Petty or not, yes, I would definitely be offended. I post my top choice for each gender in my signature so people can get a bit of a sense of my style, and maybe they’ll understand where I’m coming from. I’m sure there might be an [name]Isabelle[/name] [name]Aurora[/name] [name]Grace[/name] or a [name]Caleb[/name] [name]Elias[/name] [name]Joseph[/name] out there somewhere, but none that I’ve met so far. I google my top choices fairly regularly and one thing about them I love is that despite the fact that at least one of the names is fairly common (and even [name]Isabelle[/name] [name]Grace[/name] and [name]Caleb[/name] [name]Joseph[/name] are fairly generic/popular as combos), the full names haven’t been posted or used by anyone else that I can find on a google search. I like that the full name is less expected. I could care less if someone else loves the FNs I’ve picked out (in fact, when I come across someone else on Nameberry that loves [name]Isabelle[/name] or [name]Caleb[/name], I’m rather pleasantly surprised, lol)–there are hundreds of Calebs and Isabelles in the world. But at least show me the common courtesy of saying, “Hey, [name]Ashley[/name], I really love your choice for a girl and I’ve absolutely fallen in love with it–would you mind if I added it to my own list?” I would do that for anyone’s combo I fell in love with–enough that I would actually use it–and I expect no less from anyone else.
Is it petty? Absolutely. But I’m quite attached to my name and I feel like it would be pretty ridiculous to never post about my names, never ask for advice, just because I don’t want someone to steal my name.
On another forum there was another poster who had fallen in love with [name]Isabella[/name] and [name]Aurora[/name], and she knew that another member of the site loved them both (me), and she wanted to make sure she wasn’t stealing if she added [name]Isabella[/name] [name]Aurora[/name] or [name]Aurora[/name] [name]Isabella[/name] to her list. I was quite honored that she’d asked (and I told her so), and I told her she was more than welcome to it, but that yes, I would be a little bit sad if she used it because it was practically my top choice and [name]Isabelle[/name] [name]Aurora[/name] [name]Grace[/name] wouldn’t be quite as special to me anymore, knowing that someone else might have the name. She ultimately decided to go for a family name with [name]Isabella[/name] ([name]Isabella[/name] [name]Raye[/name] or something, I think?), so it was all settled, but yeah, I was surprised to find myself so disappointed about it. I always thought I would be completely honored to have someone love my choice so much that they would want to use it (and I really was very honored), and I didn’t expect to feel how utterly special [name]Isabelle[/name] [name]Aurora[/name] [name]Grace[/name] has become to me.
Between relatives and friends and such, I’m not quite as fussed. I don’t tell family members or friends full combos (I doubt anyone really knows my top 10 besides my family, who knows I love [name]Isabelle[/name] and [name]Caleb[/name]). [name]Every[/name] time someone I know gets pregnant, I cross my fingers that they don’t use [name]Isabelle[/name]/[name]Isabella[/name], [name]Olivia[/name], [name]Avery[/name], or [name]Bailey[/name], which seem to be the most likely to get stolen, but it happens. My cousins have all used [name]Benjamin[/name], [name]Emma[/name], and [name]Lyla[/name], and [name]Benjamin[/name] and [name]Emmeline[/name] were my top two choices at one point, and [name]Lila[/name] was on my top 10 at one point, as well. It happens and I move on. It’s not like they knew and were trying to steal my favorites–they just really liked them.