@Beort12 I can’t imagine, going through all that must be so hard. I hope it takes a turn for the better.
8 months in here, I know we should start thinking of seeing a fertility doctor but I’m not quite ready for that step yet.
Sending you best wishes @Beort12. Hopefully you get an answer soon and can take whatever the next step is going to be for you
Thanks all, I need to vent occasionally!
@Kibby I have been thinking about all options, but I think I need to try to practice patience…which clearly doesn’t come very easily. We have a consult with reproductive endocrinology in a couple months and we will go to that no matter what. Assuming we do the surgery we likely won’t see improvement for at least 3-6 months, and his numbers could continue to rise for up to a year. I don’t think I can mentally wait that long, but I think I need to push myself to be a little more restrained and at least wait a few months after the surgery to allow numbers to improve before we move forward with other options. I think what is hardest for me is that this is so different than what I imagined as far as timeline, at least. I spent months prepping to TTC myself, and had a decent idea that my fertility was okay at least on the basis of my cycle. Male fertility is a blind spot - this was a complete surprise. [name_f]My[/name_f] husbands parents had 5 children with no effort whatsoever. [name_f]My[/name_f] BIL and his wife got pregnant the second month they tried. I am really, really hoping for no genetic issue at least because that opens a whole other can of worms. We will see.
@Eirime I don’t think there is anything you “should” do when it comes to fertility and when to pursue treatment. I think it is an extremely personal decision. I also think it’s very reasonable to slowly start eliminating possible issues, and go from there. [name_u]Or[/name_u] not! 8 months is still not unreasonable in terms of length of time to try.
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@Beort12 It was pretty hard to keep it together. There was definitely some deep breathing that day on my walk home from work.
I’m sorry to read of your own struggles. I hope your journey gets easier. Long-term TTC is exhausting.
Nope, out again. BFN and then AF a few days late. I went back through my chart and realised I miscalculated by a few days anyway, so I was kind of hopeful over nothing.
I joined a FB group that is supposedly for kre8tiv name sightings and there are some doozies and some are hilarious, but so far today I’ve also seen people complain about Poet and Wednesday, and then someone posted this list and said they were “crazy”… maybe I’m in the wrong group 
I get there are some weird names out there, but these hardly qualify I would think (even for a non-Berry!)
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Ha! Whoever posted that list clearly isn’t in the UK - a good few of those I know littlies with those names and a few - [name_f]Daisy[/name_f], [name_u]Ivy[/name_u], [name_f]Isla[/name_f] - are even in our top 20. A couple of guilty pleasures for me there too. If those are crazy I’d love to know the poster’s idea of normal!
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I like so many of these 
I’m thrilled to see [name_f]Ginger[/name_f] on here!! [name_f]Byrdie[/name_f] is actually really fun with this spelling! [name_u]Quince[/name_u] is kinda cute and quirky. [name_f]Valli[/name_f] has always been a gp of mine! I’d love to meet a [name_f]Zinnia[/name_f].
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You’re definitely in the wrong group.
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Posting here, maybe prematurely, as my partner and I had intended to start trying to have a little sibling for #1 when my pack of birth control was finished…but now we all have Covid so it looks like TTC is second to feeling well enough to TTC.
We have talked about names in the past 18 months since our boy came along, but only girl names since partner is convinced that [name_m]Roland[/name_m] specifically needs a sister. His previous favourite [name_f]Meera[/name_f] feels a bit out of sync/mismatched with [name_m]Roland[/name_m] so he’s now on the possibility of [name_f]Margot[/name_f] as it comes from a similar era, has similar vibes and share the long O sound. I have mentioned 50/50 shot but thus far no boy names have emerged.
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I feel like people who arent in the ‘naming babies’ phase of life have no idea what names are actually popular for babies/toddlers currently…to say that [name_f]Stella[/name_f], [name_f]Luna[/name_f], [name_u]Hazel[/name_u] & [name_u]Ivy[/name_u] are weird when they all sit in the top 50 popular names (at least in the US) tells me they’re a little out of touch.
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Yeah, I left shortly after because I found the community aspect lacking… a lot of posters were crossing the line into bullying and so many people had no concept of names from outside their own language or culture. Some lovely Scandinavian and Icelandic named copped a hiding and that’s when I decided I was done. I know we all have a laugh over Jackson spelled with three x’s, but if you are being blatantly narrow sighted and judgemental of other cultures then I do not have time for you, sorry. That’s not it.
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Roland and Margot would be adorable together!
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I literally love all of these names. Why does [name_f]Ginger[/name_f] have to be an insult in Australia? I love it so much!
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As a ginger, I think [name_f]Ginger[/name_f] is a great name! 
I don’t get the hate either.
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We call red heads Gingers in Canada too but not in like a crazy derogatory way haha
Ginger still gives me Gilligans Island vibes but it’s also cute!!! I see like no issues with most of the names on that list, sometimes people are just judgey cause they are miserable ugh.
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@Beort12 - Honestly a breather and a step back to collect yourselves may not be a bad thing. We took a huge break from TTC and the stress of it and I’m definitely better for it. I’m not sure what our path forward looks like yet but I feel better and that alone feels better. I understand your frustration over everything and timelines for sure, it’s hard to quell that need/want for a baby!
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CD21 here, nothing to really report. I don’t own any pregnancy tests and that’s driving me a bit nutty, I just want to pee on a stick, but also know it’s way too early based on when I might have O’d. Been trying to encourage myself to go to a clinic to get my referral again but just haven’t yet 
Is it so bad to just, hope the next pregnancy goes well with no intervention?! But then I remember I have adenomyosis and a history where I should be monitored… ugh. Why can’t this be easier?!
I’ve gotten no where on names, stuck in the Ramsay/Bennett/Gideon/Evander sort of area but don’t really love anything. Completely unsure for girls, Philippa is still in the running but I’m on the fence and have no other real ideas. A former friend announced her baby name on social media recently and my best friend immediately messaged me to tell me AND to make fun of it. It wasn’t overly unusual but was a word name from a different culture that isn’t theirs (Japanese name for a very not Japanese family) She made some solid points but at the same time, I know my tastes run a bit off normal here, and I just wonder if she’ll do the same about whatever name I choose. She was really receptive to Pippa though when I’ve mentioned it, but you also don’t make fun of a name after a deceased relative lol. Who knows, I’m hoping for divine inspiration and maybe luck in finding the right names.
Maybe it’s harder because I know I’ll likely only ever name one baby when I thought I’d have 4? 
Edit to add- I just created a thread if anyone wishes to weigh in!
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Well I finally got my referral back to my fertility specialist going today, so hopefully I hear from them and get in soon. I’m CD25, negative tests, expecting my cycle to restart in the next couple days here. He goes back to work on the 15th so we’ve got one more shot before then.
How’s everybody else??
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I’m on CD27, so theoretically should be ovulating around now maybe?? Based on my previous cycle which was 40 days. I’ve been using ovulation test strips twice a day and yesterday they were the strongest they’ve been all cycle (gone back down today) but they also weren’t technically positive either… Haven’t been able to keep up with temp tracking for the last few days because I’ve had a really bad cold and can’t breath through my nose - meaning can’t keep the thermometer in my mouth long enough!
Based on my last cycle and the way this one has been going I think it’s another long one and I’m fairly confident ovulation has just happened or is about to happen. We’ve been trying to capitalise on that but also, we’ve both got really bad colds and I’m going away for a few days tomorrow. So I suppose we hope it was enough and then we wait.
Coming up on the 6th month of trying with no luck and feeling pretty bummed. If I’m right about my cycle I’ll almost definitely get my period on the same weekend I’m going to a friends baby shower. The friend knows about us trying and this is her rainbow baby after a late-term loss, I am thrilled for her, but we’ll see how my emotions do that weekend.
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I feel this. I have done many hold-it-together-now moments and the cried my eyes out in the car later. Being overjoyed for someone while grieving for yourself is such an odd ambivalence of emotions. Sending love. I hope the baby shower isn’t too hard on you. Xx
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We had a positive test today which I took because I’ve been inexplicably ravenous all week and my period was a day late, and I’m shocked and excited but all I can think about is work and how they will take it as I’ve not long started there. I had reasons to think it would take longer than it has. Do you have any experiences or advice to share with me? I don’t want to tell them for a few months yet but I know it’s going to make me anxious.
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@Elmtree-94 Congratulations! Wishing you a healthy pregnancy journey. 
Re work, my advice is: Life is more important than work and people are allowed to have babies. Your employer doesn’t own you, and if they give you drama over having a baby then I wouldn’t want to work for someone like that anyway.
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