at the moment, i want five children. the least would be three (maybe two if it was for health reasons/age), and the most would be six! i used to want four, but it’s grown and shrunk overtime.
eta - i should also mention that at this very second, i’d love to be a sahm (or only work part-time a few days out of the week) so obviously income and cost of living will change that number, but my plans for being a sahm have changed in the past and probably will continue to in the future.
I would like at least 5 or 6 children, but there’s really no maximum. At one point I wanted 15 XD
I’m an only child so health allowing I’d like a larger family of 4-5
I’ve always said I didn’t want children. I’m slowly opening up to the idea that, maybe someday when I’m much older and lived my life a bit, that I might be open to having one. I think that I could be happy with just one child, or maybe two but that would be the maximum I think. For right now, I’m just happy to be an auntie!
As one of three, I want a larger family. In my family, the odd number led to one person always being left out (usually me as I’m the only female).
If you don’t mind me asking, what sorts of things could a third child be left out from? I’m second out of three children and I don’t recall being left out of anything. Maybe our experiences are different.
As of right now there are periods when I don’t want any, and others where I want 2 or 3. Honestly I think for me I would rather have 2/3 kids than only have 1, because I think siblings are really important. But I also think I’ll be happy if I don’t have any! Having kids is quite a while away for me so who knows!
At all times, in my family, my two brothers would do something together or one of my brothers and I would do something together. There was never a time where the three of us would do things together. It just never seemed to happen in our family.
This was my experience, as well. Us three youngest girls grew up in one household together (split custody, blended family, etc). It does sound silly that a third child could left out but it does happen! Two of us would pair off and get along better than the third…all the time growing up. It wasn’t always an age thing either. It still is like that now that we are adults.
I’m currently expecting my fourth and thinking our number is probably five. [name_f]My[/name_f] husband and I both grew up in families larger than that, so it doesn’t feel as overwhelming for us, I think. Most of our friends have/stopped at 3.
I’ve been thinking about this a bit recently!
I’ve had one pregnancy + one miscarriage when I was 15, in 2018. So although I don’t have any (living) children right now, it taught me a lot about my expectations for parenting and children.
I do not want to have any more kids than I can afford and give my time to. I’d like to have a stable, full-time job, and own a house in an area I’m comfortable raising my children in before getting pregnant again.
I’m currently studying my degree in geology and business, and am planning to relocate to Australia in a couple of years, where the pay in my fields are considerably higher than where I currently live. A big reason for this (hopeful) relocation is to make enough money to comfortably live and support multiple children.
That being said, I like the idea of having between one and three children! I would consider fostering with openness to adopt, however, I am typically against adoption except in extreme and rare circumstances.
I was raised as an only child and was quite fine with that, so I’m not opposed to the “one and done” parenting. I definitely don’t think children need siblings to have a social childhood. 
Here’s my essay…
Ideally, I would love 5-7 as I’d want at least 2 of each gender. I have always worried that 1 would get lonely (I kind of did yet I grew up with a brother 6 years older than me), 2 I worry about them fighting and same thing happens of loneliness, 3 I worry about 2 going off without the other, 4 seems ok but 5 seems everyone will have a sibling to always rely on.
I’ve seen my father’s house of 4 children plus 2 step and it honestly seemed perfect… apart from the loudness (I’d need to teach quiet days or hours…) I would also love to use the majority of my favourite name combos so that number would encompass it well 
LoGiCaLly (cause I need to use that more these days)
I don’t want kids I can’t afford to house, feed, clothe or educate (to an extent - I had to pay for my own college/university so I don’t see an issue expecting that of my own).
I’ve got 2 beautiful stepchildren (5&8) I adore and they’ve become my bonus children and look at me as bonus [name_f]Mama[/name_f]. [name_u]Lucky[/name_u] for the inner name nerd Dad knows how to name and one name was on my list until I became bonus [name_f]Mama[/name_f] (I know full well names don’t matter in the actual scheme of things but I thought that was cool as). So that narrows my ideal to 3-5…
I am XXXI I recently had a loss so being logical as a heal mentally and physically; I may only be able to carry at most 4 before I hit the “I don’t want to try anymore” which for me is 11 years away at 42-43ish. If I have a 2-year or less age gap I could have 5 but my ideal age gap is 3 years, so I’d be able to have 3 at most unless I have twins…
I’ve been researching spirituality since I was 14 as I grew up Lutheran/Christian, when I had a close friend pass as a teen I explored Taoism & Buddhism; Lately been looking into Paganism and [name_u]Tarot[/name_u] and I’ve had a few readings tell me I have a high chance of twins the predictions/reads of my current partner seem accurate so I don’t know what to believe anymore And logically speaking twins is in my family & my GP said once I want to try again fertility drugs may be prescribed to me which also carries a chance of twins.
So all that being considered my ideal number now is my 2 bonus kids and 1-3 biological. However, the universe is a mysterious place/ [name_m]God[/name_m] is a mysterious provider (whatever you believe in is mysterious, it will guide you to what is for you and if you don’t take hints it puts it in your face very clearly, as I look back on somethings I see I was learning lessons for where I am now.
2013 - Chemical (no name as it was honestly too early for me to connect)
2018 - Loss by DV trauma ( “Gummybear” 
[name_u]Arlo[/name_u] Morgane) Not with this partner anymore
2021 - Loss by termination due to bordering non-viable (Tadpole" [name_m]Nadir[/name_m] [name_m]Ambrose[/name_m] [name_u]Malak[/name_u] / [name_f]Nadira[/name_f] [name_m]Ambrose[/name_m] Malak)
2022 - Loss (“Cashew” [name_u]Halcyon[/name_u] [name_m]Dion[/name_m] Miv)
For me, the ideal would be either 2 … or two and then a considerable gap, and 2 more.
Because it is QUALITY that matters, not quantity.
Given overpopulation, I would consider the ideal to be 0-1-2.
nope still 4 and now having all bio maybe adopting/fostering more
I have one and I would like to have another. I think two is perfect for many reasons 
I am TTC now and not too picky about the age gap. Whenever it happens will be good for me.
three! 
for me this is my perfect number, i go between three and four but three has always been the one i settle on.
i’m one of four, and i love each of my siblings. however, my house is mayhem! i look after my younger sister most the time, and often my youngest brother. so with three i’d prefer them closer in age though so that they wouldn’t feel the need to babysit and look after their younger siblings!
haha! you can tell i’ve put a lot of thought into this!
Recently I’ve been liking the idea of two! I just think about how much more time I could spend with each of them. 
Homeschooling also seems more doable with two.
I’m hoping to be able to have 3-5 (started TTC last year at 30 with PCOS so we’ll see how it goes…) and I’d love if each sibling could experience having at least one opposite sex and one same sex sibling because I think it’s good for them to have exposure to variety (So 2 boys + 2 girls + 1 maybe surprise if we were to have 5).
I don’t know that it’s necessarily cultural. I grew up in a much smaller family so maybe I want to experience the opposite? But I also wouldn’t want more than that because I think it’s an issue if/when older children end up being parents before their time/have age-inappropriate responsibilities.
I think it’s super important for children to help out (e.g. handing a wipe, picking up the occasional dropped pacifier, etc) or helping out if they desire (I had a cousin who loved sweeping my grandma’s porch and would do it for hours lol) and maybe babysitting one night a month or something when they’re older but making them parents before their time ages them faster than they should I think.
I’ve always wanted 3 because that’s what I grew up with and I loved how lively our household was. However, I think 2 might be more realistic (my biological clock is ticking while TTC #1).
We could afford 3 and already have the house space for 3, but it would be nice to have 2 and give them a cushier life (plus a spare bedroom for guests). It would also be easier to juggle extra curriculars with only 2 (1 parent each).
ideally i’d want more than one, with three seeming perfect, but anywhere from 1-5 i’d be thrilled with 