Hey everyon, I hope this topic isn’t too controversial (especially since I’m sure we all agree on how important the names of things are), but I wanted to start a conversation around renaming the Momberies category to something more gender inclusive?
The Momberries content is great, but I think it would be nice if the name included fathers that are on the forums, and parents of all genders. I know there are a lot of LGBTQ people on here (especially teens) and it would be great to be inclusive of everyone interested in talking about parenting or starting a family.
Parentberries does’t have quite the same ring to it though, any ideas on a better name for the category? What are your thoughts on making the name more gender inclusive?
I really love this idea! I think Parentberries works just fine. It probably would start to sound natural within a few days, even if it’s the tiniest bit clunky now, and regardless I think it’s worth it for the inclusivity!
It makes me happy to see this brought up! I agree Parentberries would likely be the best bet. I thought of Renberries, as “[name_u]Ren[/name_u]” is used as a neutral term for parent when necessary, but I don’t think that would be universally known.
Parent Place and Parent Central also come to mind (:
Fantatic! This is so exciting! Thanks @katinka for being so reseptive, and thanks to everyone for also being exited about renaming the category and making suggestions! It’s very welcoming to see a gender inclusive space <3
I thought there was already a LGBT space/thread for this community on here ( nameberry) I’m all for gender inclusivity but I don’t think I have actually met a dadberry on here. ( Would love to meet some)
Also where am I meant to discuss miscarriage/stillbirth/periods/c sections now? All of which I would feel a bit uncomfortable discussing with men? Because they would no doubt find that biologically unrelatable.
Maybe there can be a thread for pregnant and birthing parents of all genders as a place to relate to people with shared experiences, who may or may not be moms!
Maybe some of the moms liked a place for moms just like the teens like a place for teens though?
I can definitely understand wanting to include other people in the broad topic as there are many threads in there but I don’t really see a need to make the TTC part “accommodating” to young teenberries. [name_u]Or[/name_u] to men really. Because some women discuss personal things on there and even though it’s open to the internet and we know that, it’s still different knowing you are talking to other women and presumably not someone really young or a man.
Exactly. I feel if we’re looking to address those with “shared experiences” maybe add a PrideBerries and/ or Teenberries but there is something lost by taking away Momberries. IMO at least.
trans men and queer parents also may experience the same issues cis moms face! By changing the name to parentberries, it feels more inclusive and might eliminate anxiety for other parents over using a thread just for “moms”.
I think making things more inclusive is never a negative thing, personally. Also, I have definitely seen dads and other parents using Nameberry! To me, they shouldn’t have to feel excluded by forcing them to use a separate thread entirely.
Also, most people on the parentberries thread will most likely be parents/parents to be (not young people), and therefore are adults who are capable of being respectful and such about sensitive topics.
of course, this is just my opinion!! [name_m]Just[/name_m] wanted to make people aware of some things they maybe hadn’t thought of.
Very well said! Definitely think within the newly renamed Parentberries section that individual threads can be posted to allow more privacy concerning personal health (: I thank the Mods for considering this critique and coming up with a speedy solution. It’s the small things! (:
The Momberries section has always been for any topics related to parenthood or parenting, so for me, Parentberries better reflects what the category as a whole is there for.
Yes, there are a lot of topics in there that are specific to pregnancy and birth, but there are also topics that aren’t (or shouldn’t be) just the mother’s concern: sleep training, childcare, adoption, etc. Naming the whole category Momberries seems to me to perpetuate the idea that parenting, all of it, is “woman’s work”.
There is no reason why any of the content posted in that category needs to change. All topics posted there have always been publicly visible and people have stuck to the threads that directly concern them. I don’t feel that renaming the category will cause men and teenagers to start posting in the pregnancy and birth threads, any more than they do now.
