I’ve had my girl name picked out for about a year (will start TTC in a few months) but now I’m having doubts. Which is very unexpected because I felt 100% sure for so long.
[name_f]My[/name_f] girl first name is [name_f]Lilith[/name_f]. I love this name and the meaning/mythology behind it. I’m aware that every character in TV, movies, and books with a [name_f]Lilith[/name_f] are villains or antagonists.
But my mom is hung up on [name_f]Lilith[/name_f] from [name_m]Frazier[/name_m]. I’ve never seen a full episode of the show, so I Googled this character. And I’m honestly surprised my mom dislikes her, maybe I should actually watch it, but the character is very intelligent, successful, independent, and no-nonsense - All things my mom has emphasized when she was raising me.
I will be a “single mother by choice” with a sperm donor. I’m not going to get into every single reason for this, but a big one is that I want to raise a child with my mom around. So my mom’s opinion is very close to the equivalent of a husband’s opinion in a traditional baby-making situation.
[name_f]My[/name_f] first question - Should I seriously reconsider the first name? I have several other names that I love, but my heart was really set on [name_f]Lilith[/name_f].
The other doubt I’m having is the middle name. [name_f]My[/name_f] mom’s name includes “rose,” and I want to honor her in the middle name.
But several of my friends have said that, if I name my child [name_f]Lilith[/name_f], they will call her [name_f]Lily[/name_f]. I know it’s a prettier name and rolls off the tongue easier, so I really don’t mind if she’s largely known as [name_f]Lily[/name_f].
[name_f]My[/name_f] second question - Is [name_f]Lilith[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f] too flowery? Especially if she goes by [name_f]Lily[/name_f]? I strongly dislike the double flower association (it feels so excessive to me) and have other names that I can use. But am I being too critical of it, since the name is [name_f]Lilith[/name_f], not [name_f]Lily[/name_f]?