So sorry @_thelittlefairywren 
I hope this works out for you soon!
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Yes, I hope we can start around the same time too so we can go through all the two week wait stuff together 
But I also hope you get a positive on the first month and don’t have to wait. 
Another part of DH’s hesitancy is that he’s convinced we’re going to have twins again (and actually wants twins again) so he’s not wanting the boys to be too young. I’m thinking the next one will be a singleton and I’d like them close in age but I do understand. If we wait until [name_u]December[/name_u] or [name_u]January[/name_u] to start the boys will definitely be over 3 and maybe closer to 3 1/2 by the time another gets here. We’ll see what happens but I’m thinking [name_u]November[/name_u] at the earliest and [name_f]February[/name_f] at the latest as I’ll be 35 in [name_f]February[/name_f]. 
[name_f]Glad[/name_f] your boys are doing well! 
I’m about to start some preschool stuff with mine this month too. I’ll probably start with three days a week since they’re only 2.
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@_thelittlefairywren I’m so sorry, no matter how early it is, its a loss and it hurts. I hope things go different next time! We are here for you if you need us.
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@_thelittlefairywren I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you so much love.
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@hyacinthbucket
@AlSP
@Kiriko
@LiliMorgana
@sarah1800
Thanks for the love, ladies 
I’m not feeling too bad today. Out to lunch with hubby in the lovely spring weather - a good distraction. 
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Hi everyone, I’ve been MIA for a while. Congratulations to all the positives and hugs to losses, I had one as well in [name_u]March[/name_u] and it was very emotional. Take it easy on yourself, our rainbows will come.
We are still trying, on cycle #9 this month. I made an appointment with the obgyn last week just to see what is up. He told me I was healthy and nothing that should be preventing me from getting pregnant and to keep trying. He actually told me to have more sex lol. [name_f]My[/name_f] husband and I are finally going on our honeymoon next week (been postponed twice already because of covid) so I’m hopefully getting away and having a change of scenery and a vacation might help us out.
How is everyone doing?
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@PrincessShannon Fingers crossed for a honeymoon baby for you! I know a few people that have tried for a while and finally conceived while on holidays. It seems that getting away from the general demands of life can genuinely help. Good luck!
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@PrincessShannon good luck!! That’s such great news about your appointment, I hope you get a honeymoon baby.
I have an appointment with the obgyn next week, I feel a bit anxious about it because as a doctor I don’t like to be examined by colleagues, silly as it sounds… I actually booked an appointment with a private obgyn (even though I have all free appointment I want in my hospital) but still this doctor works at my hospital in the mornings. I know this sounds so crazy, but I don’t feel comfortable with people knowing im ttc 
anyway that should be the least of my worries.
AF should be arriving in a couple of days, I think I feel ready to try again next month!
Good luck to everyone!
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@AlSP I can totally understand that. I’d find that situation odd too!
Hey! I’m joining the party a bit late, but I hope that’s okay. [name_f]My[/name_f] name is [name_f]Pernille[/name_f], an absurdly Scandinavian name, so with [name_f]English[/name_f]- speaking friends I just go by [name_u]Penny[/name_u]. I’m Norwegian and my boyfriend is Danish.
This is our first month trying to have a baby, and I’m trying to be chill about it, but no luck! Hah! I’m not familiar with all of the terms and everything used in here, but I’m happy to have found a place to go with all of this.
I hope all of you are doing okay! Sending lots of positive vibes from the far north.
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@pennysola [name_m]Hi[/name_m] [name_u]Penny[/name_u]! [name_f]Welcome[/name_f] to the group! I’m [name_f]Karrah[/name_f]. Definitely never too late to join! Good luck on your TTC journey!
@pennysola [name_f]Welcome[/name_f]! I’m [name_f]Lili[/name_f]. Wishing you lots of luck going forward! It’s so hard to be chill about any of it, haha. I never am!
@_thelittlefairywren, @LiliMorgana. Thank you!
It might just be me, and obviously it’s better to get pregnant when you’re actually ready and want it, but sometimes I wish I had just “gotten pregnant”, like some of my friends, instead of actually trying. It adds a whole new level of anxiety for me. I have an obsessive personality, so after we decided to try, I’ve just been reading and reading- and, oh my god, there are so many things that can go wrong! I’m also struggling with not expecting it to work the first time, even though I know, logically, that it most likely won’t. I think I’m just too excited and nervous to function properly.
I’m also way too invested in the name already, and my bf- a pragmatist (yikes😂)- is like “we cannot talk about this for an hour every day when there’s not even a baby to name!”
So, yeah. Rant over. Sorry it got long. I feel like I come off as really whiny and childish, but I swear I’m usually not! 
@pennysola I didn’t think you came off that way at all! I’ve been really lucky with my previous pregnancies–didn’t try for very long and they were all healthy, no complications. It remains to be seen what will happen this time around. But some people conceive right away, others don’t and there’s no way to know what camp you’ll be in so like everything else in life I would just hope for the best and brace for the worst. Hopefully it won’t take you very long and things will go smoothly. We always pick our names before I’m pregnant more or less (although sometimes things change) so you’re in good company on a baby naming site! I’m sure many here are the same!
My husband and I have been trying since [name_u]March[/name_u]…we are hoping that this month will be “the one!” 
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We are doing 2 days a week for about an hour, hour and a half. It is mostly stuff we were already doing but it is good to have a specific day and time for it (when the babe is sleeping). It has been great so far.
@PrincessShannon, I hope your honeymoon does the trick.
@AlSP, that is totally understandable you don’t really want your business everywhere around the hospital.
@pennysola, I love the name [name_f]Pernille[/name_f] (and [name_f]Petronille[/name_f] and Perenelle). Good luck trying to be chill. This process is so much…
I’m [name_f]Lilian[/name_f].
@Marae_Grace1, welcome.
I’m getting very excited. [name_m]Just[/name_m] one more full cycle until we start (my penultimate cycle is wrapping up in a few days). I’m feeling much more ready than I was 3 months ago when we really ramped up our pre-TTC prep. I think this last month will be the hardest to sit still on my hands but also think it is best to still wait as planned.
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@Marae_Grace1 Hello! [name_f]Welcome[/name_f] to the group! 
I’m sorry it’s been a bit of a long journey for you. Fingers crossed for this cycle!
@hyacinthbucket Oh! Getting close! 
I do feel this on some level. I also find myself feeling a bit mad or resentful about people that have an “oops” encounter and end up with a baby. Like seriously, how unfair does that seem! If it helps, I’ve found the emotions do settle a bit if it takes more than a couple of cycles - I was super nervous about everything the first cycle, now I feel more content and stable.
Aww, I’m sorry your partner doesn’t want to talk about names. I am blessed with a husband that loves names, so we can never talk about it too much.
@LiliMorgana Thank you for that!
@hyacinthbucket That’s so cool! [name_f]My[/name_f] grandmother has always called me [name_f]Petronella[/name_f], and her name is [name_f]Lillian[/name_f]. I’ve always loved that name, and I thought about [name_f]Lilith[/name_f] for a girl, but my sister named her baby Lilje (the Norwegian word for [name_f]Lily[/name_f]), and we’re extremely close, so it might be too much [name_f]Lil[/name_f].
Good luck with your trying (and waiting)!
@_thelittlefairywren Yes, exactly! I mean, on some level it does add stress waiting to see if your period comes and being hyper- aware of “symptoms”. The days are just dragging! Fingers crossed the next two weeks will fly by.
That’s so great about your husband! [name_f]My[/name_f] boyfriend is very patient, but I can tell he’s not really invested yet, you know? It’s just not real for him. We also have the added challenge that the name needs to work in both our languages and in [name_f]English[/name_f], which makes me feel like I have to settle in some way. If we were [name_f]English[/name_f]- speaking, I’d have the names done, but both Norwegian and Danish are so particular, and more different than you’d think, which makes it hard.
@Marae_Grace1 [name_f]Welcome[/name_f]! I hope this is your month, too!
@pennysola That does sound like a naming challenge! I’ve only ever had to worry about it from an [name_f]English[/name_f] perspective, I can’t even imagine. I would hate to have to let go of a name we both agreed on because it wasn’t a fit internationally. I hope you can find something you love that ticks all of your boxes.
CD13 today. I had a positive opk yesterday so fingers crossed something is going on in there. I’m lucky I checked throughout the day or I would have missed it completely, so I wonder if that’s what happened last month, who knows. If things don’t happen in the next few months I might try temping but opks were always helpful in the past, so I’m just hoping that’s enough. I guess we’ll see.
How is everyone else doing? I know some of you are ahead of me cycle-wise.
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@LiliMorgana Yes! I’ve already had to give up on my number one names. If I only had the [name_f]English[/name_f] perspective I’d use [name_f]Persephone[/name_f] for a girl and [name_m]Llewellyn[/name_m] for a boy, and they just - do not- work here. I’m sure we’ll find some great names anyway, though.
I’m not familiar with all the abbreviations you’re using, but I think I get the gist. Good luck to you! I hope it works and sticks!
I’m just waiting for the days to pass until I can take an early test. I’m so nervous and hyper aware of my body all the time, but this is the first time, so I guess the the not knowing about anything plays a part in that and will calm over time.
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