24 with my first, 25 with my second
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Congratulations @trixiehobbit
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In my mom side of the family people tend to have children very young and in my dad side they tend to have children very āoldā, I say this because in my country 30s-40s is considered having them too old, itās very common in my culture to have kids young and for my race (indigenous) thereās a high chance of teen pregnancy (my mom fell to that, though she came out strong), she ended having 5 kids each 4/3 years apart after! Ultimately I donāt think age matters when having a child and I hope stigmatization can be removed on that! I think when youāre with a stable income and with a stable partner it be ideal, but itās not always like that, and whenever youāre ready and when you do have a child whatever age that is, is the right age for you and what was intended!
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I was twenty years old with my first daughter!
I fell pregnant at 22 but gave birth at 23.
Got pregnant at 23, will give birth at 24.
The plan is to have #1 at 32 and #2 at 36. Im currently undergoing IVF now (29). I have a feeling that once I know Iāve got embryos in the freezer waiting will be even harder. I was definitely one of those people who wanted kids young but I also want to have my house finished being built and a more stable job.
Iām due in early 2021. Depending on when theyāre born, Iāll be either 32 or 33. Probably 32 cause twins come early.
I was the very young age of 14 with my daughter, [name_u]Ruby[/name_u].
I am 16 now, and pregnant with my second, a boy, and by then I will be 17.
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Going to be 25! [name_m]Can[/name_m]āt wait!
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Yes, thankfully I have the help of my mother and my aunt.
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This thread really summarizes the worries and pressure women have to conceive between a certain age. It seems like most women who have babies after 28 have to add an excuse. Or, they talk about how they wish they werenāt so old.
Letās be kinder to ourselves. āOlderā parents have a lot of benefits. Also, when it comes to health and energy, I know plenty of people, myself included, who are healthier and happier at 30 than they were at 20.
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Thank you for this 
Just realized Iāve been following this thread but never posted 
If I conceive in [name_u]January[/name_u]/February as planned, I will be 29 with my first (hopefully my only bio kid, but who knows what life has planned)
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Baby 1 is due a week before my 30th birthday! So hoping to still be 29 when she is born!
Hubby is 32.
I started fostering my oldest at 26. [name_f]My[/name_f] first bio baby came at 29.
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@LaurenAlexis [name_f]My[/name_f] daughter was born the day before my 29th birthday, so juuuuuust made it in to 28!
Iāll have just turned 32 once #2 comes in [name_u]September[/name_u] 
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#1. 21
#2. 22
#3. Almost 24
#4. 30
#5. 32
#6. Almost 36
Hoping to go for for a #7 soonāIāll be 38 this spring.
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Agreed. There often seems to be a sense of dread about having kids after the age of 30 that oozes out of these threads. [name_u]Trust[/name_u] meāitās not so bad!
In case it helps to even out the perspective: I was 34 when I had my first, 35 when I had my second, and will be almost 38 when my third is born. We may still add one more! (Although 3 kids under 4 may be enough to keep us right there 
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Itās been fantastic having my kids in my 30s, and while there is no perfect formula or way to do it, I think I have experienced huge benefits financially, and loved having my 20s to focus on myself! Most people in my social circle are only now starting families in their mid-thirties, after pursing careers/education, while I have family members who have kids twice as old as mine and are ten years younger than me! There is no ārightā way to do it, and often things beyond our control determine the āchoiceā (when you meet your partner; unplanned pregnancy; readiness; fertility issues; etc)
All of which is to say: letās support each other and appreciate each womanās mothering journey, whether it starts at 21 or 41!
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Nicely said, @KateHaynes.
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