I prefer some but not all initials in a set matching to all initials matching. All often feels forced. Some but not all feels like something that occurs naturally.
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I donāt have anything against repeating initials when itās just a few out of many kids matching. I donāt even have anything against it when itās four or fewer kids in one sibset all with the same first letter. Itās not like it hurts anyone, and thereās plenty of room for telling them apart.
Itās more that growing up, it was such a clichĆ©. It is frankly a bit ridiculous when all the neighbourhood kids are playing, and 75 % of the the sibsets are like:
[name_m]Anton[/name_m] + [name_f]Alexandra[/name_f]
[name_f]Freja[/name_f] + [name_m]Filip[/name_m]
[name_m]Viktor[/name_m] + [name_f]Vilma[/name_f]
[name_f]Josefin[/name_f] + [name_f]Johanna[/name_f]
[name_m]Marcus[/name_m] + [name_u]Marie[/name_u] + [name_u]Max[/name_u]
[name_m]Lukas[/name_m] + [name_m]Ludvig[/name_m] + [name_m]Linus[/name_m]
It was to the point where kids who looked nothing alike were assumed to be siblings because they shared an initial. So thereās not really anything wrong with it, I just think itās a tired trope based on my own life experiences.
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This is hypothetical for me thus far, but having the oldest two have matching initials feels weirder and more limiting to me than initials repeating elsewhere within a sibset. I think because I would feel if thereās a third child that their name needs to fit this pattern that I might not want to continue. Having the initials be something like C., L. & C. or even C., L. & L. sits better with me than C., C. & L.
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This was actually my exact thought process when naming our second child! Our daughter is a C name and one of our top boy names is a C name. I donāt mind if we use that name for the next child (in our case, it would be C., E., and C.), so long as it wasnāt the first two children with the same initial haha.
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This might be the wrong place. (Please note that my device doesnāt support accents).
For me, [name_f]Aine[/name_f] and [name_f]Anya[/name_f] have very different vibes, based on appearance.
[name_f]Aine[/name_f] is delicate and sweet, and Anyaās bubbly and warm and slightly sassy.
The vibes by sound arenāt really strong.
Sorry for any typos.
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I wanna see women do more of the John Smith IV thing. We live in the 21st century, women have more liberties to choose to keep their maiden names and name their children with their maiden name, I wanna see more Jane Smith II and III happening
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Names I hate that everyone lovesā¦Olivia (Hate!), Meghan/Megan, [name_m]Christopher[/name_m], Christine/Christina, [name_m]Christian[/name_m], [name_f]Naveah[/name_f], [name_f]Clementine[/name_f] (itās an orange!), place names like [name_f]London[/name_f], [name_f]Paris[/name_f], [name_m]Dallas[/name_m], etc., naming your baby after a celebrity you like, such as [name_f]Lennon[/name_f], [name_f]Presley[/name_f], etc., or a popular character on a TV show.
Names I love that no one else seems toā¦I am a hardcore āGrandma/Grandpa Nameā fanatic! I love LOVE [name_m]Walter[/name_m], [name_m]Edgar[/name_m], [name_f]Agnes[/name_f], [name_f]Joan[/name_f], [name_f]Margaret[/name_f], etc. I also have a thing for 70s/80s girlās names like [name_f]Kelly[/name_f], [name_f]Jennifer[/name_f], [name_f]Heather[/name_f], [name_f]Jessica[/name_f], [name_f]Kimberly[/name_f], etc.
I detest traditionally masculine names like [name_m]James[/name_m] for a girl. There are enough unisex names like [name_f]Taylor[/name_f], [name_f]Morgan[/name_f], [name_m]Alex[/name_m], etc.
Iām not a huge fan of using a name that youāre just going to nickname, unless youāre using it for the purpose of family tradition. I understand it, but still am not a huge fan. I like the name [name_m]James[/name_m], but not [name_m]Jim[/name_m], [name_m]Robert[/name_m] but not [name_m]Bob[/name_m], [name_m]William[/name_m] but not [name_m]Bill[/name_m], [name_f]Catherine[/name_f] but not [name_f]Cathy[/name_f] or [name_f]Kate[/name_f], and so on.
I love flower names like [name_f]Iris[/name_f], [name_f]Violet[/name_f], [name_f]Daisy[/name_f], [name_f]Heather[/name_f], [name_f]Rose[/name_f], [name_f]Jasmine[/name_f]. I love virtue names like [name_f]Faith[/name_f], [name_f]Hope[/name_f], [name_f]Grace[/name_f], [name_f]Prudence[/name_f], but dislike [name_f]Charity[/name_f] and [name_f]Chastity[/name_f].
[name_f]My[/name_f] name crushes include [name_f]Marjorie[/name_f], [name_f]Rosemary[/name_f], and [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m].
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[name_m]Elijah[/name_m] for a girl is adorable
Also I dislike most girlās names, I like unisex names for girls more than things like [name_f]Mia[/name_f], [name_f]Mary[/name_f], [name_f]Emma[/name_f], [name_f]Ella[/name_f], [name_f]Sophie[/name_f], etc etc.
Give me [name_m]James[/name_m] or [name_m]Alex[/name_m] ANYDAY ^-^
Hot take today is that I really, really donāt like [name_f]Iris[/name_f]. I donāt know whether itās because of a bad association I have or the sound which I donāt find pretty at all! Another one is [name_m]Wilder[/name_m] - it just doesnāt make sense to me as I always want to say Will-Duh!
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I always said that when I see the name [name_m]Wilder[/name_m] my brain automatically wants to give it the middle name āBeestā.
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[name_f]My[/name_f] hot take of the day: I see the appeal of the name [name_m]Roman[/name_m]. I really do. But to me, I just cannot shake the association of it as a demonym. I donāt hear [name_m]Roman[/name_m] and think āthatās someoneās nameā, I hear āsomeone from Romeā. [name_m]Even[/name_m] though itās now in the top 100 in the US I still canāt shake this association - it sounds like naming your child Londoner, Parisian, Bostonian, etc.
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I feel the same way!! When I hear [name_m]Roman[/name_m] I just think of someone wearing a toga and sandals 
I like the ruh-MAN pronunciation because it feels more name-like, but RO-man is a no for me because of that!
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When I was in middle school, my social studies teacher (who taught about [name_m]Roman[/name_m] kings, [name_m]Roman[/name_m] Empire, etc) named his son [name_m]Roman[/name_m]. Their last name starts with a K, is a chess piece, and means male rulerā¦ He was the first person named [name_m]Roman[/name_m] Iād heard of and the name sounded so cliche/punny that it ruined all other uses of the name [name_m]Roman[/name_m] for me.
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I feel thereās a decent level of backlash on this site against people āplanningā nicknames for their names, the argument I usually hear being āyou canāt plan what theyāre going to go by!ā
While I do agree that you canāt (necessarily) plan a nickname, I think that if you love a name enough itās really okay!!
For example, I was imagining in my head having a daughter named [name_f]Augusta[/name_f] (for which my preferred nn is August) and for some reason in the scene I called her [name_f]Gussie[/name_f] (which is never ever a nn Iād consider), but it just seemed so sweet in the moment!! I think that planning for nicknames is totally fine, but even if it doesnāt work out for the child, youāre still going to love them (and their lovely name!!) just the same 
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I think people donāt like planning out nn when theyāre super stretchy and youāre only naming the kid to get to that specific stretchy nn. [name_f]Augusta[/name_f] nn [name_f]Gussie[/name_f] works fine and makes sense, [name_f]Ophelia[/name_f] nn [name_f]Opal[/name_f] not so much, even if itās cute
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i think thatās the problemā¦ sometimes when people plan nicknames it seems like they like the nickname a lot more than the actual name, so if it doesnāt work out itās not a great situation 
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Unrelated to the previous talk on nicknames, but I really think that choosing to go by an unintuitive nickname or going by a short completely different name as your ānicknameā should become normalized.
Iād love to do this, but am unfortunately not permitted to.
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The very best unrelated or very stretchy nicknames that Iāve encountered are completely unplanned and just happened when the kid was small based on their personality, funny stories, and their parents organically playing around with the sounds of the name when talking to the baby. Planning those ahead seems to take some of the magic out of bestowing a truly bizarre appellation on top of a more traditional name.
Occasionally stretchy nickname posts seem like they are trying to ahead of time plan things like Egg, Tuppy, Peachie, and Cricket (all used in my family for different people, with Peachie and Tuppy being used near exclusively, including in professional settings). You donāt need to name your baby something like Allegra or Gregory to justify why they answer to Egg as well as they do the name on their birth certificate. You just need a story and commitment to the bit.
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100% agree! [name_f]My[/name_f] sisterās name was chosen because of a nickname my mum really liked ā among other reasons obviously ā and funnily enough, she rarely ever uses that nickname and my sister gets called almost every other variant but. And despite all that planning around nicknames, majority of the time, she gets called [name_f]Lala[/name_f] (those letters arenāt even together in her name!)
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I found [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] in the boys section in my baby name book 
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