hello lovely parentberries! im so excited to be posting within the walls of your beautiful castle, and I come humbly seeking your wisdom and advice.
I have recently decided to set the goal of having a baby (or be in the process of conceiving) by the time I turn 30, which will be in 2029. at the moment, it’s quite a vague goal, and I want to set some concrete steps that I can reach on my way to being ready to have a baby. so I would love to know what goals you had or have set before becoming a parent!
im especially interested to hear from single parents by choice! while im not set on being a smbc, im prepared to be one, since I haven’t had much dating success and I don’t want a partner to make or break my goal.
marriage
eta, because ive repeated myself a few times now. I completely understand if marriage is on your personal checklist, and if that’s the case, do include it! I want to hear everything! but please don’t use it to influence its inclusion on my list.
I have my entire life to find a spouse. im bound by time to have biological children.
currently, im working on a master’s degree, working part-time, and living at home, which already presents 3 steps on my way to being a mom:
- finish my degree (sub-goal: feel in control of my student loans)
- transition to working full-time (sub-goal: be working towards publishing a novel, at the least, since this is my dream career)
- move out of my parent’s house (and move out of state, because I don’t feel safe raising my family in my current state)
now I turn it over to you, and what goals you had/have set (or that you wish you had set) before becoming a parent.
thank you!