Mmm, I always thought more than four seemed like a madhouse of things going on! Of course, it suits some peoples life styles. And kudos to any lady who can keep up with it all and not lose her marbles!! But I myself know I’d go kooky with so much to do <3
As for the college and cars thing… I think its different for a lot of people. I myself know I wont buy my child a car. I will most definitely help to the best of my ability at the time and I will let my child use my car! But just flat out buying one… eh. If I happen to have more than one child, I would try and buy a car for them to share. My bff had that as a situation, and it seemed to work out nicely. The father bought one car that each of his kids were allowed to use [there was 3 of them].
But for college… its different for each child. I am not going to pay for my childs college if he/she’s obvious only intention is partying. A college education is expensive, and if my child was there to party it’d be a waste of my funds. However, if my child is really trying, and really interests in going to school, I would definitely do my best to help. Especially after the situation I went through. My parents made it clear they weren’t going to pay a penny of my schooling [though they did pay ALL of my older brothers school which is another story]. I made fairly good grades, all A’s and B’s except one C. I paid for duel enrollment in highschool so I could enter college being halfway done my freshmen year of highschool. I got a job when I was fourteen and started a savings account [though my mom hasn’t been willing to pay for my meals since I started working, nor clothing, so its always been a bit harder to save. The rest of my money went into the duel enrollment classes which are much cheaper than college courses but still way expensive]. So when I graduated high school… there was no way for me to go to college. All the four year schools were WAY above my head and community colleges required having a car which I didn’t have for a while. And now that I have one, and a place to live, and a job and such, I’m just not so interested in going. It was a real bummer after spending so much time learning Chinese, even paying a few grand in college courses for it, to not be able to go to college for it. There was just no possible way for me to afford it. And scholarships… laugh my butt off. Me and my best friends spent HOURS and days filling out application after application, not a single one pulled through. Heck, my best friend was in ALL honors classes and did the best classes her school offered and she didn’t really get much either. And when I went to the school I was accepted into about student aid, they only offered a mere 6,000. This school was above 60,000 a year. So my college dreams were crushed. I could still go to a community college now, but none offer Chinese…
However, you don’t necessarily NEED college to move on in life. There has actually been an increase of people not going to college. With the economy the way it is a lot of people want to hire people they don’t have to pay as much. And as for 30 year old living in my basement… its not going to happen. If my child decides not to go to college, they will have to pay rent to live in my home. And they can only stay for so long. Not to be unloving, but its just not a way to live, being a parasite like that. I have family like that and its sad. I would definitely help find an apartment if they need some help. I am hoping I can raise my children right though, to have a motivation to do at least SOMETHING. I wouldn’t mind my child living at home for a while if they were working or in school, and if they were really trying to move forward but were unable to leave just yet.
No kids are equal, all will just do as they please really. I’ll love my kiddo whether he or she plays with whatever! You can’t plan genders, and can only plan amounts to a certain degree. So I’m just going to have however many suits what I feel is right at the moment. I’m sure my children will learn to get along if I raise them right, even if they are entirely different people. My boys can play with barbies, my girls with trucks and lego’s. Or both. Me myself, I always had Barbies and G.I. Joe’s. My barbies always married G.I. Joe lol, and drove away into the distance in Barbies remote control pink corvette convertible. LOL! My brothers even played that with me when I was little… the remote control car was always a big hit. I loved lego’s, I loved trucks, I loved dolls. Well rounded