while i love phoebe, i don’t necessarily want her to be the first/only thing that comes to mind when i share my daughter’s name. also, i’m just not sure that i would want to tie my daughter to this connection forever!
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Not sure if this bothers anyone else, but being both a fan of languages and[name_f][/name_f] a name nerd, I really really dislike when people use diacritical marks or accent marks unnecessarily or incorrectly. And even more so if they interchangeably use the acute and grave accent! 
For example, an acquaintance named their daughter Frankie-Maé, placing an acute accent on the final e. Her middle name also has two accents (grave and acute) but it’s in a [name_m]French[/name_m] name, and the accents are commonly used with the name, so those are correct and appropriate. But [name_m]Maé[/name_m] makes no sense to me. Maybe if they were pronouncing the final e differently, but they just pronounce it normally [name_f][/name_f]- MAY.
[name_f][/name_f]And I’ve seen two announcements on social media lately where the posted ‘photo’ announcement (showing the full name, date, weight, etc) had the acute accent in the name, and then in the caption the mother had used the grave accent.
[name_f][/name_f]Has anyone else encountered this? I apologise if you’re one of the people who’ve done this, it just goes against my brain haha!
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I love [name_f]Phoebe[/name_f], she’s so spunky and bright [name_f][/name_f]— a little literary, a little kooky, a little magical [name_f][/name_f]— but I cannot ever[name_f][/name_f] keep her on my lists. I don’t know why, I don’t understand it. [name_f]My[/name_f] only guess is because of the way it looks (which makes my brain itch…and not in a good way, haha), but I don’t know how to fix it. I’d love to keep her on my lists, but I just feel like I can’t.
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Me too. But what really makes me angry… I’m half Icelandic, and I can’t stand when people (want to) use an Icelandic name but just get rid of the diacritical marks because they’re inconvenient or they feel they’re unnecessary. They’re extremely important to get the pronunciation right, sometimes they even mean something completely different without the diacritics. What are you doing to our names? 
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Not a name rant, more general but [name_f][/name_f]— NB is now changing my emojis to the Discourse emojis and it’s killing my aesthetics LOL 
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Broadening this from diacritics to spelling in general, I thought only recently that what bothers me so much is not the existence of wild spellings, but that they seem to make people believe that any change in spelling is purely for looks and doesn’t mean anything. Louise is not a fancy spelling to make Luis look more feminine!
I’m not sure if NB will ever recover from this 
The NotD threads have definitely suffered. I wasn’t posting a lot recently anyway but I admit I immediately checked if my usercard still looks ok!
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I get this. I feel that way about so may names I love, particularly [name_f]Rosamund[/name_f]. It’s lowkey really frustrating
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I’m so good at making combos for other people but NOT FOR MYSELF it’s like all creativity and spark leaves my brain. Anyone else relate??
And…names look so much better to my brain when they’re in the pink and blue and nameberry font. When it’s on my google docs they all look so wrong and I need like an individual page for every combo bc all my names are different lengths etc etc.
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I dislike the strong associations to names sometimes. For example: I adore the name [name_m]Casper[/name_m] for a boy, but I can’t get past the friendly ghost association whatsoever. [name_f]My[/name_f] partner also cannot get past it and worries that using it could lead to future teasing at school. I know that it may not matter to some people, to be fair it’s not a horrible character to be associated with, but I just can’t imagine myself being able to use it. Which makes me so sad! I also feel this way with [name_m]Oscar[/name_m] (now that character association isn’t so great lol)
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My 3.5-year-old daughter decided that the squirrel piece in our game is named [name_f]Bonnie[/name_f], and I’m impressed! I don’t even know where she would have heard the name. It also reminded me of the little [name_f]Bonnie[/name_f] recently born to a fellow berry 
Not really a rant, but it doesn’t fit anywhere else haha. I feel like this thread is also the “miscellaneous thoughts” thread
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We also have these:
They’re not used super frequently so they tend to get buried quickly though.
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Ohhh, nice! I’ll have to set those to tracking. Thank you!
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It is becoming harder and harder to pretend that I don’t have the same name taste as the [name_m]Christian[/name_m] Fundamentalist community. [name_f]Ballerina[/name_f] Farms? [name_f]Love[/name_f][name_f][/name_f] her kiddos’ names. [name_f]Jinger[/name_f] Vuolo? I would let her name my children. [name_m]Paul[/name_m] and [name_m]Morgan[/name_m]? Such great names!
[name_f][/name_f]Please allow me time to grieve as I reevaluate my life choices and also the fact that I know the baby names of all these people.
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I think that [name_f]Blume[/name_f][name_f][/name_f] > [name_f]Bloom[/name_f][name_f][/name_f] !!
[name_f][/name_f]I just don’t love the look of [name_f]Bloom[/name_f], and she feels a little meh for me, but [name_f]Blume[/name_f] is so sleek and really shines!!
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[name_f]Sunny[/name_f] looks so cute and I want to love it, but it just sounds like [name_m]Sonny[/name_m] to me, so I can’t really hear it as a feminine name [name_f][/name_f] Like I can’t really imagine saying “hey Sunny!” to a daughter because whenever I say it out loud I just hear [name_m]Sonny[/name_m] – which I know is technically unisex (like in [name_m]Sonny[/name_m] With a [name_m]Chance[/name_m]) but I just think of it as an affectionate form of “son”.
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Ok this is a stupid one, but I’m a frequenter of the “GP or Usable” thread and I feel like a lot of the names people say would be GP are actually super usable in some cultures and languages but not the one we as individuals are accustom to. For instance, if someone said [name_f]Solveig[/name_f] or [name_f]Signe[/name_f] was GP, but in [name_m]Denmark[/name_m] these are commonly known and would be usable. Me personally I just like to read a teensy bit about the name/where it’s from and adjust accordingly. Maybe a name like [name_f]Angharad[/name_f] is strange in the southern US but not [name_m]Wales[/name_m], yknow? (PS IM NOT CLAIMING THESE THINGS ARE OVERTLY TRUE OR NOT I’m just using them as conceptual examples). Anyways it’s really not that deep and it’s been a long day so this is gen meant with nothing but respect bc we all have our opinions and that’s okay 
[name_f][/name_f] like for me [name_f]Hayleigh[/name_f] would always be GP but [name_f]Elsa[/name_f] would not. I guess I’m just talking about names relative to culture/location 
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This is a problem I have with the forums in general. I don’t live in an English speaking country, English is only my third language and while I try to talk about names from my culture, or from cultures most people on the forums are not very familiar with - this forum still centers around English speaking countries and how names are perceived there. Which makes sense, but sometimes it’s a little… discouraging.
Fortunately most frequent users are open-minded though 
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@Rosebeth[name_f][/name_f], your names are some of my favorite on Nameberry! I hope you know that your contributions are definitely valued, at least by me.
[name_f]My[/name_f] rant of the day is that I am convinced that I can only ever like boy names or girl names at one time, never both. Right now I am deep in a girl name rabbit hole, and all of my boy names are feeling very meh.[name_f][/name_f] So frustrating!
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Usable names just aren’t fun. Like would I actually name my daughter [name_f]Pleasance[/name_f][name_f][/name_f]? No. But she’s also on all of my lists, including the short ones, the ones that get titled what I’d name my baby if she were in my arms today, the ones that I look at with love and hope. It’s such a hard balance for me to find, because the names that I do think are wearable are so much less interesting, and I don’t feel as much adoration for them, but I also feel disingenuous having a list of favorites that is outlandish and ones I might even be embarrassed to show a partner or to consider in real life.
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@seawillow[name_f][/name_f] Thank you so much 
[name_f][/name_f] I love your names too, they (and you) really brighten up the forums for me
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