to six children. it fluctuates all the time, but i’ve always wanted at least three, and the most for me would be eight!
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