@thelittlefairywren: thank you! My knee is still very swollen, but the pain is not as bad anymore. I’ll just have to give it time.
@sunkissedchild: welcome back! I love your sons’ names by the way, they’re absolutely perfect.
[name_m]How[/name_m] is everyone going with all the crazy?? It’s all a bit overwhelming… 
I can’t get it off my mind what it all might mean for our TTC plans. I just hope it all settles down sooner rather than later.
@rosebeth - [name_m]How[/name_m] is your knee going?
We are in the same boat - I can’t stop thinking about TTC plans. My husband (33) and I (30) were discussing TTC around [name_u]August[/name_u], to give us time to sort our finances and our health, but now he’s been laid off because of the pandemic and I’m feeling so conflicted…
Is it absolutely insane of me to want to start TTC RIGHT NOW? Some thoughts:
- I feel that we are fairly financially stable even with his layoff (which will hopefully be relatively short)
- I was hoping to lose some weight first - I’m 5’4" and about 160. I was hoping to get back down to 130 (wedding weight) before TTC
- We deliberately delayed TTC until I was 30 and we had stable employment/salaries, but now…all of the uncertainty and fear in this moment has me finally realizing for the first time that it’s true - the time will never be 100% right. Maybe I should stop trying to micromanage life (finances, age, weight, etc.) and just embrace the moment? Is my window of opportunity closing in on me without me even realizing it?
I’d love some thoughts from others - I can’t stop thinking/dreaming about babies right now, but it feels so “wrong” with the current situation of the world!
With everything going on and no idea of how long it will be until things settle, our TTC plans are on hold (best case scenario), and if things go on too long, we may not have another one. I’m still trying to process that: because of the pandemic, my family might be complete. I’m turning 34 this year and we wanted a small age gap between our last two if possible. She’s already 9 months old. So my window is rapidly closing and if we have to wait for a vaccine, that could be months, best case scenario.
I would not want to be pregnant right now, having to go into the hospital for blood work and medical buildings for OB appointments. My sister-in-law is due any day and they aren’t allowed visitors at the hospital. [name_m]Just[/name_m] one support person. There isn’t a lot being said about whether pregnant women are more at risk, but there was a report from the UK of a mother transmitting the virus to their baby during birth, and there are so many risks for a fetus and newborn already. I just don’t want to risk it if I don’t have to. I’m worrying enough about my children as it is.
Economically, financially–that’s a whole other concern. It seems things are still ramping up every day and there’s no way of knowing how things will go yet, or for how long, before they settle.
@jbenn656 I completely understand wanting to TTC anyway, and many in isolation may find themselves pregnant anyway, right? But just try and separate head and heart and see what makes sense for you. Maybe I’m being too cautious, I don’t know. This is just what we’ve decided and I’m heartbroken at the thought that we might be done, or at the very least, my littlest doesn’t get a sibling close in age like her brothers do, but this isn’t within our control. I would take the time to lose the weight and see what happens between now and [name_u]August[/name_u]. [name_m]Don[/name_m]'t take it off the table, just put it to one side while you wait and see. Things might be much better by then, or much worse, and your decision may be easier to make by that time.
Yeah, it’s been crazy around here. My state is on a lockdown and my fertility clinic cancelled all treatment starts. So, we’re on pause until they decide to start back up. I think we’ll go back to the natural way of trying (we’ve done one IUI).
I’m wishing you all luck and relaxation during these crazy times.
@jbenn656 - I totally understand your feelings, and honestly have had many of the same thoughts (would it really be that bad??). So I completely resonate with you. However, I’ve doing my research and pregnancy puts you in the “vulnerable” category for the virus, regardless of your age and health otherwise. I can’t bring myself to do that even though I feel like a baby would be a great and happy distraction from everything. I would never forgive myself if something happened to myself or the baby, because I was too impulsive. In general, I’d say learning to micromanage less is a good thing, but right now with everything happening I’d say using extra wisdom and caution in these decisions is mandatory. I agree with @lilimorgana - I would focus on your pre-TTC goals, as you were going to, and see how things go.
@lilmorgana - That’s such a hard call to possibly be making. I really feel for you. Hopefully this isn’t the end of your baby making journey, but I admire your ability to think logically and accept that it might be.
@beccasto - I sorry your appointments have been cancelled. That’s frustrating.
Hi ladies!
Just wondering… does anyone else have the last selection of posts from this thread missing?? 
The last post showing in the thread for me is from March 25, but I know there’s been a bunch since. Nothing I’ve done has made them visible. I’m guessing a glitch…?
Anyway, I hope everyone is well and staying safe! And having fun with the forum layout! 
I have the same problem. I’m not used to the new lay out yet, I find it very confusing. I guess it’ll just take some time to get used to.
@Rosebeth I spent a couple hours navigating my way around things last night. I quite like the new set up, but it will take some getting used to. There were a few times that things stopped working, but I guess that’s to be expected with any big change. Hopefully the kinks get ironed out over the next little while.
I am 30 and DH is 28. We have a 3 year old son, and miscarried our second [name_u]Jan[/name_u] 2019. We have been TTC on and off since then…maybe 11-12 months total. Praying daily for our rainbow baby! With our first two we got pregnant in just a couple months, tops. I want to go in and have us tested for infertility but not sure because our insurance won’t cover it. I’m also wondering if maybe there are some complications from the D&C I had after my miscarriage (it was a missed miscarriage…only found out at an ultrasound where there was no heartbeat).
Wishing sticky baby dust for everyone TTC! I had wanted there to be about 2 years in between children and had wanted like 3-4 but my world was rocked and I realize it’s not up to me.
[name_m]Hi[/name_m] @ladyhope! [name_f]Welcome[/name_f] to the group! 
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, and do hope you get your rainbow soon! 
If you don’t mind me asking, are you doing anything to track your cycle in order to time activities for the best chance of conception? I only ask because I know a lot of people that assume they have fertility troubles, but they are actually just missing the window.
If you think there might have been a problem with your D&C, then I would speak to your specialist. It’s better to ask and know, then wonder. If you get the all clear, then you can move on to other possibilities.
I’m sorry the insurance limits make it hard to get fertility testing, that’s unfortunate and frustrating. You could try some “at home” methods like tracking cycles to make sure your ovulate regularly and check ejaculate under a microscope for motility.
Good luck, and baby dust to you too!! 
Hello, everyone!
[name_f]Laura[/name_f] here—I remember several of your from the TTC 2017/18 threads!
We’re hoping for a late spring/early summer 2021 baby, so we’re planning to start TTC in [name_u]July[/name_u]/[name_u]August[/name_u]. It took 5 cycles the first go around—here’s to hoping we get lucky in the first couple shots this time!
A quick intro: I’m a PhD candidate in Religion writing my dissertation while teaching university courses. [name_f]My[/name_f] husband is a PhD student in Healthcare Ethics. We’re both turning 30, and our first child, a son, was born in 2018. Barring something unplanned, this will be our last child, so I’m trying to savor the whole experience.
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@thelittlefairywren: my knee is much better. Still a bit swollen, but the pain is almost gone.
@lilimorgana: that’s such a difficult decision to make! I’m sure that whatever you decide will be the best choice for your family, but I know it’s hard.
Today is the last day of my period, so it’s about time we decided if we want to start TTC this month or maybe wait a little longer. I’m not sure what to do with the pandemic and everything surrounding it. Financially we should be fine, we’re both still working (but mostly from home). Everything just feels strange right now, I’m not able to visit my parents and the schools are closed, so my oldest son is at home all the time and we keep our youngest at home from daycare as often as possible. We’re both feeling a bit unsure, but I think we’ll agree on just not using birth control and seeing what happens for now.
@jbenn656 I say just go for it. We found out we were expecting the first week of [name_u]March[/name_u] and here in NZ the whole Covid19 thing didn’t really kick off until the last week of [name_u]March[/name_u]. So far nothing has changed for me. I’m a teacher so schools are closed anyway- helpful since pregnancy puts you in the vulnerable category. Prenatal care has been the same except that some midwife check ups are done over the phone rather than in person. The thing I’m saddest about is that unless lockdown is lifted my husband won’t be able to come to our first scan with me. Since it’s our first baby that’s pretty gutting- I also used to work for a scan clinic so know that for lots of women the don’t get good news and my husband not being there for that scares me. So fingers crossed lockdown is lifted here before the 11th of [name_f]May[/name_f]!! Aside from that though, this pregnancy has given us something really positive to focus on and given us a purpose for the year
Hey everyone!
[name_f]My[/name_f] husband and I are having such a hard time deciding what to do with our TTC plans considering the pandemic ” [name_f]April[/name_f] was going to be our first month of trying. Not until toward the end of the month, so we still have some time…but everything keeps changing so quickly.
Financially, we have been really lucky and are both still receiving full pays and working from home. That really isn’t our worry at this point.
[name_f]My[/name_f] husband is a risk taker. He says no time will ever be perfect and we could be trying for a while, so why not start?
I’m much more cautious. I worry about the risk of all the extra appointments, having to attend appointments alone and my husband missing out on ultrasounds. Not being able to see my family in person to even tell them when we are pregnant. [name_m]How[/name_m] long this will go on for and if it is going to come back. What will happen to the larger US economy over time and will we be impacted…so many things.
Am I making myself crazy? I tried to ask my doctor but she really didn’t provide that much insight. She said at this point they don’t know direct risks to those who are pregnant and that it’s a personal decision. Ugh. I just want someone to tell me a definite yes or no ”
@sarahjane congrats! What an exciting time. Fingers crossed your partner can attend the scan!
Yeh this whole pandemic thing definitely changes things a bit doesn’t it?
Sounds crazy, but while I wasn’t planning on ttc until Nov, or Aug at the very very earliest, in a way this is making me consider earlier, as the extra time at home with the child I’ve already got is making me see what I’m missing out on being back at work full time… makes me want to cut down on work to spend more time as a stay-at-home-parent with her, and if I’m staying home anyway, may as well finish my family while I’m at it so I can then get back to my career again once the kids are older…? Is that ridiculous?
With a pandemic at large and a global recession just beginning, and the fact my first baby was iugr so I may again need additional obstetric care which last time meant loads of additional hospital appointments and growtj scans and monitoring… at a time when they’re trying to avoid any unnecessary appointments and midwife appts are mostly via video link… and also when quite frankly my local materntiy unit is massively understaffed and I suspect underfunded… it doesn’t seem like a wise decision?
On the other hand IS there ever a good time? We had our first when my partner and I were both in good jobs and had purchased our own home. Then unexpectedly when I was 28 weeks BOTH our jobs were up in the air - jis workplace was undergoing a merge and restructure, mine needed to lose some staff. We both kept our jobs, but the uncertainty was pretty unsettling.
I’m the mom of a just turned 6 month old. And I am breastfeeding, but we are trying to conceive whenever we have a moment to do that sort of thing. I have not had my cycle back so I assume I’ll have to wait till that returns unless we catch the egg as they say.
But we want to add one more to complete our family. I’m 40 so I want to do it ASAP. I’d have 2 more if I could but I don’t think my Cardiologist would approve
@ael: I’m having the same doubts, as I wrote in my previous post. But we decides to go for it anyway. [name_m]Just[/name_m] like you I’m more of a cautious person while my SO is less concerned about most things. I agree that no time is perfect, you just need to do what feels right. For us it’s not our first (it would be my third child and SO’s second), and going to appointments on my own doesn’t really scare me. Also, I work at a hospital, so it doesn’t feel quite so scary for me going there.
@jackiebroadway: my youngest is 6 months old too. I’m not breastfeeding and my cycle is regular again, so we have a pretty good idea of when to “try”.
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I understand everyone’s reservations about ttc right now. We’d planned to try next month but have decided to hold off until [name_u]June[/name_u] just to be on the safe side. We still plan to try though. Our twins are going to be 2 in [name_u]July[/name_u] and we want them all to be close in age.
Good luck to everyone!
We have officially decided to start trying! [name_f]April[/name_f] will be our first month and I’m super excited about even making the decision. I initially really wanted to postpone with the pandemic but a lot of my anxiety has disappeared for some reason and it just feels right. We are going in with low expectations of it happening quickly so we will wait and see I guess!